Very hairy legs on 7 year old DD and she's upset about it.

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Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

I'm sorry but do you really think her self-worth is that tied up in her leg hair? Shaving her hair to alleviate embarrassment in no way means that the child does not have self-esteem. It's one issue out of a million. If the hair can be taken care of and she can go on her merry way then why not. I highly doubt this one issue would ruin her self-worth now and in the future. Such drama.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

I'm sorry but do you really think her self-worth is that tied up in her leg hair? Shaving her hair to alleviate embarrassment in no way means that the child does not have self-esteem. It's one issue out of a million. If the hair can be taken care of and she can go on her merry way then why not. I highly doubt this one issue would ruin her self-worth now and in the future. Such drama.

I think it can be, sure. A 7-yr-old should not normally be so worried about what peers think. This one is, so is that going to get better in the next 5-10 years? Nope. Fixing what is 'wrong' at 7 sends a message, whether you agree with it or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

I'm sorry but do you really think her self-worth is that tied up in her leg hair? Shaving her hair to alleviate embarrassment in no way means that the child does not have self-esteem. It's one issue out of a million. If the hair can be taken care of and she can go on her merry way then why not. I highly doubt this one issue would ruin her self-worth now and in the future. Such drama.

I think it can be, sure. A 7-yr-old should not normally be so worried about what peers think. This one is, so is that going to get better in the next 5-10 years? Nope. Fixing what is 'wrong' at 7 sends a message, whether you agree with it or not.

I'm surrounded by kindergartners and first graders on a regular basis. Trust me when they're being teased they all care what the other thinks. This is not abnormal. The post clearly states that her hairy legs are not considered to be "wrong". It's not sending a bad message to your child to try and figure out how to help them out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where is this mysterious line?

The line where the hair stops because it's being shaved. You know, fuzzy leg to knee cap then smooth skin.

You don't shave above the kneecap?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

I'm sorry but do you really think her self-worth is that tied up in her leg hair? Shaving her hair to alleviate embarrassment in no way means that the child does not have self-esteem. It's one issue out of a million. If the hair can be taken care of and she can go on her merry way then why not. I highly doubt this one issue would ruin her self-worth now and in the future. Such drama.

I think it can be, sure. A 7-yr-old should not normally be so worried about what peers think. This one is, so is that going to get better in the next 5-10 years? Nope. Fixing what is 'wrong' at 7 sends a message, whether you agree with it or not.

I'm surrounded by kindergartners and first graders on a regular basis. Trust me when they're being teased they all care what the other thinks. This is not abnormal. The post clearly states that her hairy legs are not considered to be "wrong". It's not sending a bad message to your child to try and figure out how to help them out.

By changing them to please others.. no, that can't be wrong!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

I'm sorry but do you really think her self-worth is that tied up in her leg hair? Shaving her hair to alleviate embarrassment in no way means that the child does not have self-esteem. It's one issue out of a million. If the hair can be taken care of and she can go on her merry way then why not. I highly doubt this one issue would ruin her self-worth now and in the future. Such drama.

I think it can be, sure. A 7-yr-old should not normally be so worried about what peers think. This one is, so is that going to get better in the next 5-10 years? Nope. Fixing what is 'wrong' at 7 sends a message, whether you agree with it or not.

I'm surrounded by kindergartners and first graders on a regular basis. Trust me when they're being teased they all care what the other thinks. This is not abnormal. The post clearly states that her hairy legs are not considered to be "wrong". It's not sending a bad message to your child to try and figure out how to help them out.

By changing them to please others.. no, that can't be wrong!

It's not to please others! I think you've missed the ENTIRE point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is this mysterious line?

The line where the hair stops because it's being shaved. You know, fuzzy leg to knee cap then smooth skin.

You don't shave above the kneecap?

Oh, I do. But growing up a lot of girls stopped right above the knee. I have always had dark hair so went all the way up.

Didn't think a mom would be shaving a 7 year old up to her bikini line. LOL

[Anonymous]

^"bikini line" that is. I know she doesn't really have one yet.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 = 1st grade?!

+1. That's ridiculous. Can she read?

What does being able to read have to do with a child who has excessive leg hair? The whole original post states that it seems way too early to shave because it typically is WAY too early. But what's the alternative if the child is being teased and she's completely self-conscious about it. The leg hair is very different than her peers and it's causing problems. The whole point of the post was that it's way earlier than when it's expected to have to deal with this. At no point in the post does it say "hey, I really want to make my DD shave her legs for fun!"

Maybe the solution is to find better peers.

What a completely stupid statement.

You're right. It's clearly better to let everyone else dictate how you feel about yourself, and let you know what you have to change.

Who's "dictating" how she feels? She's getting teased and SHE feels bad. Kids can be mean. Kid's can be mean at times. Kind of an universal thing.

Yes, "kid's" can be mean. If the response is to shave her legs, what does that say about her sense of self-worth, now and in the future? OP should be focusing on building self-esteem, not responding to what other people think. Ergo, maybe surrounding her with more open-minded peers is a solution.

I'm sorry but do you really think her self-worth is that tied up in her leg hair? Shaving her hair to alleviate embarrassment in no way means that the child does not have self-esteem. It's one issue out of a million. If the hair can be taken care of and she can go on her merry way then why not. I highly doubt this one issue would ruin her self-worth now and in the future. Such drama.

I think it can be, sure. A 7-yr-old should not normally be so worried about what peers think. This one is, so is that going to get better in the next 5-10 years? Nope. Fixing what is 'wrong' at 7 sends a message, whether you agree with it or not.

I'm surrounded by kindergartners and first graders on a regular basis. Trust me when they're being teased they all care what the other thinks. This is not abnormal. The post clearly states that her hairy legs are not considered to be "wrong". It's not sending a bad message to your child to try and figure out how to help them out.

By changing them to please others.. no, that can't be wrong!

It's not to please others! I think you've missed the ENTIRE point.

But, it IS to please others.

[Anonymous]

As another person with lots of thick dark hair EVERYWHERE, let her shave. The bleach is smelly, hard to apply and wait for it to finish, and costly. Just let the girl shave.

I'm so glad so many of you want to make all kinds of political statements on the back of a young girl, but speaking from experience, there's nothing empowering about looking like a gorilla.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sends the message that you are listening to her and you care.

Shave her legs.

+100
I was that little girl many years ago and I am forever grateful to my mom for helping me shave that hair off!! Good for you for being an empathetic mom.

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Anonymous wrote:I would help her use a cream to get rid of it or get her a safe electric shaver if you aren't comfortable with her shaving with a razor. My mom thought I was too young to deal with it in elementary school (I was 5'5" and 120 pounds with my period and body hair/odor at 8), and the teasing was unpleasant, albeit nothing that drove me to tears.

I was not 5'5" until the 8th grade. Parents definitely need to adapt if they have a child who is going through puberty early.

-DCUM Dad now 6'

I am finding this hard to believe 5"5 with a period at 8 Would put you in precocious puberty which is a medical condition characterized by short statue.

PP here - don't know what to tell you. It happened, and I don't recall anyone taking me to the doctor about it. I was the tallest kid in my class but never grew even a quarter of an inch more after that. My body shape has changed, but I'm the same size. I do wish the hygiene aspects had been addressed rather than ignored, though, and commend OP for thinking of her DD.