Mil gives me present I don't want every year

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot wait until you bitches become MILs and YOUR DILs post about you, your crazy sons AND how much they hate you.

SWEET REVENGE

You sound unstable.

No, she doesn't. It's an entirely reasonable response to the DIL bitchery that occurs on DCUM. It's ridiculous.

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How hard is it to say any "thank you" and put it away in your drawer? Give me a break. It makes her happy to buy it for you, what difference does it really makes to you?

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to say any "thank you" and put it away in your drawer? Give me a break. It makes her happy to buy it for you, what difference does it really makes to you?

Isn't giving a gift about making the recipient happy?? Not the giver. Ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Ungrateful DIL. Enjoy the thoughtful gift. This is not a real problem.

Um, a Pandora charm--even if the recipient like them--is sort of the ultimate "I don't want to have to put any thought into this" gift. It takes no time or thought to walk into any jewelry store, grab one, and be on your way.

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I would sell them.

My MIL likes to support her church's charity craft sale.
Pierced earrings one year (my ears aren't pierced) and this year, a cow-print apron. I have gained a ton of weight this year .

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My MIL totally does this (or did, when she used to be sober enough to remember Christmas). She'll ask me if I want A or B; if I say A, I automatically get B. I always just graciously thanked her and never said anything to DH (who eventually noticed and was horrified). It used to bug me, but so did the snide comments, the eye rolls behind my back, and the walking away the minute I enter a room. Now I just roll with it and have accepted that I have no relationship with my MIL, something I never would have expected for myself. I even laugh about the eye rolls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to say any "thank you" and put it away in your drawer? Give me a break. It makes her happy to buy it for you, what difference does it really makes to you?

Isn't giving a gift about making the recipient happy?? Not the giver. Ridiculous.

I'd say it's about both giver and recipient, and it requires the cooperation of both to make it work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot wait until you bitches become MILs and YOUR DILs post about you, your crazy sons AND how much they hate you.

SWEET REVENGE

You sound unstable.

No, she doesn't. It's an entirely reasonable response to the DIL bitchery that occurs on DCUM. It's ridiculous.

For sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL totally does this (or did, when she used to be sober enough to remember Christmas). She'll ask me if I want A or B; if I say A, I automatically get B. I always just graciously thanked her and never said anything to DH (who eventually noticed and was horrified). It used to bug me, but so did the snide comments, the eye rolls behind my back, and the walking away the minute I enter a room. Now I just roll with it and have accepted that I have no relationship with my MIL, something I never would have expected for myself. I even laugh about the eye rolls.

WOW she sounds horrible. But I'm super impressed you can deal with her so well.

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Pandora charms are tacky in general.

Just say thank you and chuck it in a sock drawer.

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This is not a helpful comment, but my MIL had the same conversation with my DH this year about a pandora bracelet. Thank god it seems like she listened when he said I wouldn't like it because I didn't get one for Christmas. Otherwise, OP, I could envision my future in gift receiving thanks to your post.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a helpful comment, but my MIL had the same conversation with my DH this year about a pandora bracelet. Thank god it seems like she listened when he said I wouldn't like it because I didn't get one for Christmas. Otherwise, OP, I could envision my future in gift receiving thanks to your post.

Oh the horror!

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to say any "thank you" and put it away in your drawer? Give me a break. It makes her happy to buy it for you, what difference does it really makes to you?

Yes, that's what I'd do-maybe someday one of your kids' will want it. Or, they can get rid of it after you're gone lol.

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don't feel badly about not liking it, OP. it's annoying, especially since it was communicated to MIL that you wouldn't enjoy that. i think she is playing games. smile, say thank you, and chuck it in a drawer.

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Anonymous wrote:Pandora charms are tacky in general.

Just say thank you and chuck it in a sock drawer.

Yup. Honestly, it's not that big of a deal. But given that your DH has made it clear that you don't want this, don't humor her by wearing it. It's small, keep it in a drawer. I agree that the baby charm is totally inappropriate, but don't give her attention either way. Smile politely, say thank you and put it with the other charm stuff. Let it go.

MIL gifts aren't the end all and be all, just consider that you get no gift from her, really, but don't take great offense. And your DH is totally on your side on this one. If she wants to engage about the bracelet, she has to do it with him.

I know it would be better to have a more considerate MIL but this is just not the hill you want to die on.

Maybe when you have kids a teddy bear will need a necklace? Just kidding...