MERLD does exist!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

THE TOPIC IS SPECIAL NEEDS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

I'm the "other" ASD/ADHD parent. Yes, the topic is MERLD, but when you call our children "nightmares" who will have lifelong problems (and contrast them to your perfect angels), of course we're going to chime in to defend our children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

THE TOPIC IS SPECIAL NEEDS!

The board is special needs! There are no "MERLD parents only" threads here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

I'm the "other" ASD/ADHD parent. Yes, the topic is MERLD, but when you call our children "nightmares" who will have lifelong problems (and contrast them to your perfect angels), of course we're going to chime in to defend our children!

The poster is talking about all the issues her medicated ASD/ADHD child has... yes, it sounds like a nightmare. And, it has nothing to do with MERLD. You are missing the point. The one poster keeps coming on every thread derailing the MERLD/language disorder topics with her own agenda. I don't get why OP started this thread knowing they would do it, in less the OP is the ASD/ADHD mom. The treatments are not the same, similar, but not. The speech therapy is very different for receptive/expressive issues vs. pragmatic. The ASD/ADHD mom is giving very poor advice in terms of a child with needs very different than hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The poster is talking about all the issues her medicated ASD/ADHD child has... yes, it sounds like a nightmare. And, it has nothing to do with MERLD. You are missing the point. The one poster keeps coming on every thread derailing the MERLD/language disorder topics with her own agenda. I don't get why OP started this thread knowing they would do it, in less the OP is the ASD/ADHD mom. The treatments are not the same, similar, but not. The speech therapy is very different for receptive/expressive issues vs. pragmatic. The ASD/ADHD mom is giving very poor advice in terms of a child with needs very different than hers.[/q

NP here. You have missed the point of what every other parent has posted here, including MERLD parents. Calling someone else's SN situation a "nightmare" is far off the reservation for an SN forum. It is insulting and condescending. Who among us has not heard such things from friends or relatives with typical kids? At least those parents don't have the experience to understand. But coming from another SN parent, it is simply inexcusable. This is, above all, a place for SN parents to support and comfort one another. And that has EVERYTHING to do with both MERLD and ASD. That's what we really have in common. How can you not understand this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

I'm the "other" ASD/ADHD parent. Yes, the topic is MERLD, but when you call our children "nightmares" who will have lifelong problems (and contrast them to your perfect angels), of course we're going to chime in to defend our children!

The poster is talking about all the issues her medicated ASD/ADHD child has... yes, it sounds like a nightmare. And, it has nothing to do with MERLD. You are missing the point. The one poster keeps coming on every thread derailing the MERLD/language disorder topics with her own agenda. I don't get why OP started this thread knowing they would do it, in less the OP is the ASD/ADHD mom. The treatments are not the same, similar, but not. The speech therapy is very different for receptive/expressive issues vs. pragmatic. The ASD/ADHD mom is giving very poor advice in terms of a child with needs very different than hers.

No, it's NOT. If a kid has receptive and expressive speech delays, they are going to have trouble with pragmatics. That's why one of the diagnoses MERLD was replaced with was Social Communication Pragmatics Disorder.

So, from a MERLD mother to another--get this through your thick skull.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

The poster is talking about all the issues her medicated ASD/ADHD child has... yes, it sounds like a nightmare. And, it has nothing to do with MERLD. You are missing the point. The one poster keeps coming on every thread derailing the MERLD/language disorder topics with her own agenda. I don't get why OP started this thread knowing they would do it, in less the OP is the ASD/ADHD mom. The treatments are not the same, similar, but not. The speech therapy is very different for receptive/expressive issues vs. pragmatic. The ASD/ADHD mom is giving very poor advice in terms of a child with needs very different than hers.[/q

NP here. You have missed the point of what every other parent has posted here, including MERLD parents. Calling someone else's SN situation a "nightmare" is far off the reservation for an SN forum. It is insulting and condescending. Who among us has not heard such things from friends or relatives with typical kids? At least those parents don't have the experience to understand. But coming from another SN parent, it is simply inexcusable. This is, above all, a place for SN parents to support and comfort one another. And that has EVERYTHING to do with both MERLD and ASD. That's what we really have in common. How can you not understand this?

+1000. MERLD poster is worst than people who do not have kids with disabilities. What kind of person calls a child's disabilities causing challenges a "nightmare"? Unbelievable...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are on a MERLD thread, not ASD. You always post on MERLD threads.. that is the point.

You are on an SN thread, not MERLD. You always post on SN boards. That is the point.

The topic is MERLD!

I'm the "other" ASD/ADHD parent. Yes, the topic is MERLD, but when you call our children "nightmares" who will have lifelong problems (and contrast them to your perfect angels), of course we're going to chime in to defend our children!

The poster is talking about all the issues her medicated ASD/ADHD child has... yes, it sounds like a nightmare. And, it has nothing to do with MERLD. You are missing the point. The one poster keeps coming on every thread derailing the MERLD/language disorder topics with her own agenda. I don't get why OP started this thread knowing they would do it, in less the OP is the ASD/ADHD mom. The treatments are not the same, similar, but not. The speech therapy is very different for receptive/expressive issues vs. pragmatic. The ASD/ADHD mom is giving very poor advice in terms of a child with needs very different than hers.

No, it's NOT. If a kid has receptive and expressive speech delays, they are going to have trouble with pragmatics. That's why one of the diagnoses MERLD was replaced with was Social Communication Pragmatics Disorder.

So, from a MERLD mother to another--get this through your thick skull.

Not all MERLD kids have issues with pragmatics. Mine does not. Your kid may, many may but to say all is overgeneralizing. And, it was replaced with one of... it does not fully replace it. You are charming, aren't you.

[Anonymous]

NP here.

The vitriol is completely puzzling.

My MERLD kid is now a young adult and a nightmare. Am willing to do an exchange with a parent of an ASD kid.

Aside from that, agree with pragmatics issue. My MERLD kid did not have this. But I could discuss his upcoming Christmas presents with him playing barely five feet away and know that he wouldn't pick up on anything I was saying. That is a receptive language problem. Once he got the gift, he had no trouble at all with all the proper responses.

[Anonymous]

MERLD parents are treated horribly on these boards by a few ASD parents. You cannot even tell success stories without these parents chiming in that they will always have trouble...which is in no way a universal truth. They also put out so much information about MERLD. ..even some of the MERLD parents are doing this. MERLD can be a challenging diagnosis...or it can simply correct itself when a child's receptive language kicks in. I know a child who was labeled autistic and mentally retarded at age 7 because his receptive language was in the bottom 1 percent. He ended up going to college on a scholarship and is successfully employed in a demanding job and has a wife and family.

The treatments for MERLD and ASD are not the same. Many of us have found that out the hard way. And we have every right to tell our stories.

I also know of several women who realize they have married men on the spectrum. (I live in a town full of engineers.) These marriages are now imploding because while these very smart men were able to get through enough social communication to land a wife they can no longer maintain the relationships. So the challenges do not end for those on the spectrum either.

[Anonymous]

They put out misinformation^^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MERLD parents are treated horribly on these boards by a few ASD parents. You cannot even tell success stories without these parents chiming in that they will always have trouble...which is in no way a universal truth. They also put out so much information about MERLD. ..even some of the MERLD parents are doing this. MERLD can be a challenging diagnosis...or it can simply correct itself when a child's receptive language kicks in. I know a child who was labeled autistic and mentally retarded at age 7 because his receptive language was in the bottom 1 percent. He ended up going to college on a scholarship and is successfully employed in a demanding job and has a wife and family.

The treatments for MERLD and ASD are not the same. Many of us have found that out the hard way. And we have every right to tell our stories.

I also know of several women who realize they have married men on the spectrum. (I live in a town full of engineers.) These marriages are now imploding because while these very smart men were able to get through enough social communication to land a wife they can no longer maintain the relationships. So the challenges do not end for those on the spectrum either.

Our ASD kids are being called nightmares by (one?) MERLD parent, and who is treating whom horribly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MERLD parents are treated horribly on these boards by a few ASD parents. You cannot even tell success stories without these parents chiming in that they will always have trouble...which is in no way a universal truth. They also put out so much information about MERLD. ..even some of the MERLD parents are doing this. MERLD can be a challenging diagnosis...or it can simply correct itself when a child's receptive language kicks in. I know a child who was labeled autistic and mentally retarded at age 7 because his receptive language was in the bottom 1 percent. He ended up going to college on a scholarship and is successfully employed in a demanding job and has a wife and family.

The treatments for MERLD and ASD are not the same. Many of us have found that out the hard way. And we have every right to tell our stories.

I also know of several women who realize they have married men on the spectrum. (I live in a town full of engineers.) These marriages are now imploding because while these very smart men were able to get through enough social communication to land a wife they can no longer maintain the relationships. So th

e challenges do not end for those on the spectrum either.

Our ASD kids are being called nightmares by (one?) MERLD parent, and who is treating whom horribly?

One fed up MERLD parent gives you back a dose of your own medicine. And you need to be honest with yourself. No parent wants a child to have an autism diagnosis. It is considered to be one of the most challenging situations to the public at large.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here.

The vitriol is completely puzzling.

My MERLD kid is now a young adult and a nightmare. Am willing to do an exchange with a parent of an ASD kid.

Aside from that, agree with pragmatics issue. My MERLD kid did not have this. But I could discuss his upcoming Christmas presents with him playing barely five feet away and know that he wouldn't pick up on anything I was saying. That is a receptive language problem. Once he got the gift, he had no trouble at all with all the proper responses.

What makes your MERLD child a nightmare?