Does your mother-in-law handle storm prep differently than you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH commented that his mother always made soup during blizzards and made sure each of her children had a flashlight at night in case the power went out. Are you planning your own tradition or will you follow your mother-in-law's practice?

No... I follow the steps for emergency prep that seem most suitable to me. Aside from that, I follow my own family's "traditions," not my in-laws' traditions. WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:My DH commented that his mother always made soup during blizzards and made sure each of her children had a flashlight at night in case the power went out. Are you planning your own tradition or will you follow your mother-in-law's practice?

No... I follow the steps for emergency prep that seem most suitable to me. Aside from that, I follow my own family's "traditions," not my in-laws' traditions. WTF?

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OP, you are your own woman, do you.

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Anonymous wrote:My oldest child is only 6 and my MIL is not an angel but incompetent is not a word I will use to describe anyone who has raised an adult.

If you know no adults to whom that word pertains, be grateful

That MIL you are calling incompetent has done what she could in her own era with what she had, to raise her children, one of whom you are married to, so you have no right to call her incompetent at least not until you have raised one on your own. 20 to 30 years from now, come back and let's assess how competent you have been.

Not that PP, but: We need to recognize that some adults are incompetent to raise children into healthy, productive adults. Just because someone reached the age majority doesn't mean that the people who raised them are competent. Some adults are damaged. Others reached adulthood relatively unscathed because they had at least one competent parent or other grownups who helped them.

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I bet your MIL said worse about her own MIL and your DIL and/or SIL will definitely have some to say about you.... Karma is bitch, bitches.

PP here. I agree with this statement, mostly because it pertains to me, and most adults I know. I used to say that MIL is not a nice person - but that is an understatement. MIL is a nasty, bitter, abusive person who refuses to accept anyone who is different; and sees anyone who is different as a personal threat. Since I am not a psychiatrist, I am not equipped to handle her, or her nastiness. Nor do I deserve it. Maybe MIL does not respect herself well enough to respect others, but I do. There is no need for me to put myself in harm's way, or for her young grandchildren to see her in action.

Maybe, in your mind, this is acceptable behavior. Or maybe you are simply a similar person as MIL. Heck, perhaps you are her, for all I know. If you were, I would tell you that it would not kill you to not be so GD nasty, frankly. If having bragging rights to your bridge club, about your imagined drama, is so important to you - it will have to be about someone else. Not me.

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Anonymous wrote:My oldest child is only 6 and my MIL is not an angel but incompetent is not a word I will use to describe anyone who has raised an adult.

If you know no adults to whom that word pertains, be grateful

That MIL you are calling incompetent has done what she could in her own era with what she had, to raise her children, one of whom you are married to, so you have no right to call her incompetent at least not until you have raised one on your own. 20 to 30 years from now, come back and let's assess how competent you have been.

Not that PP, but: We need to recognize that some adults are incompetent to raise children into healthy, productive adults. Just because someone reached the age majority doesn't mean that the people who raised them are competent. Some adults are damaged. Others reached adulthood relatively unscathed because they had at least one competent parent or other grownups who helped them.

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I bet your MIL said worse about her own MIL and your DIL and/or SIL will definitely have some to say about you.... Karma is bitch, bitches.

PP here. I agree with this statement, mostly because it pertains to me, and most adults I know. I used to say that MIL is not a nice person - but that is an understatement. MIL is a nasty, bitter, abusive person who refuses to accept anyone who is different; and sees anyone who is different as a personal threat. Since I am not a psychiatrist, I am not equipped to handle her, or her nastiness. Nor do I deserve it. Maybe MIL does not respect herself well enough to respect others, but I do. There is no need for me to put myself in harm's way, or for her young grandchildren to see her in action.

Maybe, in your mind, this is acceptable behavior. Or maybe you are simply a similar person as MIL. Heck, perhaps you are her, for all I know. If you were, I would tell you that it would not kill you to not be so GD nasty, frankly. If having bragging rights to your bridge club, about your imagined drama, is so important to you - it will have to be about someone else. Not me.

I bet your MIL said worse about her own MIL and your DIL and/or SIL will definitely have some to say about you.... Karma is bitch, bitches.

[Anonymous]

This question made me laugh. I would imagine that most people who prepare for storms fill their cars up with gas and make sure to stock up on groceries and TP. And probably many of us take the opportunity to make hot chocolate for the kids and spend a little time baking or slow roasting in the kitchen.

I don't know that I've ever talked to dh about snow traditions in his family. I guess I thought that we all have our own versions of it. Pretty much everyone on DCUM reports the same sort of activities....are those really "traditions" or just what people do during storms?

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Anonymous wrote:My oldest child is only 6 and my MIL is not an angel but incompetent is not a word I will use to describe anyone who has raised an adult.

If you know no adults to whom that word pertains, be grateful

That MIL you are calling incompetent has done what she could in her own era with what she had, to raise her children, one of whom you are married to, so you have no right to call her incompetent at least not until you have raised one on your own. 20 to 30 years from now, come back and let's assess how competent you have been.

Not that PP, but: We need to recognize that some adults are incompetent to raise children into healthy, productive adults. Just because someone reached the age majority doesn't mean that the people who raised them are competent. Some adults are damaged. Others reached adulthood relatively unscathed because they had at least one competent parent or other grownups who helped them.

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I bet your MIL said worse about her own MIL and your DIL and/or SIL will definitely have some to say about you.... Karma is bitch, bitches.

PP here. I agree with this statement, mostly because it pertains to me, and most adults I know. I used to say that MIL is not a nice person - but that is an understatement. MIL is a nasty, bitter, abusive person who refuses to accept anyone who is different; and sees anyone who is different as a personal threat. Since I am not a psychiatrist, I am not equipped to handle her, or her nastiness. Nor do I deserve it. Maybe MIL does not respect herself well enough to respect others, but I do. There is no need for me to put myself in harm's way, or for her young grandchildren to see her in action.

Maybe, in your mind, this is acceptable behavior. Or maybe you are simply a similar person as MIL. Heck, perhaps you are her, for all I know. If you were, I would tell you that it would not kill you to not be so GD nasty, frankly. If having bragging rights to your bridge club, about your imagined drama, is so important to you - it will have to be about someone else. Not me.

I bet your MIL said worse about her own MIL and your DIL and/or SIL will definitely have some to say about you.... Karma is bitch, bitches.

Signed,

Bitter MIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This question made me laugh. I would imagine that most people who prepare for storms fill their cars up with gas and make sure to stock up on groceries and TP. And probably many of us take the opportunity to make hot chocolate for the kids and spend a little time baking or slow roasting in the kitchen.

I don't know that I've ever talked to dh about snow traditions in his family. I guess I thought that we all have our own versions of it. Pretty much everyone on DCUM reports the same sort of activities....are those really "traditions" or just what people do during storms?

Normally, it is just what people do during storms - unless your MIL or DH is hypercritical.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL, who lives alone, 5 miles from our house, was too scared to stay at home by herself and came to our house to ride out the storm. Kill me now.

Seriously, that's the right call. She shouldn't be alone. Have a heart.

If she's 85, sure. If she's 63? She can nut up and be a grown-up. It's a snowstorm, not the End of Days. Seriously.

For all the last PP knows, the MIL has health issues or has had trouble in the past with her home having problems during storms (losing power for days on end, for instance--some areas/houses seem to lose power more readily than others). It's easy to snark that MIL can "nut up and be a grown-up" but PP has zero knowledge of what MIL's issues with staying home are, and the person who posted above about the MIL doesn't tell us.

Like the far more compassionate PP said, have a heart.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL, who lives alone, 5 miles from our house, was too scared to stay at home by herself and came to our house to ride out the storm. Kill me now.

Seriously, that's the right call. She shouldn't be alone. Have a heart.

+1. From the flip side: I really wish my elderly neighbors had gone to stay with their local children for this storm. I like to be neighborly and I always shovel their walk, etc., but I don't appreciate "having" to check on them because no one else can. (Yes I know no one's forcing me, but they were trapped inside because of snow blocking their storm doors.) It looks like I'll be shoveling out their cars, as well, since we're several days post-storm and their kids have not appeared.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL, who lives alone, 5 miles from our house, was too scared to stay at home by herself and came to our house to ride out the storm. Kill me now.

Seriously, that's the right call. She shouldn't be alone. Have a heart.

If she's 85, sure. If she's 63? She can nut up and be a grown-up. It's a snowstorm, not the End of Days. Seriously.

For all the last PP knows, the MIL has health issues or has had trouble in the past with her home having problems during storms (losing power for days on end, for instance--some areas/houses seem to lose power more readily than others). It's easy to snark that MIL can "nut up and be a grown-up" but PP has zero knowledge of what MIL's issues with staying home are, and the person who posted above about the MIL doesn't tell us.

Like the far more compassionate PP said, have a heart.

Actually I did respond and said she is 62 and in good health. Our house loses power far more than hers because her power lines are underground. I don't think she was scared as much as she didn't want to be bored. She also doesn't know how to cook so she wanted dh and I to cook for her. It was fine, she stayed for five days and just went home. Actually, we drove her back home after shoveling out her driveway and sidewalks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no fucking clue. It's not like Christmas.

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And, if my husband had super strong opinions about it, I'd invite him to prepare the things that matter to him.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no fucking clue. It's not like Christmas.

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And, if my husband had super strong opinions about it, I'd invite him to prepare the things that matter to him.

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No kidding. If DH (or anyone) is going to criticize, they better be stepping up themselves.