Mil gives me present I don't want every year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, that's just how MILs are. Mine has been told repeatedly not to use my Amazon wish list as a guide to what I actually want as gifts (I use it for things I'm thinking about buying myself, DH, or our kids and it often contains multiple brands of the same type of thing I'm considering). So this year I got the cheapest of eight hand vacs on my list. I think it's obvious that if there are 8 things on a list, the person hasn't decided what they want yet, but apparently not to MIL.

Can you make it private?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I find weird is how people scrutinize gifts. I mean, unless you specifically asked for X but got Y, it is strange, but even in this case a gift is a gift, so you smile and express gratitude. IMO, part of what makes the holidays special, is not the content in the box, but seeing that someone thought of you and wanted you to be happy. Most of posters on DCUM are well off and can buy anything they want themselves, so I honestly don't get the disappointment over gifts.

If she wanted dil to be happy she would've listened and not bought what dh said she DIDNT want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, that's just how MILs are. Mine has been told repeatedly not to use my Amazon wish list as a guide to what I actually want as gifts (I use it for things I'm thinking about buying myself, DH, or our kids and it often contains multiple brands of the same type of thing I'm considering). So this year I got the cheapest of eight hand vacs on my list. I think it's obvious that if there are 8 things on a list, the person hasn't decided what they want yet, but apparently not to MIL. [/quote
Why don't you just make the wishlist private?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone who has a MIL who gives good gifts. The MIL DIL relationship is one of tolerance. We tolerate each other. If you have a better relationship with your MIL than one where you tolerate each other, count yourself lucky. My MIL's gifts this year were awful, just like they are every year.

Mine does!! Always green and the ultimate useful gift, cash! DH was actually annoyed the first time she sent a check and tokd us to buy whatever the kids want. He wanted her to shop for them.

Yes, my mother does this. Since we have very generous other family (sister on my side, SIL on my wife's side) and our own things, the kids have plenty of toys, clothes and gifts in general. But they also have their own bank accounts and thanks to Grandma, they have very healthy balances. My mother did this for my now adult nieces and one was able to buy a good used car to take to college. The other one hasn't used her money yet, but she has a lot of money saved up for whatever she wants to use it for. We call this the Grandma Fund. My kids already have a pretty big balance and they're only preschoolers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, that's just how MILs are. Mine has been told repeatedly not to use my Amazon wish list as a guide to what I actually want as gifts (I use it for things I'm thinking about buying myself, DH, or our kids and it often contains multiple brands of the same type of thing I'm considering). So this year I got the cheapest of eight hand vacs on my list. I think it's obvious that if there are 8 things on a list, the person hasn't decided what they want yet, but apparently not to MIL.

Can you make it private?

I recommend that you create a new free Yahoo account that does not include your name. Then use that to create your Amazon wish list for things you are just thinking about and leave the account that family knows about for things you are actually interested in getting. You know that you can't control your MIL and she'll check out your wish list, so just split the wish list.

[Anonymous]

I cannot wait until you bitches become MILs and YOUR DILs post about you, your crazy sons AND how much they hate you.

SWEET REVENGE

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, that's just how MILs are. Mine has been told repeatedly not to use my Amazon wish list as a guide to what I actually want as gifts (I use it for things I'm thinking about buying myself, DH, or our kids and it often contains multiple brands of the same type of thing I'm considering). So this year I got the cheapest of eight hand vacs on my list. I think it's obvious that if there are 8 things on a list, the person hasn't decided what they want yet, but apparently not to MIL.

Can you make it private?

I recommend that you create a new free Yahoo account that does not include your name. Then use that to create your Amazon wish list for things you are just thinking about and leave the account that family knows about for things you are actually interested in getting. You know that you can't control your MIL and she'll check out your wish list, so just split the wish list.

That seems overly complicated. I guess I could make it private but it's just weird that she checks out my wish list that I've never told anyone about, she had to search for it. I'll just make it private but it's just so silly that we've told her a thousand times not to look at our amazon accounts and she still goes and searches for them on Amazon.

[Anonymous]

She gave you the DH you want. Rest everything is immaterial!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot wait until you bitches become MILs and YOUR DILs post about you, your crazy sons AND how much they hate you.

SWEET REVENGE

You sound unstable.

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Anonymous wrote:are you the same poster complaining about your MIL buying your daughter a Christmas dress in her size?

Don't have kids yet. But she's already talking about the baby charm she's going to get me next.

Baby charm is inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

You need to decide that she collects something- like garden
Gnomes or ceramic chickens. Give her one every holiday. Tell her it is for her collection. I like the ceramic duck that goes on your porch that you can buy all the little outfits for

[Anonymous]

Maybe she wants it herself, but thinks she's too old for it. She is living vicariously through you, OP. When I was 7 or so, my dad really wanted some remote control car that did not exist when he was a child, so her persuaded my mom that I would be psyched to get that car for my birthday! I still remember thinking WTH, but my dad was beaming!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to decide that she collects something- like garden
Gnomes or ceramic chickens. Give her one every holiday. Tell her it is for her collection. I like the ceramic duck that goes on your porch that you can buy all the little outfits for

Lol!! I love this!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to decide that she collects something- like garden
Gnomes or ceramic chickens. Give her one every holiday. Tell her it is for her collection. I like the ceramic duck that goes on your porch that you can buy all the little outfits for

Perfect, since this is what she did for you..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, that's just how MILs are. Mine has been told repeatedly not to use my Amazon wish list as a guide to what I actually want as gifts (I use it for things I'm thinking about buying myself, DH, or our kids and it often contains multiple brands of the same type of thing I'm considering). So this year I got the cheapest of eight hand vacs on my list. I think it's obvious that if there are 8 things on a list, the person hasn't decided what they want yet, but apparently not to MIL.

Can you make it private?

I recommend that you create a new free Yahoo account that does not include your name. Then use that to create your Amazon wish list for things you are just thinking about and leave the account that family knows about for things you are actually interested in getting. You know that you can't control your MIL and she'll check out your wish list, so just split the wish list.

That seems overly complicated. I guess I could make it private but it's just weird that she checks out my wish list that I've never told anyone about, she had to search for it. I'll just make it private but it's just so silly that we've told her a thousand times not to look at our amazon accounts and she still goes and searches for them on Amazon.

It's actually very easy to make your amazon wish list private. You can also have multiple wish lists - one public, one private. Or do a 'shopping list' for the type of thing you describe, which is also private.