Dismissal from OBGYN

[Anonymous]

wow, I am kinda surprised with some of these women having tramatic birth experiences and the complaining. I ended up having my son early when I unexpectly went into preterm labor. Nothing was as I had planned. I had more drugs in my system in attempt to stop things than I could have ever imagined. In the end, my son had an extended NIUC stay but was very healthy and now a perfectly healthy 3 year old. I guess I could be disappointed and depressed over the experience but I chose to feel incredibly lucky that given the circumstance, my son was born with minimal issues. It is fine to have a plan but realize that sometimes life isn't something you can control.

[Anonymous]

I don't think women who have had traumatic birth experiences are "complaining". It sounds like in your situation, you felt that everything that happened was necessary and unavoidable. I think many women who see their birth experiences as traumatic feel that some of the interventions that were done were not necessary or beneficial, or they feel that they were treated in a disrespectful or demeaning way by their provider. So it's not about women being ungrateful for healthy babies, or necessary technology, or a change of plan, but rather women being upset because they feel their births were not managed in an evidence-based or compassionate way. I think it's an important distinction, since so many of you seem to think that women who have had traumatic experiences are just big complainers or are inflexible. If you went through a difficult birth and then later came to believe that there had not been good reason for you or your baby to have that difficult experience, you might feel traumatized.

Anonymous wrote:wow, I am kinda surprised with some of these women having tramatic birth experiences and the complaining. I ended up having my son early when I unexpectly went into preterm labor. Nothing was as I had planned. I had more drugs in my system in attempt to stop things than I could have ever imagined. In the end, my son had an extended NIUC stay but was very healthy and now a perfectly healthy 3 year old. I guess I could be disappointed and depressed over the experience but I chose to feel incredibly lucky that given the circumstance, my son was born with minimal issues. It is fine to have a plan but realize that sometimes life isn't something you can control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know of one absolutely insane friend-of-a-friend who was "dismissed" from Shady Grove Fertility. She absolutely deserved it.

I guess there are two sides to every story, and we've only heard one here.

THIS!!

[Anonymous]

OP-I think it sound like you should seek a midwife practice. I am not trying to judge but I remember my doc (who is a friend) telling me a story about how she had to convince a mom to get a csection and having to tell her that if they didn't move, the baby would die if she didn't change her mind and the woman was completely insisting on natural birth right up to that point and the doc said it never should have gotten that far. Apparently a doc can't force you into a csection. Anyway this doc (who I love and who is completely pro woman in all ways) said that that all the media on birthing shows and the Internet has gotten some women to the point that they feel they are doctors..and they aren't. She said she can almost tell who will be dificult right at the beginning and it is stressful..from an ethical point and of course a liability point because the same people who are hell bent on having a birthing experience on their terms will be the first to sue when something happens. Again..OP I am not trying to say you are this "obsessed" but maybe this doctor felt that this relationship was going in a bad direction and that she needed you to seek treatment elsewhere. Luckily there are plenty of docs and plenty of midwives who can help you.