Would you have said something?

[Anonymous]

sorry- you can't change her behavior. And why would she get one gift for two kids to share? Really? Just ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope.

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Some people don't like little kids. Some don't like children of any age. I would have explained this privately to my kids later, but unless she was saying "all kids are disgusting", I would have kept my mouth shut. Most people I know like this had terrible childhoods with emotionally cold parents. They see children as an expense, distraction, and mess-makers because that's all they ever were to their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If Grandparent's Day was ridiculous and a waste of time, the top prep school would not be holding the event every year. Grandparents haven't paid a cent for their grandchildren's education, btw. They are not the only independent school who does this. Laugh all you want--they wouldn't hire a kid-hater like OP's SIL.

How would they even know she hates kids when they hired her?

[Anonymous]

It is definitely possible to be a teacher and not like little kids. I am a high school teacher and enjoy working with that age group very much. However, I am not into "cutesy" things either such as crafts and Muffins with Mom and have trouble relating to little kids. I also find their behavior to be extremely irritating sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Well...looking at it from a different angle, she doesn't like kids but she doesn't fuss at your kids and she sometimes sends them gifts. Sounds like she's doing pretty well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sorry- you can't change her behavior. And why would she get one gift for two kids to share? Really? Just ridiculous.

There are plenty of gifts that a family would share. A game, a gingerbread house, a trampoline.

[Anonymous]

How do you know how old the kids are? Maybe there are not in the same age range to share a game or jump on a trampoline. It is just rude for people to give kids 1 gift to share. SIL is a cheapo and evil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP clearly is judging her SIL and thinks less of her for loving animals and not kids, as she's mentioned the fact in both her posts.

This.

OP also comes across as very entitled ( how dare BIL and SIL only give her snowflakes one gift to share) and shortsighted ( somewhat understandable as she's in the middle of under 6 world), but I'm guessing SIL would tell a different tale.

Your kids are probably not just a little loud, but most likely completely out of control, and expect to be the center of attention, even when grownups are talking., and need to be constantly "engaged"
by someone.
You were looking for trouble. Your SIL is probably tired of your constant passive aggressive comments that she doesn't enjoy anything little kid. Your party comment was completely passive aggressive.

Your little snowflakes didn't give a damn about her comment.
You didn't need to say anything and in the future you'd do well to continue to keep your mouth shut.

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[Anonymous]

She does not sound entitled to me. It sounds as though the SIL made a rude comment in front of family about not liking young children, young children who happen to be family at the dinner table. Sounds like she needs to read Emily Post. Regardless of her feelings around not liking little ones, she still has them in her family, and needs to respect that fact. If she chooses to make statements of her dislike it should not be in front of the children.