When your spouse regularly throws your stuff away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife used to do this regularly and not with trash but with letters from my dad or work awards or other things one would usually keep.

I started hiding her work computer- literally for days at a time- until she stopped.

Ha. This. Do it with his stuff and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but I’m guessing you are really messy, and don’t pick up after yourself. Either that or DH is OCD.

I could easily see my DH writing your post minus the family heirlooms (weird)- he leaves his shit everywhere and I have to make an “educated guess” WTF it is, is it important, etc etc. i get it right 99% of the time but 1% no.

Just pick up after yourself and you won’t have to worry about it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop leaving your shit everywhere

Yep. I have to throw out my wife's spoiled/expired food all the time, because once she puts leftovers (and half the food she buys) in the fridge, she'll NEVER think of them again. Same with things she sets down: once it leaves her hand, it is forgotten forever. Includes: grocery receipts left on counter, mail dropped here and there as she walks through the house, different shoes left by the front door every day, little candy wrappers left on the couch or in bed or in the car, catalogs scattered everywhere (hello: stores have websites these days). Maddening.

This this this!! My DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has become a terrible angry issue between my husband and me. He goes through the refrigerator every day and throws away perfectly just cooked food. He throws out any bottle of spices or condiments that are less than half full. Today I found a bottle with bay leaves and apple cider vinegar in the trash because he says no one uses them. Well, I use them, I guess I am no one in his eyes. This is becoming more and more upsetting to me because it feels like he does these types of things just to irritate me.

Are there any foods that only he eats? Throw them away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife used to do this regularly and not with trash but with letters from my dad or work awards or other things one would usually keep.

I started hiding her work computer- literally for days at a time- until she stopped.

Ha. This. Do it with his stuff and see what happens.

I agree he's abusive and when she state "family heirloom" it's about control for him.

Since talking hasn't worked action needs to be the next step.

[Anonymous]

My DW throws away all of the mail every day, including checks and bills, so every day I go into the recycling bin and pull out the mail that we need. This has been going on for years. She says it all looks like junk mail to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DW throws away all of the mail every day, including checks and bills, so every day I go into the recycling bin and pull out the mail that we need. This has been going on for years. She says it all looks like junk mail to her.

Wow that’s pretty bad. And I am a “throw out immediately” person. I’d actually suggest not fishing it out, and then she’ll have to deal with calling around to replace something (which we be super annoying) and then she will be more careful?

[Anonymous]

My husband does the same thing ... silverware , dishes ... it is driving me crazy .. we have 3 plates .. this is getting stupid .. and he tossed my PamperedChef pizza stone ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I 'edit' my husband closet a couple times a year. I just throw out the stuff that looks bad. I don't tell him, but I think he knows.

What kind of a mindset would do that? You sure all your stuff looks great?
If I was a man I would never merry a woman who decides what I should wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a packrat?

They are called hoarders now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband does the same thing ... silverware , dishes ... it is driving me crazy .. we have 3 plates .. this is getting stupid .. and he tossed my PamperedChef pizza stone ...

Oh, that would piss me off. don't mess with Pampered Chef or Princess House. There is a history there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop leaving your shit everywhere

This is the stupidest comment. If something is out for a reason, there is no need to touch it. How ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t my husband be more like yours! Lucky girl! You must be the pig in the relationship

[Anonymous]

I need my DH to read this thread! He thinks I’m the one with the problem because I want a shit free home. He keeps shipping boxes and receipts even to Taco Bell for years! I’m like, “you really think you might need to return that burrito one day ??” Ugh it’s so frustrating with the clutter and junk piling up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is a jerk. Yesterday's leftovers? Just start throwing or hiding his stuff and let him see how he likes it.

I normally would not recommend this but I would do it. Teach him a lesson. My ex would try to help and ruin washing my clothes. I finally gave up and stopped doing any of his laundry. He learned his lesson.