Ha ha ha! I'm in my 50s. I remember a co-worker from a couple decades ago whose divorced mom moved to a "diverse, integrated, etc" area because she wanted her kids to be exposed to the "real-world economic and racial diversity". My co-worker and his brother ended up in a predominantly black school and he said that both got beaten up at least once a week. As an adult, he hated black people because of that. Be careful what you wish for.. |
Op here. Yes! That was me. I'm definitely not bored, but quite possibly overthinking the decision about where we move/what schools we go to. Feels like an important decision. It is a good thing that there are so many great options in this area, but pretty overwhelming too. |
Why would you criticize someone for asking questions on something they are wanting advice on and (therefore) asking for "engagement" about? That's exactly what these discussion boards are for. Sounds like you are the one that is "bored" enough to post only to criticize someone for merely asking advice from others. Why bother posting unless you can contribute to the dialogue? |
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Some of this really depends on personalities. My DC is in AAP, switched schools this year. We have maintained old friendships and I have not seen any difference in how we are viewed or how DC views others. Our friends are supportive and treat it like an immersion program or something. They may feel differently, but I do think close friends at least would have said something to let us know.
Like another PP, we talk with DC a lot about fit. This seems similar to me to travel sports, which I really don't hear people complaining about. What's the difference? Each is about challenging kids appropriately, right? In any case, as I said, we haven't run into any issues. But I have a neighbor who is in the same position. She deals with the same people I do and she has numerous examples of how these same people were rude to her or had negative things to say about AAP or "felt insecure". I try not to get into these discussions with her, but it's clear that AAP is her identity and yeah, I'm sure she's coming off like a jerk. I am an FCPS teacher, and I see lots of kids who were not AAP go on to AP classes and amazing colleges. It's mostly about hard work, regardless of what elementary program you land in. AAP doesn't mean much in the long run. |
It's not just about hard work, though. The correlation between being in the top 3% at age 7 and being in the top 3% in high school is much weaker than people would like to think. Some kids are early peakers, and others are late bloomers. This study shows that over half of the kids who test in the top 3% one year will fail to land in the top 3% the following year. https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ746292.pdf I'm not sure what the solution is for this with respect to AAP. The holistic approach should help somewhat, in that high test scores + high academic performance is more reliable than high test scores alone. Still, labeling kids as "gifted" or "not gifted" at age 7, and then having that label stick for another 6 years could be damaging for those kids who are early peakers or later bloomers. |
The label isn't helpful but the service is. Would it have been better if Fairfax changed the name to Honors? Or Intensified? |
It's more the permanence of the label and service that is the problem. Later bloomers can gain the label and service by applying in upper elementary, but some of these may fall through the cracks. Likewise, kids who were labeled in 2nd grade and thus are entitled to gifted programming through 8th might end up being pretty average by 8th. The connotation with Honors or Intensified is that a child can elect those classes on a yearly basis, such that there's no stigma in dropping from Honors to regular. AAP is all-or-nothing spanning 6 years, and there is stigma in dropping out of it, even if the child is struggling to keep up. |
Mostly agree with this. When DC was two years old, we moved to our neighborhood because the schools were supposed to be really good, making the trade off of getting a lot less house for our money. We didn't do it specifically for AAP, but if it's there, it's hard not to care about it or be secretly competitive about it. Surely, not every parent is this way, but I would imagine a lot of posters on this board are, including me. (I wish I weren't, but at least I am self aware about it.) Deep down, I know that AAP doesn't matter for my child in the long run, but given that the program is so big and the education is supposedly so good, that's where I want my kid. |
It's not clear to me why they created and are expanding the AAP track in MS. It seems to be parallel and sometimes identical to Honors. I suspect it has to do with the difference between test-in and open Honors classes, which is contrary to your argument. My perspective is that of a parent of a gifted elementary student who is disengaged, dislikes school, and needs some sort of gifted program to engage him until MS/HS. I'm not sure that AAP is the best way to go about having a GT program, but it's what Fairfax has. |
If the AAP and honors classes are effectively the same, then there's no reason at all to have separate classes, other than elitism. If they're not the same, then it's silly to use labeling and testing on 7 year olds as being predictive of their academic standing and needs in middle school. |
This is nice to hear. I've never really been able to put my finger on what makes me feel uncomfortable about AAP. I think it's partially because I went to a very small high school where there were opportunities to take advanced classes, but you still took many classes with all of the "regular" kids in the school. It wasn't diverse racially, but it was diverse in terms of socio-economics, academic ability, special needs, behavioral problems, etc. I have no idea if my kids will qualify for AAP although one is doing very well in school. If the opportunity does present itself, I'm leaning towards keeping them in our base school. I want to stay part of the local neighborhood/community. And I don't want to get caught up in the competitive drama. I've also heard AAP can lead to a lot of complex decisions down the road if you have to choose between two options for middle school. I believe that smart kids will do well no matter what school they're in (especially if we're talking one FCPS school vs. another) and the AAP drama may not be worth it. |
You hit the nail on the head. My two oldest are now in HS. One came up through the AAP program and the other did not. To all you parents with younger kids worrying about this for one minute, just stop. It all evens out by middle school and high school. We know AAP kids who dropped out of TJ, AP classes, or the IB program and know exactly as many Gen Ed kids who are academically at the top of their class now. In the end, effort will make the difference. I wish I knew this years ago so I could tell my non AAP kid (who was reminded constantly by classmates she was "not smart", etc etc) that it all eventually evens out and to let comments roll off her back. The only damage done by the AAP program is the seed that is planted very young that a kid "isn't as smart" and that is just not true. |
Spot on. |