When your spouse regularly throws your stuff away

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Anonymous wrote:Stop leaving your shit everywhere

This.

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I know this is an old post, but it seems he may be a narcissist. No its not your fault. You are not the packrat. I would guess he does many other things that lack respect towards you.

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My mom and my husband both do this. It used to drive my dad insane. After he died, she cleared out the whole house before any of us got to go through and take any mementos or special items. Literally, in days.

My husband is the same way. He has zero sentimentality over objects or things. He is constantly trashing things--to my and my kids' dismay.

I am not a hoarder by any means. He takes it to a whole other level and gets great joy from it.

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My DH used to throw out my coffee while I was drinking it - but had put it down and walked away for a minute. He got such an ear-full of anger that he literally never did it again. He checks if it's finished now.

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Anonymous wrote:This has become a terrible angry issue between my husband and me. He goes through the refrigerator every day and throws away perfectly just cooked food. He throws out any bottle of spices or condiments that are less than half full. Today I found a bottle with bay leaves and apple cider vinegar in the trash because he says no one uses them. Well, I use them, I guess I am no one in his eyes. This is becoming more and more upsetting to me because it feels like he does these types of things just to irritate me.

That's insane and so wasteful. What is wrong with him?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband does the same thing ... silverware , dishes ... it is driving me crazy .. we have 3 plates .. this is getting stupid .. and he tossed my PamperedChef pizza stone ...

What the hell? That sounds like he hates you.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop leaving your shit everywhere

Stop throwing away things that don’t belong to you.

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Anonymous wrote:Pick.Your.Battles.
Leftovers are shit anyway.

No.

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I didn't know this behavior was so common with children of hoarders! My spouse is just like this.

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I live with someone like this and it’s not hoarding or leaving things lying around. If it’s not important to him, he breaks, throws out or just finds some passive aggressive way to destroy something that is important. I started accidentally on purpose losing and breaking his things and it was the end of the world. It called living with a narcissist jerk.

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Wow. I can’t believe not one of you wankers has pointed out how rude and disrespectful that is: to throw someone’s stuff out without asking, regardless of how long it’s been in the fridge, etc.
When someone does that they are disrespecting and, quite frankly, devaluing you as a person, PARTICULARLY if you’ve asked him not to yet he continues to do so. Say buh bye.

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My spouse will throw away my dinner, 10 mins after its cooked, still in the pan. No joke. Just now, she threw away my deodorant. Because it was on the small table she keeps menthol rub on........ yep.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop leaving your shit everywhere

I obv are an ass and a male. Siding with another male. Leave my crap alone when it’s my house and my shit. Or better yet you leave!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop leaving your shit everywhere

I obv are an ass and a male. Siding with another male. Leave my crap alone when it’s my house and my shit. Or better yet you leave!

This isn’t about gender, but interesting you think it is. I toss my DH’s stuff. He has a habit of keeping everything “just in case.”

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Anonymous wrote:I 'edit' my husband closet a couple times a year. I just throw out the stuff that looks bad. I don't tell him, but I think he knows.

I did this once with a hideous shirt that DH wore a lot before we were married. One of his best friends noticed that he wasn't wearing it anymore, took one look at me, and said, "Thank you for your service."