Not a bro Dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My WWII dad calls my son “buddy”, and so did my Jewish FIL and DH and none are “bros” by any stretch, and DS’s name isn’t Buddy either.

My dad always said “hey Buddy” whenever he saw one of his 5 grandsons. Not a bro grandpa.

That’s nice, but we are discussing terminology as used by the current generation. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

Utah Bro Dads are often married to mommy bloggers who spend a lot of time on Pinterest & seem to think they invented motherhood.

[Anonymous]

We have friends in SoCal and the man is definitely a bro dad. It's painful. He's nearly 45 years old yet dresses like a total "surfer dude." He's just trying way too hard. His (second) wife is much younger than him. She's pretty from afar, wears a ton of makeup, hair is always styled perfectly, wears super trendy clothes and is really fit (she was an NFL cheerleader). They chose trendy names for their kids.

I don't see many bro dads in DC - at least, not at my kids' school or our usual places.

[Anonymous]

The other type of dads I see a lot of are balding heavier guys with shaved heads and facial hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have friends in SoCal and the man is definitely a bro dad. It's painful. He's nearly 45 years old yet dresses like a total "surfer dude." He's just trying way too hard. His (second) wife is much younger than him. She's pretty from afar, wears a ton of makeup, hair is always styled perfectly, wears super trendy clothes and is really fit (she was an NFL cheerleader). They chose trendy names for their kids.

I don't see many bro dads in DC - at least, not at my kids' school or our usual places.

Might be painful for you, but obviously not for him as he’s married to a former NFL cheerleader.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other type of dads I see a lot of are balding heavier guys with shaved heads and facial hair.

I'm not seeing a ton of well-dressed, incredibly toned dads with a full head of hair and impeccable diction. Wonder why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a bro dad.

I have always dressed surfy.. Oneill, grayers, descendent of thieves, penguin,quick silver, tailorbird, new school ...

Grew up in Potomac but every summer at the beach ( I was a beach lifeguard and still surf). I knew Darren Star in HS and he based Beverly Hills 90210 on Churchill so I think Potomac had kind of a California feel at the time. I remember our quarterback senior year transferred in from LA and all my friends surfed or skateboarded.

I like the clothes.

Obviously, as you are still talking about them at your geriatric age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have friends in SoCal and the man is definitely a bro dad. It's painful. He's nearly 45 years old yet dresses like a total "surfer dude." He's just trying way too hard. His (second) wife is much younger than him. She's pretty from afar, wears a ton of makeup, hair is always styled perfectly, wears super trendy clothes and is really fit (she was an NFL cheerleader). They chose trendy names for their kids.

I don't see many bro dads in DC - at least, not at my kids' school or our usual places.

Might be painful for you, but obviously not for him as he’s married to a former NFL cheerleader.

Touche. Sounds like the guy's done pretty well for himself.

Dresses young. Active. Pretty wife who takes care of herself.

Man...what a horrible life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm from Southern California (Orange County area) and there's definitely a type of Bro Dad here. Basically, they dress like high school surfer boys but they are in their late 30s and have two kids.

Typical SoCal Bro Dad:
-Drives a lifted 4x4 pick-up truck with a Monster Energy sticker on the back window, blasting Sublime or System of a Down
-Always sporting a Hurley baseball cap with a flat rim
-A plaid Billabong button up shirt and dark colored pants are what he wears to "dress up" for holiday cards
-Vans sneakers
-Owns a few pairs of Dickies shorts
-"Vacations" consist of going to Glamis for off-roading, camping at Pismo Beach, or heading to Big Bear to snowboard on 6 inches of man-made snow in the freestyle park
-Constantly bitches about "how crowded SoCal has become" and un-ironically throws out a bit of casual racism by blaming "the Mexicans"

I've yet to find similar Bro Dads anywhere else in the U.S. It's a bizarre combination of privilege, Peter Pan syndrome, being culturally stuck in the late 1990s.

I lived in L.A. for a few years after college and met thousands of these dudes. They run the family restaurant or work for the old man's insurance agency or construction business. They have attractive wives and cute kids.

They tend to be incredibly kind because a) they have a pretty good life and they know it and b) they're laid back and not trying to jockey for status. Very much a "the more the merrier" type guy for welcoming new people.

Except Mexicans apparently.

No matter how friendly & laid back someone seems, it is impossible to be both racist & "incredibly kind."

[Anonymous]

There are bro dads in the DC Metro area. 100%.

It's not just an interest in sports and drinking beer. It's the lack of intellectual curiosity and inability to have conversation that aren't sports/complain or boast about kids' sports/beer/college days. It's the heavy consumption of beer any time it is available.

They don't have one eye on their kids at a function - that's the mom's job.

They have lots of "toys."

They are generally in sales and into white guy conspicuous consumption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are bro dads in the DC Metro area. 100%.

It's not just an interest in sports and drinking beer. It's the lack of intellectual curiosity and inability to have conversation that aren't sports/complain or boast about kids' sports/beer/college days. It's the heavy consumption of beer any time it is available.

They don't have one eye on their kids at a function - that's the mom's job.

They have lots of "toys."

They are generally in sales and into white guy conspicuous consumption.

Totally nailed it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are bro dads in the DC Metro area. 100%.

It's not just an interest in sports and drinking beer. It's the lack of intellectual curiosity and inability to have conversation that aren't sports/complain or boast about kids' sports/beer/college days. It's the heavy consumption of beer any time it is available.

They don't have one eye on their kids at a function - that's the mom's job.

They have lots of "toys."

They are generally in sales and into white guy conspicuous consumption.

It sounds like you people just resent guys who are socially outgoing, and not obsessed with college rankings and SATs.

What kinds of "toys"?

[Anonymous]

Like any other bro, the bro dad melts down at the first hint of real adversity. See, e.g., how angry they get when I, a non-bro dad, flirt with their wives. Inevitably, they cease what they are doing and head over with a “hey” excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm from Southern California (Orange County area) and there's definitely a type of Bro Dad here. Basically, they dress like high school surfer boys but they are in their late 30s and have two kids.

Typical SoCal Bro Dad:
-Drives a lifted 4x4 pick-up truck with a Monster Energy sticker on the back window, blasting Sublime or System of a Down
-Always sporting a Hurley baseball cap with a flat rim
-A plaid Billabong button up shirt and dark colored pants are what he wears to "dress up" for holiday cards
-Vans sneakers
-Owns a few pairs of Dickies shorts
-"Vacations" consist of going to Glamis for off-roading, camping at Pismo Beach, or heading to Big Bear to snowboard on 6 inches of man-made snow in the freestyle park
-Constantly bitches about "how crowded SoCal has become" and un-ironically throws out a bit of casual racism by blaming "the Mexicans"

I've yet to find similar Bro Dads anywhere else in the U.S. It's a bizarre combination of privilege, Peter Pan syndrome, being culturally stuck in the late 1990s.

I lived in L.A. for a few years after college and met thousands of these dudes. They run the family restaurant or work for the old man's insurance agency or construction business. They have attractive wives and cute kids.

They tend to be incredibly kind because a) they have a pretty good life and they know it and b) they're laid back and not trying to jockey for status. Very much a "the more the merrier" type guy for welcoming new people.

Except Mexicans apparently.

No matter how friendly & laid back someone seems, it is impossible to be both racist & "incredibly kind."

Hmm. History proves you otherwise. Kindness is not related to being non-racist. You can be kind to a person but still think them inferior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like any other bro, the bro dad melts down at the first hint of real adversity. See, e.g., how angry they get when I, a non-bro dad, flirt with their wives. Inevitably, they cease what they are doing and head over with a “hey” excuse.

I don't think they're that worried about a boring middle aged man with a bald spot and a paunch. Because the wives won't be into you. Maybe they're there to rescue the wife from your desperate attempts at flirting with married women?