Anyone regret their Vbac?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Heard that tears/issues down below can be just as difficult as c section recovery. Any truth to that?

I had a quick recovery from my csection. My sister was in pain for over a year from her vaginal birth (ended up having to get restitched).

I had a 2nd degree tear (so not even that bad) and 5 years later, have had a lot of issues, including fecal incontinence. If I had known, I would've gone for the C-section in a heartbeat. But I couldn't have known beforehand...

Do you have prolapse? This is probably from pregnancy too, not just the actual birth.

No, I don't.

It is disingenuous to suggest that fecal incontinence is from pregnancy and not labor. Give this woman a break. People who love to pretend that vaginal birth and higher degree tears have no impact are not living in the real world inhabited by real women who have been shamed out of discussing these issues.

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+1, PP.

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I don't regret trying to have a vbac. i 'failed' but i am glad i tried. c/s after getting to 10 with my first (he was stuck). got to 10 with my second and dr wanted to use forceps (he was also stuck). dr gave me opt - csection or forceps. i chose csection since i had btdt. i cried in the operating room (another 10 cm -- another 'failed labor') but i never regretted not doing forceps and i'm still glad i tried to go the vbac route. good luck with your decision!

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Anonymous wrote:Is there anyone on this thread whose C/S was the result of failure to dilate due to cervical scarring? Meaning, I labored, was fully effaced, baby was fully down, but cervix would not dilate without hemostat due to scarring from earlier procedure. I went from home birth to hospital to emergency C/S under general. Trying to assess if dilation might be possible in future pregnancy.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most VBAC recoveries are much better than CS recoveries, particularly if your labored before your CS. Of course there are exceptions. I loved my VBAC and am about to have another. But, I was emotionally wounded by my CS so I had a lot invested in the VBAC. If it hadn't happened, I think it would have been a very bad scene for my mental health. Doesn't mean it wasn't worth the shot, but it was a scary risk to take.

Is this true for scheduled Cs? I had a wonderful scheduled C recovery for breech baby and am worried about it being worse after VBAC!

The problem is no one knows. You could have a lovely, fast delivery with minimal tearing, etc and be pretty much back to yourself within a week or two (this is most of my friends' experience). Or, you could have a long painful labor and third (or fourth) degree tears, shoulder dystocia, etc. For most women, it's worth trying because you might end up in group #1, but for some the risk of a difficult vaginal delivery may be outweighed by a relatively routine scheduled c/s. Only your doc can really advise you and depends on how much you want the vbac.

Not a VBAC since all of mine were vaginal deliveries .. but I had a really minimal 2nd degree tear with my 1st (no problems healing and we DTD at 5 weeks PP, no problem), then my smallest baby (#2) had shoulder dystocia resulting in a bad 2nd degree tear that took a while to heal from, then my biggest baby (#3) had both her hands up by her head and I had a 1st degree that needed 2 stitches .. I didn't even notice it a few days later after the swelling went away. There is so much else that goes into tearing and recovery ... like the size of the baby but also the baby's positioning and how fast you push. I tore with my 1st because I pushed his head and shoulders out all at once ... the MW said I tore on his shoulders because I didn't give him a chance to turn. I had the ugly 2nd degree tear with my 2nd because the MW reached in to turn his shoulder and get him out. You really just don't know going in.

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Anonymous wrote:You'd regret it if you ruptured or had a horrible shoulder dystocia or were ripped from stem to stern with forceps.

Unfortunately, you can't know any of this in advance. How badly do you want vaginal birth?

I'd never attempt a VBAC without an OB and continuous fetal monitoring in an excellent hospital with a NICU.

What an odd post. Would you regret it if you had a c/s and knicked an artery and you bled to death? Or you got a blood clot after surgery that ended up with a pulmonary embolism? It doesn't make sense to make the decision based on highly unlikely catastrophic scenarios. Look at the overall likelihood of adverse effects, your own individual situation, and your own comfort with the most likely scenarios.

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I wouldn't say I regret it, because I think if I hadn't tried I would wonder what if,... but I do feel like the benefits of vbac were way oversold to me. I had a fairly easy recovery from a planned c section and while the initial week was rough I felt like myself much sooner and was back at the gym/ready for sex at 6 weeks. Recovery from vbac was much slower - though I felt better initially it took me about twice as long to feel back to normal. And the mess of my vagina after a vbac was emotionally harder for me to handle than the scar from a c section

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I am wondering this too, OP. My scheduled csection was so incredibly easy that I'm not sure attempting a vbac Is worth it.

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I do not regret mine. I had a second-degree tear but really didn't find it problematic at all. The general swelling and discomfort is there, but the tearing and stitches were not the problem. For me the issue resulting from my vbac was a spinal headache from my epidural. Once that was diagnosed and treated, recovery happened fairly quickly in comparison to the c-section. It's not easy, of course, but I did find it better than the c-section.

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My sister regretted her vbac. Her baby was large and late and she tore pretty badly. She had to get the tear corrected a bit a week PP. Since her VBAC also now pees a little when she jogs or sneezes, so it weakened her pelvic floor too in a way that the pregnancies and c section hadn't. For her third, she opted for a c section and has no regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Heard that tears/issues down below can be just as difficult as c section recovery. Any truth to that?

Yes. Ask most woman OBs how they gave birth and you might be surprised that most chose elective Cs.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Heard that tears/issues down below can be just as difficult as c section recovery. Any truth to that?

Yes. Ask most woman OBs how they gave birth and you might be surprised that most chose elective Cs.

This is so they can schedule them.

OP in general, that's not the case. Only if you tear pretty badly

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Anonymous wrote:My sister regretted her vbac. Her baby was large and late and she tore pretty badly. She had to get the tear corrected a bit a week PP. Since her VBAC also now pees a little when she jogs or sneezes, so it weakened her pelvic floor too in a way that the pregnancies and c section hadn't. For her third, she opted for a c section and has no regrets.

How is your sister post the third child? Did her pelvic floor weakness improve?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Heard that tears/issues down below can be just as difficult as c section recovery. Any truth to that?

Yes. Ask most woman OBs how they gave birth and you might be surprised that most chose elective Cs.

This is so they can schedule them.

OP in general, that's not the case. Only if you tear pretty badly

Wrong (at least for my OB friends). This is to avoid issues like tearing and urinary incontinence.

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Oh for god's sake. Not this again.