how do I get over my own shit to be a good mom to my extremely SN kid?

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry OP. I hope you find the answers you are looking for. Opening up is the first step...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's a larger point here in addition to the facts about institutionalization. Telling someone in your shoes I would have left my kid at the hospital is not comforting or affirming. It does not make the SN mom feel brave or good about herself. It is a constant part of the isolation to be told 'I couldn't do it' or 'you are soooo brave' when all we are doing is getting through the day.

+1000. You either give up or do what you have to do to get yourself and your family through the day. We feel neither amazing, brave or extraordinary.

My situation is different. DS had cancer as a toddler but if one more person told me " You are soooo brave!" Or " I couldn't do it...." I would have to punch them in the teeth. What were my choices? Most days I was just exsisiting while trying to keep a toddler entrained and keep him from yanking out his central line. It sucked. It still sucks. Everything in his life is colored by the cancer - the long term side effects from the chemo are real threats.

But OP - the reason I am only half crazy rather hen full on crazy is therapy. Have you considered calling the Vienna women's center? That's where I got a referral to my therapist.

This was exactly me a few years ago. I also don't recommend telling someone going through a tough situation that they are so brave or that you couldn't do it. It is annoying and not helpful or supportive.

[Anonymous]

I understand what you're saying and to be perfectly honest, i would probably feel the same way. I have a cousin who is severely SN and I always knew I wouldn't be cut out to parent a child like that. My son is now 11 months Andries doctors have some concerns about autism. I'm panicked about that. I'm so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Find some ways to get respite. Good luck to you.