'Thank God!' for a healthy baby. Please explain.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please help me process this, I don't know where else to ask. In Dec my 10 month old son died after a brutal battle with a heart defect. He never left the ICU in all of that time. My husband and I went to great lengths to get pregnant after many fail attempts and finally got pregnant with twins after IVF abroad.

I am now pregnant naturally with a miracle due exactly 9 months from his funeral. Obviously we are still in shock and disbelief with a host of complex emotions and feelings. I had a fetal echo to check out the heart this week and it came back normal and healthy. So I posted that much on Facebook. Everyone was incredibly supportive about it. I also had some "Praise God" and "Thanks be to God" on my post. I don't get it. These are people that prayed fervently for my son to be healed. Why would I thank god for creating this healthy heart when he gave my son a defective one? I'm so irritated by this and I've been thinking about it all day. On one hand I almost see it as a pat saying like "awesome" or "yay". I just don't understand this thought process. Help me understand and I mean that in a genuinely curious way.

I don't quite understand what you don't get about this. They're thanking God for your blessing. Your new healthy pregnancy. Your "miracle" as you called it. He deserves the thanks and the glory because He did it.

Separately, you unfortunately lost your first son (my deepest condolences to you). Your son's life, though short, was also a blessing. Though your friends prayed for him to be healed, God had another plan...a better plan, and you may not understand it yet.

The two prayers, two praises, are separate.

He had a better plan than a baby getting to live and be with his family? Please go away.

Yes, every life is a blessing and happens for a reason. My God doesn't make mistakes and everything is for a purpose. That little angel of OP's lived his life for a purpose and it was sadly cut short for a purpose that God will reveal to OP if He hasn't already.

Please stop saying this. You are telling a mother that god made her little baby die for a purpose, as if there is any purpose in the world that makes it OK for babies to die.

[Anonymous]

The main reason I do not believe in the god who is described in the Christian bible is because of babies dying.

I do, however, hope there is some possibility of being reunited with those I love after my death.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please help me process this, I don't know where else to ask. In Dec my 10 month old son died after a brutal battle with a heart defect. He never left the ICU in all of that time. My husband and I went to great lengths to get pregnant after many fail attempts and finally got pregnant with twins after IVF abroad.

I am now pregnant naturally with a miracle due exactly 9 months from his funeral. Obviously we are still in shock and disbelief with a host of complex emotions and feelings. I had a fetal echo to check out the heart this week and it came back normal and healthy. So I posted that much on Facebook. Everyone was incredibly supportive about it. I also had some "Praise God" and "Thanks be to God" on my post. I don't get it. These are people that prayed fervently for my son to be healed. Why would I thank god for creating this healthy heart when he gave my son a defective one? I'm so irritated by this and I've been thinking about it all day. On one hand I almost see it as a pat saying like "awesome" or "yay". I just don't understand this thought process. Help me understand and I mean that in a genuinely curious way.

I don't quite understand what you don't get about this. They're thanking God for your blessing. Your new healthy pregnancy. Your "miracle" as you called it. He deserves the thanks and the glory because He did it.

Separately, you unfortunately lost your first son (my deepest condolences to you). Your son's life, though short, was also a blessing. Though your friends prayed for him to be healed, God had another plan...a better plan, and you may not understand it yet.

The two prayers, two praises, are separate.

He had a better plan than a baby getting to live and be with his family? Please go away.

Yes, every life is a blessing and happens for a reason. My God doesn't make mistakes and everything is for a purpose. That little angel of OP's lived his life for a purpose and it was sadly cut short for a purpose that God will reveal to OP if He hasn't already.

Please stop saying this. You are telling a mother that god made her little baby die for a purpose, as if there is any purpose in the world that makes it OK for babies to die.

Do you think God did it for no reason then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The main reason I do not believe in the god who is described in the Christian bible is because of babies dying.

I do, however, hope there is some possibility of being reunited with those I love after my death.

Where would you be reunited with them - some other heaven besides the one in the Bible?

[Anonymous]

OP has asked for explanation of why her friends would post such sentiments; she's gotten that explanation. Predictably, it doesn't satisfy some. And predictably too, OP's tragedy is not driving posters to abandon their faith (other tragedies have been more/less happening since date dawn of time).

While I am Catholic, I am appreciative of OP's questions. She seeks meaning in this tragedy and is trying to get it where she can. In a sense, OP is a challenge to persuade her.

I lack the power to persuade people of much anything. I wish OP peace, and the grace and strength to keep living each day.