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Anonymous
Well, gee, I don't know. A doctor has stepped out of line ethically and has left a patient who needs a 20 week sonogram scrambling to find one (and perhaps now scared to ask any questions of her new doc, although I sincerely hope she won't let these fears stop her from continuing to be a strong advocate of the care she deserves). OP, many Washington docs do in-house ultrasounds. Maybe mention that you'll be needing one to whatever doctor you choose. And what's with putting a letter in your "file?" Sounds like you were naughty in school -- "This will go down on your permanent record!" If I were OP, I'd demand to see that letter and find out what the hell is in it. Please, please, please file a complaint. This is unacceptable behavior and perhaps by speaking up you will save another woman from this ordeal. I only wish someone before you had spoken up so it wouldn't have happened to you. |
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What I was getting at is this . . . what the doctor did was mainly a matter of procedure. And, as OP admits, she was looking for another doctor anyway. So, she is going to punish the doctor for feeling the same way she did? That is, that things weren't working out?
Not everything needs to be a federal case. |
Anonymous
No kidding. This thread is just filled with insane outrage 
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"What I was getting at is this . . . what the doctor did was mainly a matter of procedure. And, as OP admits, she was looking for another doctor anyway. So, she is going to punish the doctor for feeling the same way she did? That is, that things weren't working out?
Not everything needs to be a federal case." No, this doctor really crossed the line. The procedures apply to all doctors and are there for a reason. If the doctor breaks these ethical rules what other rules does she decide to bend or break? A doctor telling a patient that she doesn't have time within her schedule to answer questions, is not geared toward supporting natural childbirth, or even does not feel that she is communicating with a patient is fine though not a sign of a good caregiver. A doctor calling the patient, having a one way conversation telling the patient she is dismissed, and telling her she be a notation in her file is not. (I agree with one of the PP, what kind of childish threat is that! I will now label you forever in my own words as a pesky patient??) Listen to how worried the OP is and how she is wondering what to do for her 20 week sonogram. How difficult would it have been for the doctor to have a discussion that led to a mutally agreeble outcome? Would it have been so difficult for the doctor to convey to the OP that she would help provide some referrals or continue care until the OP found the right doctor? It is hard to get a quick appointment as a new patient. The patient may have insurance restrictions, location considerations, you name it. Leaving her in the lurch at 20 weeks is bad. The OP is a first time mom. What if based on being dropped she thinks she had to hold off on the sono until she finds a new provider 4-6 weeks later and something is missed or she develops other complications. Her previous doctor could be legally liable for the bad outcome. A good doctor may recognize that they were not a good match but would approach this in a way that put the patient's care ahead of her own ego. This doctor sounds arrogant and was punishing her patient for questioning her. These are the doctors who end up in law suits. |
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I'd like to recomend my OBGYN practice - Tepeyac Family Center. They are friendly and supportive toward unmedicated childbirth. They are also not c-section happy. They might be out of your geographical range becaue they are in Fairfax and deliver at Fair Oaks.
See my post about my own c-section experience with Tepeyac - I'm the 15:33 poster http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/35892.page#236309 I'm sorry that you've had to go through this with you first pregnancy. Best of luck in finding a provider who is a good fit! |
Anonymous
| Dr. Judith Gurdian of Capital Women's Care dismissed us from her practice for no apparent reason. What that does is literally BLACKLIST us from EVERY Capital Women's Care in the area eliminating 80+ doctors. No reason given. No explanation. |
Anonymous
| Is it just me - or does this sound vaguely like a Seinfeld episode? |
Anonymous
Did she give you no reason at all, or do you just disagree with the reasons she stated? |
Anonymous
Well, we all know how much CWC likes to pump out babies and collect as much money as possible, so I'm pretty sure you deserved it!! |
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I read a lot of posts on this board- and feel sorry for some of the doctors and nurses who get blasted on here because it seems that a lot portion of the posters are experts on birthing. No drugs. No c-sections. No monitoring. Etc... If I was told in my profession everyday how to do my job by 'google MDs' it would get old.
Sorry you were 'let go,' but it sounds like it was best for all involved. |
Anonymous
| Man, there are some crazy posters on here. If the OP was not happy with the doctor and wanted to change, why does she care. Is it a pride issue when she feels like the patient should be the decider and not the doctor? If I was asked my medical opinion by a patient and she said, I don't care, I don't want to have that done, I would definitely not want to work with that patient. Stuff happens, unexpected stuff, and sometimes the "plan" doesn't make sense. the doctor has the job of getting the baby out safely and if you don't think you can trust your doctor to make the best decisions than you clearly weren't with the correct one. Why waste you time on being pissed and wanting revenge? Life is too short. Move on and focus on more important stuff. |
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| BTW, it sounds like there are some lawyers on here. Why is everyone's first response to try to "sue." Really, is there a victim in this situation? Yes the OP has to find a new doctor but she wanted to anyway. Maybe it isn't her timing but in the end, they will both be better off. |
Anonymous
| Everyone is ready to crucify the doctor here. There are two sides to every story. Being devil's advocate, maybe the OP is a real pain in the you-know-what. Maybe she questioned every little thing the doctor did to the point the doctor didn't feel comfortable treating her. I have no idea...but....it doesn't seem fair to post a dr's name if we have no idea what the full story is. To smear someone who very well might not be guilty of anything is disgusting. |
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While I think it would ideally be a mutual decision on the part of the patient and provider to end their relationship, I actually think a provider who realizes they aren't a good fit for a mother and tells her so is doing her a favor. Many women stay with OBs or midwives who aren't a good match and then feel regretful afterwards that they didn't switch to someone who was more likeminded.
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