I came to watch my DC play his game, not talk to you

[Anonymous]

I am sure her kid is VERY talented, all of them are, and strict silence must be maintained. Please.

[Anonymous]

I bring a chair and sit kind of off. I am friendly but not outgoing. We are in a team situation where almost all the other parents know each other but I don't know any because we attend another school. It's not a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure her kid is VERY talented, all of them are, and strict silence must be maintained. Please.

Or you can have small talk between innings and focus on the game when its being played. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you suck. don't join a team if you don't want to be social. sport IS social and you chose to have your kid participate so act accordingly too. And who cares about chatty parents, why not lend an ear. I hate people who act as if they'd rather live in a deserted island, such hypocrites.

No PP you suck and are a world class bitch to boot. Oh and also a shitty mom.

Preference for you:
1. Getting kids on a team with fun moms
2. Being able to talk to them during the boring games
3. Remembering it is your team and not your child's team.


Vs


Preferences for non-selfish moms

1. Getting my kids on a team that will work for them
2. Spending that one hour a week enjoying their game
3. Realizing it is my child team and not my team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The parents of my DC's ball team are very, very chatty. I just want to go watch my child play and try to be polite but not initiate conversations, but I've missed plays my son has made because some other parent is telling me about their job, divorce, etc.

I've tried standing at the fences, but my other DCs want to sit in the bleachers.

Any helpful techniques? DH suggests I should wear headphones, but I think this would look weird considering I have other DCs with me. DH is usually on the field with the players.

What sport? If baseball/softball, score the game. That's what I do. People won't bother you then, and you're actually helping the coach. Use one of the digital apps and it compiles stats.

Btw - I think the parents that score the game on the Apps are awesome. I haven't been able to do this yet with multiple kids running around - but I am extremely appreciative

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to look at these people when you are talking to them? It's not rude to watch the game and carry on a conversation if you're there to watch your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you suck. don't join a team if you don't want to be social. sport IS social and you chose to have your kid participate so act accordingly too. And who cares about chatty parents, why not lend an ear. I hate people who act as if they'd rather live in a deserted island, such hypocrites.

No PP you suck and are a world class bitch to boot. Oh and also a shitty mom.

Preference for you:
1. Getting kids on a team with fun moms
2. Being able to talk to them during the boring games
3. Remembering it is your team and not your child's team.


Vs


Preferences for non-selfish moms

1. Getting my kids on a team that will work for them
2. Spending that one hour a week enjoying their game
3. Realizing it is my child team and not my team.

I see that you've read the book: parenting for dummies. You're such a child centered parent, I am sure your children will grow up to be perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you suck. don't join a team if you don't want to be social. sport IS social and you chose to have your kid participate so act accordingly too. And who cares about chatty parents, why not lend an ear. I hate people who act as if they'd rather live in a deserted island, such hypocrites.

No PP you suck and are a world class bitch to boot. Oh and also a shitty mom.

Preference for you:
1. Getting kids on a team with fun moms
2. Being able to talk to them during the boring games
3. Remembering it is your team and not your child's team.


Vs


Preferences for non-selfish moms

1. Getting my kids on a team that will work for them
2. Spending that one hour a week enjoying their game
3. Realizing it is my child team and not my team.

Bingo. I can't believe she said "her team" when she doesn't even pay attention to the game. The sad part are the kids who
Turn to look at their moms after a good or bad play and they aren't paying attention. Sorry kiddo, gossip is more important!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you suck. don't join a team if you don't want to be social. sport IS social and you chose to have your kid participate so act accordingly too. And who cares about chatty parents, why not lend an ear. I hate people who act as if they'd rather live in a deserted island, such hypocrites.

No PP you suck and are a world class bitch to boot. Oh and also a shitty mom.

Preference for you:
1. Getting kids on a team with fun moms
2. Being able to talk to them during the boring games
3. Remembering it is your team and not your child's team.


Vs


Preferences for non-selfish moms

1. Getting my kids on a team that will work for them
2. Spending that one hour a week enjoying their game
3. Realizing it is my child team and not my team.

I see that you've read the book: parenting for dummies. You're such a child centered parent, I am sure your children will grow up to be perfect.

Not the PP but if you think focusing on a one hour weekly game instead of gossiping is kid-centered parenting, you must really not like to be around your kids at all.

[Anonymous]

There are people who just want to sit quietly and focus on a kids baseball game? How much focus does one actually need? It's not like it's a fast-moving game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are people who just want to sit quietly and focus on a kids baseball game? How much focus does one actually need? It's not like it's a fast-moving game.

This is what I was wondering. It's BASEBALL! Probably the game with the most pauses in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just your DC who's on the team, it's you too. This means you have to engage with other parents. If you start avoiding them or pretend you are so busy that you have to be on the phone, you will seem as standoffish and uptight. Don't do this to your kid. Parents talk in front of their children about other parents' behavior. It's a sports game, not a ballet performance.

No, it's just OP's kid. OP is not on the teams.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not just your DC who's on the team, it's you too. This means you have to engage with other parents. If you start avoiding them or pretend you are so busy that you have to be on the phone, you will seem as standoffish and uptight. Don't do this to your kid. Parents talk in front of their children about other parents' behavior. It's a sports game, not a ballet performance.

No, it is my kid who is on the team. Not me. I will do my share of the volunteering ( med kit, driving whatever) but there is nothing about my son being on a team that says I get some new buddies. We can talk about how wonderful our kids are, but we don't have to be buddies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you suck. don't join a team if you don't want to be social. sport IS social and you chose to have your kid participate so act accordingly too. And who cares about chatty parents, why not lend an ear. I hate people who act as if they'd rather live in a deserted island, such hypocrites.

No PP you suck and are a world class bitch to boot. Oh and also a shitty mom.

Preference for you:
1. Getting kids on a team with fun moms
2. Being able to talk to them during the boring games
3. Remembering it is your team and not your child's team.


Vs


Preferences for non-selfish moms

1. Getting my kids on a team that will work for them
2. Spending that one hour a week enjoying their game
3. Realizing it is my child team and not my team.

+1

[Anonymous]

They likely didn't come to talk to you either, they're just being polite and, like you, may not know how to deter conversation. Just say "hello" and watch the game. When I'm intent on watching my son, it's obvious and no one bothers me.