Dad died three days ago and husband just asked for divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It might be better this way if you are due to get a sizable inheritance. Keep those assets out of reach of your soon-to-be ex and prevent them from becoming commingled with the rest of your joint assets.

Frankly, your husband has been planning to do this for a long time. How long was your father sick?

My friend divorced his wife after supporting her for 3 years through cancer treatments. She had a double mastectomy and he filed for divorce about 6 months later. They were married for 6 years. In my friends case, he held off from separating for many years in order to keep her on his insurance, help pay for her treatments, and emotionally support her.

There is no good time to ask for a divorce.

There's no inheritance at this stage. Everything goes to my mom. And he's an only child who stands to inherit quite a bit from his parents, so that's not an issue. My dad was sick all of 2.5 weeks. It was sudden, unexpected, and not something that could have ever factored into a strategy. Things weren't great, but were getting better with counseling, so this is out of left field from that perspective. Even if it wasn't, putting this on me at this time is unforgivable, but he'll get his divorce. I would never want to stay married to someone who could do this, so it's sort of a problem that solves itself to be honest.

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. I really appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It might be better this way if you are due to get a sizable inheritance. Keep those assets out of reach of your soon-to-be ex and prevent them from becoming commingled with the rest of your joint assets.

Frankly, your husband has been planning to do this for a long time. How long was your father sick?

My friend divorced his wife after supporting her for 3 years through cancer treatments. She had a double mastectomy and he filed for divorce about 6 months later. They were married for 6 years. In my friends case, he held off from separating for many years in order to keep her on his insurance, help pay for her treatments, and emotionally support her.

There is no good time to ask for a divorce.

There's no inheritance at this stage. Everything goes to my mom. And he's an only child who stands to inherit quite a bit from his parents, so that's not an issue. My dad was sick all of 2.5 weeks. It was sudden, unexpected, and not something that could have ever factored into a strategy. Things weren't great, but were getting better with counseling, so this is out of left field from that perspective. Even if it wasn't, putting this on me at this time is unforgivable, but he'll get his divorce. I would never want to stay married to someone who could do this, so it's sort of a problem that solves itself to be honest.

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. I really appreciate it.

This is your silver lining OP. Hard decisions are even harder when we're unsure of the best course of action. At least your husband has removed any doubt, and while I'm sure it doesn't make the actual divorce process easier, at least you won't have to suffer any moments of doubt about whether it's the right course of action or not.

Wishing you some moments of peace in an incredibly difficult time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It might be better this way if you are due to get a sizable inheritance. Keep those assets out of reach of your soon-to-be ex and prevent them from becoming commingled with the rest of your joint assets.

Frankly, your husband has been planning to do this for a long time. How long was your father sick?

My friend divorced his wife after supporting her for 3 years through cancer treatments. She had a double mastectomy and he filed for divorce about 6 months later. They were married for 6 years. In my friends case, he held off from separating for many years in order to keep her on his insurance, help pay for her treatments, and emotionally support her.

There is no good time to ask for a divorce.

There's no inheritance at this stage. Everything goes to my mom. And he's an only child who stands to inherit quite a bit from his parents, so that's not an issue. My dad was sick all of 2.5 weeks. It was sudden, unexpected, and not something that could have ever factored into a strategy. Things weren't great, but were getting better with counseling, so this is out of left field from that perspective. Even if it wasn't, putting this on me at this time is unforgivable, but he'll get his divorce. I would never want to stay married to someone who could do this, so it's sort of a problem that solves itself to be honest.

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. I really appreciate it.

Get a good lawyer. Tell him/her that you want everything that you are entitled to. Let the lawyer fight for you. Don't pay much too attention to it or him. Be with your mom and your family and your friends. Take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Damn OP...