I miss my wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never questioned her fidelity before. She said she was unhappy and became friends with a male coworker around the same time. I thought she was having an affair. I became anxious and began questioning her every time she checked her phone. She wouldn't/couldn't reassure me that there was nothing going on and at the same time she asked me for a separation. The anxiety continued and pushed her away further, and here I am now, missing the life we used to have and my children.

I have my flaws, I'm not perfect. But I'm loyal, moderately successful, and a great father to our children. I just want to work on myself and be the best husband and father I can be.

She was having an.affair and still is. Get a private investigator. You tipped your hand too early before you had evidence and she instituted countermeasures. Cheaters are clever but.most are arrogant.and get.careless. Moping around.like thus won't do you any good. You'd rather believe there's something wrong.with you than that she's cheating and.she's playing you. It's called gaslighting and very common.

[Anonymous]

The proof she's cheating is her asking for a separation and blaming it on your doubts. The separation makes it easier for her to f@ck.

GET A PRIVATE EYE. Most likely he will get evidence of cheating after a few days of surveillance if it even takes that long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But did he every ask her about her day while they were married? lot of damage to unpack here OP. Don't be naive.

You mean like this: Hi honey I'm home did you have a nice office sex romp with your male work friend today? You did? How nice. Is spaghetti OK?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ get a grip. Pump iron , grow some scruff on your face, drink whisky , smoke a cig ar, use a nice cologne , incall 2 hookers.

Then survey your world with a new perspective.

Damn fine advice.

Agree. Great advice. Really.

OP.. Are you accepting the answer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never questioned her fidelity before. She said she was unhappy and became friends with a male coworker around the same time. I thought she was having an affair. I became anxious and began questioning her every time she checked her phone. She wouldn't/couldn't reassure me that there was nothing going on and at the same time she asked me for a separation. The anxiety continued and pushed her away further, and here I am now, missing the life we used to have and my children.

I have my flaws, I'm not perfect. But I'm loyal, moderately successful, and a great father to our children. I just want to work on myself and be the best husband and father I can be.

So, in this separation, you gave her everything she wanted? You shouldn't be sitting around aching and pining for her, and you damn sure should not be missing your children. I would move the f*** back into the house and SHE can leave. Your anxiety didn't push her away. She's cheating. Go get those kids!

[Anonymous]

You never questioned her fidelity before, and she left you over this particular incident? And made you feel like the demise of the marriage was all your fault?

That’s a form of gaslighting, for sure. I’m not convinced you didn’t have reason to be insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The proof she's cheating is her asking for a separation and blaming it on your doubts. The separation makes it easier for her to f@ck.

GET A PRIVATE EYE. Most likely he will get evidence of cheating after a few days of surveillance if it even takes that long.

The op already said he’s separated. If his wife is seeing someone now, it probably won’t make a difference in terms of divorce.

[Anonymous]

Male work friend is ALWAYS the affair.partner. Although sometimes cheaters will give you the name.of the wrong guy to throw you off track.

In your wife's.mind she.thinks this.guy is going.to marry her after your divorce when in his view she's just the office whore.

I know that hurts and that's why you're coping yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The proof she's cheating is her asking for a separation and blaming it on your doubts. The separation makes it easier for her to f@ck.

GET A PRIVATE EYE. Most likely he will get evidence of cheating after a few days of surveillance if it even takes that long.

The op already said he’s separated. If his wife is seeing someone now, it probably won’t make a difference in terms of divorce.

Nice try, cheater. I know you're a cheater because only a cheater would try to dissuade someone in Ops shoes from trying to get to the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The proof she's cheating is her asking for a separation and blaming it on your doubts. The separation makes it easier for her to f@ck.

GET A PRIVATE EYE. Most likely he will get evidence of cheating after a few days of surveillance if it even takes that long.

The op already said he’s separated. If his wife is seeing someone now, it probably won’t make a difference in terms of divorce.

Nice try, cheater. I know you're a cheater because only a cheater would try to dissuade someone in Ops shoes from trying to get to the truth.

I know! Everybody knows that the PI isn’t for court. It’s to get the truth and get your reality back.

[Anonymous]

You need to move back in.

[Anonymous]

Op doesn't sound like he wants the truth. This is common. No one wants to believe the woman they thought loved them is a cheater. They'd the marriage ended because of some flaw in the victim. The cheater plays this to the hilt. Cheaters are like aliens in the shell of your former spouse. In all likelihood Ops wife cheated on him before maybe during the.marriage maybe while they were dating and he never found out. This time she got a bit careless triggering his intuition. GET A PRIVAYE EYE.

[Anonymous]

Can you text her with an inside joke the 2 of you had together? Get a bit of light humor going and a bit of a repitoire?

Maybe strike a conversation based on the kids? "Larla2 told me she did XYZ today. It was so hilarious! Do you remember the first time Larla1 did XYZ? We were laughing about it for days....by the way, I miss that."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you text her with an inside joke the 2 of you had together? Get a bit of light humor going and a bit of a repitoire?

Maybe strike a conversation based on the kids? "Larla2 told me she did XYZ today. It was so hilarious! Do you remember the first time Larla1 did XYZ? We were laughing about it for days....by the way, I miss that."

Creepy. I’m sure Roger from accounting she sees as her soul mate doesn’t have to do the pick me dance.

[Anonymous]

She is/was cheating on you!!!

Please get a pi