Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now

[Anonymous]

I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.

Is it mostly White people who do not get this?

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And the bottom line is that she doesn't give a shit what any of you thinks because it's not about you.

I applaud her for not being some pearl clutcher and highly doubt any cop or neighbor is going to show up at her door claiming child abuse.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.

Is it mostly White people who do not get this?

I'm upper middle class white but raised in another country, and yes, I think it's mostly upper middle class white Americans who don't get this. That kind of violence is properly channeled through football and free access to guns. On the other hand, putting kids on class II substances with potentially horrendous side effects to control their behavior is not considered child abuse. These are just cultural differences.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.

Is it mostly White people who do not get this?

I'm upper middle class white but raised in another country, and yes, I think it's mostly upper middle class white Americans who don't get this. That kind of violence is properly channeled through football and free access to guns. On the other hand, putting kids on class II substances with potentially horrendous side effects to control their behavior is not considered child abuse. These are just cultural differences.

or yelling mean things to your kids at their games, apparently (per that other thread).

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Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.

Is it mostly White people who do not get this?

This white woman gets it. She was doing what she needed to do to get her kid out of a potential deadly situation. I think it is easy for people to judge. I can tell you that if that were my son, he would have gotten the same (if not worse) treatment. And, I am not a proponent of spanking or hitting.

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Anonymous wrote:No every kid is scared of the voice of doom. I'd say in critical circumstances a few slaps can be forgiven, and those of you who engage in sanctimonious preaching are just assholes who somehow think your rants validate your perfect parenting. STFU.

Actually I'm not condemning that mom since I don't know enough about her but I am wondering why the people who are praising her don't wonder whether she hits her kid regularly. If so, that's not being a good mom.

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Anonymous wrote:For all of you questioning what she did let's put one of your children in a situation where they are not only doing something they shouldn't, but they are in harms way. Let's get your adrenaline up and see how in control you are.

As best I recall she was hitting him with an open hand. A slap hurts but I doubt any of those blows would do significant harm. And no, not mentally either.

I so would not have had to hit my kid to make her leave. I learned long ago how to use the "voice of doom" to scare the piss out of her in those few instances where it was necessary.

That's what we'd all like to think, just like we'd all like to think our kids wouldn't fall victim to the mob mentality and always do the right thing.

No, she doesn't always do the right thing. That's why I use the voice of doom when needed. And based on my long experience with her, I think it's highly unlikely I would need to hit her. I mean, the point raised was how I would stay in control with my kid in harm's way and my adrenaline up and I think it's entirely possible that I would act like an asshole but still not likely I would hit her.

#yourkidsarenotteensyet

Ha ha - she's 21!

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you here are so 1% suburban white that you squeak. This was the mother of a black teen in an urban riot. She sees her son with a black hood covering his face and about to throw a rock at police officers in riot gear and armed. She tells him to stop and gets between him and the police and he tries to go around her and raises the rock. After Trayvon Martin and Michael Brown.and Freddie Gray all she can see is if that rock leaves his hand the next time she sees him will be in the morgue . Yes she snaps and. She uses any means at her disposal to stop that rock from leaving his hand. Including slapping some sense into him. I'm sorry if Ms white Bethesda thinks that the voice of doom is sufficient but you have never beenin a situation where your child's next action could cause her to be killed by a frightened.police officer in a racially charged situation and your suggestion is ludicrous.

"Voice of doom" poster here. White but not suburban and definitely live in a neighborhood with a lot of folks like Ms. Graham. I'm not condemning her. I'm condemning the people who are so convinced that she's never hit her kid for the wrong reasons and in the wrong time. I hope she hasn't. I hope this was a time where she was so scared that she reacted in an unusually violent way. But I don't know why so many white folks are so convinced that she must be mother of the year -- the implication from some commentators being that if more black mothers hit their black boys that the world would be safer.

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Anonymous wrote:For all of you questioning what she did let's put one of your children in a situation where they are not only doing something they shouldn't, but they are in harms way. Let's get your adrenaline up and see how in control you are.

As best I recall she was hitting him with an open hand. A slap hurts but I doubt any of those blows would do significant harm. And no, not mentally either.

I so would not have had to hit my kid to make her leave. I learned long ago how to use the "voice of doom" to scare the piss out of her in those few instances where it was necessary.

That's what we'd all like to think, just like we'd all like to think our kids wouldn't fall victim to the mob mentality and always do the right thing.

No, she doesn't always do the right thing. That's why I use the voice of doom when needed. And based on my long experience with her, I think it's highly unlikely I would need to hit her. I mean, the point raised was how I would stay in control with my kid in harm's way and my adrenaline up and I think it's entirely possible that I would act like an asshole but still not likely I would hit her.

I think it's easier with girls as they generally are less likely to engage in life threatening illegal activities. As I said, I think we'd all like to think we'd do the right thing as parents, but I'm not naive enough to think that I wouldn't act like that mom. You have no idea what you are capable of in extreme situations.

Her daughter will eventually get in a car with a drunk, drink herself sillly and her boyfriend will possibly beat her in college, but mommy will have her mean face on... so she will immediately stop.

Ha ha, I know for absolute certainty that that won't happen.

[Anonymous]

That video cracked me up. Completely not uncommon in the urban community. Once the kids get tall and big enough, hands to knock some common sense into them are sometimes needed. That big ass boy is not being abused, he was abusing the police. What did you want the mother to do? Sit down with a cup of starbucks coffee and talk it out with him? Beat his ass.

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Anonymous wrote:No every kid is scared of the voice of doom. I'd say in critical circumstances a few slaps can be forgiven, and those of you who engage in sanctimonious preaching are just assholes who somehow think your rants validate your perfect parenting. STFU.

Actually I'm not condemning that mom since I don't know enough about her but I am wondering why the people who are praising her don't wonder whether she hits her kid regularly. If so, that's not being a good mom.

I'm wondering why she is a single mom with 6 kids and there is no mention of her son's father? Divorced? Widow?

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Anonymous wrote:For all of you questioning what she did let's put one of your children in a situation where they are not only doing something they shouldn't, but they are in harms way. Let's get your adrenaline up and see how in control you are.

As best I recall she was hitting him with an open hand. A slap hurts but I doubt any of those blows would do significant harm. And no, not mentally either.

I so would not have had to hit my kid to make her leave. I learned long ago how to use the "voice of doom" to scare the piss out of her in those few instances where it was necessary.

That's what we'd all like to think, just like we'd all like to think our kids wouldn't fall victim to the mob mentality and always do the right thing.

No, she doesn't always do the right thing. That's why I use the voice of doom when needed. And based on my long experience with her, I think it's highly unlikely I would need to hit her. I mean, the point raised was how I would stay in control with my kid in harm's way and my adrenaline up and I think it's entirely possible that I would act like an asshole but still not likely I would hit her.

I think it's easier with girls as they generally are less likely to engage in life threatening illegal activities. As I said, I think we'd all like to think we'd do the right thing as parents, but I'm not naive enough to think that I wouldn't act like that mom. You have no idea what you are capable of in extreme situations.

Her daughter will eventually get in a car with a drunk, drink herself sillly and her boyfriend will possibly beat her in college, but mommy will have her mean face on... so she will immediately stop.

This woman has five daughters...

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Anonymous wrote:No every kid is scared of the voice of doom. I'd say in critical circumstances a few slaps can be forgiven, and those of you who engage in sanctimonious preaching are just assholes who somehow think your rants validate your perfect parenting. STFU.

Actually I'm not condemning that mom since I don't know enough about her but I am wondering why the people who are praising her don't wonder whether she hits her kid regularly. If so, that's not being a good mom.

I'm wondering why she is a single mom with 6 kids and there is no mention of her son's father? Divorced? Widow?

You're not convincing anyone with your fake "wondering."

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Anonymous wrote:No every kid is scared of the voice of doom. I'd say in critical circumstances a few slaps can be forgiven, and those of you who engage in sanctimonious preaching are just assholes who somehow think your rants validate your perfect parenting. STFU.

Actually I'm not condemning that mom since I don't know enough about her but I am wondering why the people who are praising her don't wonder whether she hits her kid regularly. If so, that's not being a good mom.

I'm wondering why she is a single mom with 6 kids and there is no mention of her son's father? Divorced? Widow?

You're not convincing anyone with your fake "wondering."

Wondering? No need. Statistics show a very large number of black children in single parent homes with a high percentage of those where the father is absent. Percentages vary between 67 and 73%.

Lots of reputable studies, and many articles, cover this and point out how difficult progress is while this exists.

[Anonymous]

So many of you are so goddamn foolish.

The media caught it and ran with it.

But you bunch of milquetoasts are pathetic. I would have reacted the same way; fear and anger go hand in hand in this case.