If you don't like your DIL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP, why do you keep asking them questions?

Maybe they are f*ing with you and giving you inaccurate information, because they know you will go into such a tailspin.

My SIL was like this, totally inappropriate, and we started giving her bad information because she was such an awful person and deserved to make an ass out of herself.

Which pp?

17:13 and 21:29 - PP sounds inappropriately nosy. If you weren't nosy, wouldn't you say something to get them to STOP talking about inappropriate information, rather than telling PP more?

PP is more out of line than the over sharer!

You don't get it. These people are sharing their information. They are either bragging or complaining. No one is asking them questions. For some reason, this has struck a nerve with you. Perhaps you see yourself in this woman?

No. But I do there are adult bullies who look for fault where there is none. Consequently, any opportunity to mock someone is fine with them. Fodder for gossip would be even better, in their book. Let it go, instead of ganging up on someone. Grow up.

You are strange. No one is mocking or ganging up on them. Their example was only provided as support to another poster that sometimes a DIL's financial choices can cause stress on her DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP, why do you keep asking them questions?

Maybe they are f*ing with you and giving you inaccurate information, because they know you will go into such a tailspin.

My SIL was like this, totally inappropriate, and we started giving her bad information because she was such an awful person and deserved to make an ass out of herself.

Which pp?

17:13 and 21:29 - PP sounds inappropriately nosy. If you weren't nosy, wouldn't you say something to get them to STOP talking about inappropriate information, rather than telling PP more?

PP is more out of line than the over sharer!

You don't get it. These people are sharing their information. They are either bragging or complaining. No one is asking them questions. For some reason, this has struck a nerve with you. Perhaps you see yourself in this woman?

No. But I do there are adult bullies who look for fault where there is none. Consequently, any opportunity to mock someone is fine with them. Fodder for gossip would be even better, in their book. Let it go, instead of ganging up on someone. Grow up.

You are strange. No one is mocking or ganging up on them. Their example was only provided as support to another poster that sometimes a DIL's financial choices can cause stress on her DH.

Does she reside with DIL and DH? How would she know this? How is it proven that she is a reliable source? Curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP, why do you keep asking them questions?

Maybe they are f*ing with you and giving you inaccurate information, because they know you will go into such a tailspin.

My SIL was like this, totally inappropriate, and we started giving her bad information because she was such an awful person and deserved to make an ass out of herself.

Which pp?

17:13 and 21:29 - PP sounds inappropriately nosy. If you weren't nosy, wouldn't you say something to get them to STOP talking about inappropriate information, rather than telling PP more?

PP is more out of line than the over sharer!

You don't get it. These people are sharing their information. They are either bragging or complaining. No one is asking them questions. For some reason, this has struck a nerve with you. Perhaps you see yourself in this woman?

No. But I do there are adult bullies who look for fault where there is none. Consequently, any opportunity to mock someone is fine with them. Fodder for gossip would be even better, in their book. Let it go, instead of ganging up on someone. Grow up.

You are strange. No one is mocking or ganging up on them. Their example was only provided as support to another poster that sometimes a DIL's financial choices can cause stress on her DH.

Does she reside with DIL and DH? How would she know this? How is it proven that she is a reliable source? Curious.

You need to ask 20:14 but she's probably long-gone.

[Anonymous]

I like my DIL. I'm just starting to get to know her. She's been good for my son so far, and she makes him happy. She is a good mother to her kids from a previous marriage. She has an interesting, lively personality and is fun to talk to. I try hard never to step on her toes or give the impression that I'd judge her in any way. It's early days, but if she is what she seems, I will soon grow to love her. Hopefully I don't drive her too crazy in any way.

My own MIL is another story. She probably likes me as a person, but she definitely hates me as a DIL. She has always wanted a DIL of her race and nationality, because in her country a DIL is a slave to the MIL. She also thinks her son would be happier with a servile woman to take care of him. She's tried to get her son to trade me in, and will probably try again. Her issues have put us through hell. She's okay as a person, but as a MIL she's a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like my DIL. I'm just starting to get to know her. She's been good for my son so far, and she makes him happy. She is a good mother to her kids from a previous marriage. She has an interesting, lively personality and is fun to talk to. I try hard never to step on her toes or give the impression that I'd judge her in any way. It's early days, but if she is what she seems, I will soon grow to love her. Hopefully I don't drive her too crazy in any way.

My own MIL is another story. She probably likes me as a person, but she definitely hates me as a DIL. She has always wanted a DIL of her race and nationality, because in her country a DIL is a slave to the MIL. She also thinks her son would be happier with a servile woman to take care of him. She's tried to get her son to trade me in, and will probably try again. Her issues have put us through hell. She's okay as a person, but as a MIL she's a nightmare.

OP here. My MIL is american, and she is the same way! So old fashioned, my way or the highway, mostly from bitterness.

Now we know what NOT to be. I commend you on your being secure with yourself enough to open your mind to another; and not be challenged by someone who is not cookie cutter of you.