Hearing personal stories from ob's in the delivery room? How common?

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Anonymous wrote:Doctors must be thrilled that so many neurotic narcissists are now going to birthing centers or trying for home births. And I delivered with a midwife, so the psycho PP accusing everyone of being a male OB, please take several seats.

Right? I love a good story! So much fun!

No clients today?

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Anonymous wrote:This is what I heard in the delivery room right before they put me under: OB, "Where's the blood? We need the blood now! WHERE IS THE FUCKING BLOOD!!!"

When you need it, you need it now. Stressed people swear, and docs aren't saints. You are, however, alive to tell the tale.

We're all stressed and no one here is a saint. But they do have bedside trainings.

No, you do not have the stress of a dying woman and baby that are your responsibility and have just minutes to act.

Thanks for your arrogance, Mr/Ms Clueless. Or should we address your high holy as* as Doctor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I realize that there is a huge variation in obstetricians and personalities, bedside manner, etc. but I am reflecting on my daughter's birth several years ago now. The on-call doctor who delivered my child told us a long, drawn out, dramatic story that was probably true but not relevant to anything having to do with labor and delivery. How often does this happen? Was he trying to distract me? Does anyone include in their birth plans "no personal stories from doctor?" or "doctor must refrain from conversation so that I can hear the Enya I brought?" FWIW, I am not mad or disappointed, just curious about how common this is.

And I thought Bridezillas were bad! I would hate to work for you, OP! You are quite the mom diva!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I realize that there is a huge variation in obstetricians and personalities, bedside manner, etc. but I am reflecting on my daughter's birth several years ago now. The on-call doctor who delivered my child told us a long, drawn out, dramatic story that was probably true but not relevant to anything having to do with labor and delivery. How often does this happen? Was he trying to distract me? Does anyone include in their birth plans "no personal stories from doctor?" or "doctor must refrain from conversation so that I can hear the Enya I brought?" FWIW, I am not mad or disappointed, just curious about how common this is.

And I thought Bridezillas were bad! I would hate to work for you, OP! You are quite the mom diva!

And what's *your* specialty?
Random conversation during surgery?

[Anonymous]

Have any of those of you who are just fine with all sorts of chit chat in the delivery room actually given birth yet? And had a natural birth?

Sure, if you're flat on the bed with an epidural perhaps you are able to concentrate on multiple things at once. When I had both my children it took all my energy to concentrate on the birth, and all my energy to communicate in an effective manner (such as asking for a sip of water). I was completely unable to focus on anything else. If someone else was in the room talking about their golfing trip and distracting my focus from the very important task of birthing my baby I would have wanted to punch them. Of course, I'd have been completely incapable of actually communicating this fact, or doing it. But yes, an OB chatting about other topics while a woman is in the final stages of labor shows someone who has no understanding of the labor process or the woman's needs. I would fire them.

[Anonymous]

Well said, 12:35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have any of those of you who are just fine with all sorts of chit chat in the delivery room actually given birth yet? And had a natural birth?

Sure, if you're flat on the bed with an epidural perhaps you are able to concentrate on multiple things at once. When I had both my children it took all my energy to concentrate on the birth, and all my energy to communicate in an effective manner (such as asking for a sip of water). I was completely unable to focus on anything else. If someone else was in the room talking about their golfing trip and distracting my focus from the very important task of birthing my baby I would have wanted to punch them. Of course, I'd have been completely incapable of actually communicating this fact, or doing it. But yes, an OB chatting about other topics while a woman is in the final stages of labor shows someone who has no understanding of the labor process or the woman's needs. I would fire them.

Yes, both

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doctors must be thrilled that so many neurotic narcissists are now going to birthing centers or trying for home births. And I delivered with a midwife, so the psycho PP accusing everyone of being a male OB, please take several seats.

Right? I love a good story! So much fun!

No clients today?

No. Since I have an online retail business, I take my clients as they purchase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I realize that there is a huge variation in obstetricians and personalities, bedside manner, etc. but I am reflecting on my daughter's birth several years ago now. The on-call doctor who delivered my child told us a long, drawn out, dramatic story that was probably true but not relevant to anything having to do with labor and delivery. How often does this happen? Was he trying to distract me? Does anyone include in their birth plans "no personal stories from doctor?" or "doctor must refrain from conversation so that I can hear the Enya I brought?" FWIW, I am not mad or disappointed, just curious about how common this is.

And I thought Bridezillas were bad! I would hate to work for you, OP! You are quite the mom diva!

She did mention Enya....

[Anonymous]

GYNs tend to have no personality and little social skills. My brother is one and he often rattles on with stories that go nowhere. I think it is not uncommon for male GYNs to feel awkward when the dad is around. So they say stupid stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:GYNs tend to have no personality and little social skills. My brother is one and he often rattles on with stories that go nowhere. I think it is not uncommon for male GYNs to feel awkward when the dad is around. So they say stupid stuff.

Yeah, look how long they kept men away from seeing their own children born.