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+1. Are you the DIL that wants to live farther away? |
This. I'm not a troll caller, but this was my first thought. DIL posting what she thinks is MIL's perspective in order to get everyone to bash MIL. If that's the case, yeah, from what you post MIL is wrong, but you're oversensitive and take everything personally too. So, both of you get over it. Be adults. MIL doesn't have to approve. You don't have to take money. Just get along because you're family now, so figure it out. |
His wife is more important to him than you. understand and accept this. trying to blame her or discredit her will only hurt your relationship with your son. |
This is the OP. I want you all to just remember YOU will be the ILs someday. |
But nothing like you. |
OP, haven't you ever wanted to do something on your own? Something you earned without a loan? |
We KNOW. This is why we're wasting our time here trying to explain it to you, poor dear. |
This is the same shit my controlling mother does. I absolutely hate her for it. BUT OUT!! My honest advice for every future comment that comes out of your mouth to your son and DIL should have nothing to do about your opinion or what you think.
My MIL is honestly as crazy as they get. You make her look great! |
The carpets look shabby and the paint colors are outdated? You're right to panic, OP -- those things can never be changed once someone buys a house!! |
They won't be changed because they'll have NO MONEY LEFT after sinking so much into the downpayment, unnecessarily, when I am more than willing to give them a generous loan! |
Who cares. They will change it when they get the $$. WHO. THE. HECK. CARES. This is worth ruining your relationship with them???? Carpets and paint? How can you be so materialistic? |
My MIL honestly IS this crazy. In fact, if we had not been living in our house for 10+ years, I would be thinking this WAS my MIL!!!! |
And I won't care if their paint colors are outdated and their carpets need to be replaced. ![]() Who ARE you? |
. . .with naught but a few wee tiny little strings attached! Alert: mommy-over-involvement! |