Mom Needs to Power Down Those Rotirs

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Anonymous wrote:Did you mean rotors?

he means ground the chopper.

Yes, I know that. Rotors are on the chopper. Not "Rotirs".

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Had a friend at Villanova who was from Florida... his parents saw campus the first time at his graduation. He flew up/back and shipped his stuff. Might be extreme, but as others stated there is a big difference between going on a bus and a mom living in the dorms for a few days. Imagine that poor girl's roommate... having to share a dorm with her roommate's mom! Also, that girl will be ostracized and embarrassed if her mom stays there. That woman needs to understand boundaries. It's gone too far!

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I had plenty of friends who too a bus or train with just a duffle bag.

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People! Get a clue. The bus stops at a bus station or bus stop. The student then walks to campus. How oh how is this SO impossible to imagine that you're conjuring up ideas of magic school buses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People! Get a clue. The bus stops at a bus station or bus stop. The student then walks to campus. How oh how is this SO impossible to imagine that you're conjuring up ideas of magic school buses?

Who knows? These are probably the same kids whose parents book them a private charter flight to sleep-away camp in New England:

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/07/25/nyregion/to-reach-simple-life-at-camp-lining-up-for-private-jets.html

http://www.flyblade.com/sent-kids-camp-summer-blade-covered-parents-visiting-day

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Went to school in Pittsburgh. My roommate flew in from San Francisco on his own. Parents couldn't afford to fly the whole family out. He managed fine.

For thanksgiving and xmas, my university (well, a student organization) chartered buses to major cities like DC, Philly, and NYC. It was $30 and they dropped you off at a street corner in downtown DC where everyone's parents were waiting.

I work with universities now. Plenty of parents who get WAY too involved in their child's university life.. like the parents calling up professors to ask what homework little Johnny has to do. This is college now... little Johnny should be figuring that out on his own.

Solution: book a hotel for 1 night. Arrive that day, help DD move in, then take her to dinner. She sleeps in her dorm that night. Take her to breakfast the next morning then say your farewells.

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Anonymous wrote:Our only child will be departing for college this Fall. She will start classes August 24. DW wakes up every morning crying "who's going to take care of my baby." She has suggested to DD that she will stay in her dorm room the first week of school to make sure DD "settles in." She says she'll put DD on friend finder so she knows where DD is at all times. I jokingly asked are you planning to go to class with her too?" She said yes. This unhealthy attitude of her mother is one reason DD is going away to college. She needs to get out. I think DW needs therapy. I would do what my parents did. They dropped me off at the firm and said bye. My brother they just put on a bus north and he didn't come until Christmas.

Plan a romantic vacation after you drop off DD. The pampering type. Spa if that is her deal. NYC and shows if that is her deal. Wineries and antique stores if that is her deal.......... Plan it yourself. Find a few books about empty nest and read them together during this time.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your DW is being facetious and you are being a drama queen about it. Also, sending someone off on a bus to college sounds like it would be fairly traumatic and unpleasant for the kid, IMO.

Huh? That's what many parents did back in the day (like 15 years ago).

Huh. When I went to college 10 years ago I'm sure glad my parents didn't shove me on a Greyhound. I'm glad they helped me move in, which is what the vast majority of parents do.

How the heck are you going to send a kid to college on a bus? All that stuff that you have to bring with you to set up your room....good grief. Can you imagine traveling with all of that on a danged bus? Sheets, towels, blanket, a year's worth of clothes/shoes, coat, jacket, toiletries, basic school supplies....and that's just the bare minimum.

I hate to tell you this but there are a lot of kids that don't come from families that can afford to take a week off to move their kids into college. I went to Univ. of Michigan in the 80s and remember some rich kids who arrived with families, furniture, cars and wardrobes and other (less wealthy) kids who came alone on a bus with the bare essentials. They all survived.

This ain't the 80s anymore, dude. BTW, what "bus" even goes directly to a school? I mean, how far are we talking? Is this a cross country bus or a city bus...

I went to a state school back in the 80's. No one. And I mean NO ONE showed up with just a duffel bag and a comb....and on a bus no less. Even poor people wear clothes, bring sheets, towels, school supplies and a computer if their degree requires it. Dorm rooms tend to be tiny so even the wealthy kids were limited as to what they could bring. I don't recall ever seeing a kid bring a wardrobe into their dorm room (where would they put it??).

I am also fascinated by the idea of these buses that are apparently crossing the country and depositing people at their college. Where I went to college, which was a pretty cushy private school, we had one dumpy bus that ran only during limited business hours and took you in a loop about a mile away, to public transit, and left. How awesome would it have been if there was some kind of magical schoolbus stopping state to state and picking up kids, dorm equipment in tow, and depositing them at their university? Sign me the hell up.

Heck, yeah. Especially for holiday breaks. Just let bus service transport their azzes to/from school.

Huh. I took the train or bus from Ann Arbor to Detroit at break. Plenty of kids from Chicago did the same, and plenty did a ride share. Sadly, OP, my professor friends at Michigan, Stanford, Yale and MIT have reported similar parent stories. DW needs to unclench. Sounds like technological conveniences have allowed her to braid a strong leash on your DD. spend a night at a nearby hotel for one night with DW, have breakfast with DD in the morning, and let her spread her wings.

Huh. You're not aware of the difference between moving in, and spring break? How very fascinating.

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I moved myself in freshman year. Drove the green VW bug (with rust holes in the floor) loaded with all my possessions to the university three hours away and unloaded my stuff at the dorm. Later that night I had already made three friends for life and we made a beer run in the bug.

Also, there was a Greyhound stop right in the middle of my campus. I think a ticket home cost less than my round-trip on Metro costs these days.