Sound off - Ivy grads & high income earners who chose public schools over privates

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Anonymous wrote:Big 3 legacy. Ivy grad. Public.

Perhaps I should add - HHI around 200k but net worth is large (no mortgage, retirement and college funded, etc).

Hmm, I bet I know who you are....Did you grow up in Cleveland park and go to sta?

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Total HHI $375K and living in Prince George's County. Two of my kids attended a public science/tech HS that is amazing. Two are also at the University of Maryland (one on a full ride) and loving it. One child still at home will likely go to Maryland as well. Go Terps!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like we are all in are something that the private schoolers just don't get.

Does everyone who send their kids to public school speak this incoherently? Maybe I should take a poll.

If you went to an Ivy League school and send your child to public, yet can't string a sentence together, please post here.

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The illuminating thing for me about this thread is the apparent proportion of graduates of Ivy League colleges who married graduates of Ivy League colleges. Maybe I should start a thread -- did you graduate from an Ivy League college and NOT marry another Ivy Leaguer?

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No Ivies here but we do have a high HHI (600k+ depending on bonuses). Anyway, we do public because we believe in the purpose of public education, the school they go to is decent, and also because we want our children to realize they are NOT the center of the universe and that the only way they're going to get somewhere in life is through their own hard work. DH strongly believes they are more likely to learn the value of perseverance at a public school.

Not in the DC area anymore (moved to NYC a few years ago). Hoping kids will pass into one of the magnates for HS. IMO, none of the NYC privates are as good as Stuy or Bronx Sci.

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^ To add to this, the fact that neither of us went to private school (k-12 or college) and we're still doing pretty well financially (DH at 500+ and me at 100k) probably influenced our decision to send our own children to public. Our personal experience in life has been that hard work and intelligence pays off regardless of where one might start off (LMC in both our cases).

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It's interesting how so many parents in this thread don't want to send their kids to private because they don't want their child to be around snooty private school people, but yet are insufferably smug about that fact. LOL.

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OP, good thread, a slam dunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting how so many parents in this thread don't want to send their kids to private because they don't want their child to be around snooty private school people, but yet are insufferably smug about that fact. LOL.

It's a real issue though regardless of how you phrase it. I don't want my children to grow up spoiled and thinking they are entitled to a certain type of lifestyle as an adult. Now I do not believe that every private school student suffers from this problem. But I do think it's more likely to occur in an environment where teachers and admin. are naturally more sensitive to the issue of $ and the idea of "paying customers." I do think high performing students are more likely to learn to be tough and resilient in a public school where resources are scarcer. I want my kids to be the type who learn the value of visiting their professors during office hours and actively taking advantage of opportunities on offer rather than believing that opportunities should fall into their laps, kwim?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting how so many parents in this thread don't want to send their kids to private because they don't want their child to be around snooty private school people, but yet are insufferably smug about that fact. LOL.

It's a real issue though regardless of how you phrase it. I don't want my children to grow up spoiled and thinking they are entitled to a certain type of lifestyle as an adult. Now I do not believe that every private school student suffers from this problem. But I do think it's more likely to occur in an environment where teachers and admin. are naturally more sensitive to the issue of $ and the idea of "paying customers." I do think high performing students are more likely to learn to be tough and resilient in a public school where resources are scarcer. I want my kids to be the type who learn the value of visiting their professors during office hours and actively taking advantage of opportunities on offer rather than believing that opportunities should fall into their laps, kwim?

Snort. My guess is that you aren't sending your kids to hard-scrabble in the inner city. A wealthy suburban public school isn't exactly an inoculation against privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting how so many parents in this thread don't want to send their kids to private because they don't want their child to be around snooty private school people, but yet are insufferably smug about that fact. LOL.

I didn't know that "I send my children to public schools" (or even "I send my children to public schools even though I could afford private") is smug at all, let alone insufferably smug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Snort. My guess is that you aren't sending your kids to hard-scrabble in the inner city. A wealthy suburban public school isn't exactly an inoculation against privilege.

But it is probably more of an inoculation against privilege than a fancy private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's interesting how so many parents in this thread don't want to send their kids to private because they don't want their child to be around snooty private school people, but yet are insufferably smug about that fact. LOL.

It's a real issue though regardless of how you phrase it. I don't want my children to grow up spoiled and thinking they are entitled to a certain type of lifestyle as an adult. Now I do not believe that every private school student suffers from this problem. But I do think it's more likely to occur in an environment where teachers and admin. are naturally more sensitive to the issue of $ and the idea of "paying customers." I do think high performing students are more likely to learn to be tough and resilient in a public school where resources are scarcer. I want my kids to be the type who learn the value of visiting their professors during office hours and actively taking advantage of opportunities on offer rather than believing that opportunities should fall into their laps, kwim?

Snort. My guess is that you aren't sending your kids to hard-scrabble in the inner city. A wealthy suburban public school isn't exactly an inoculation against privilege.

We live in a Brooklyn. Kids go to ps 321. It's considered a "good" school but it has a mix of students from different backgrounds. Larger class sizes than in a typical private school. I'm sure my kids are not getting the same experience as children at Dalton are getting, for example. But like I said above, I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Columbia needs to be kicked out of the Ivy League if they are producing grade too clueless to know the difference between Penn and Penn State.

But just goes to show you you'd better be damn sure to get your facts straight before you call someone else out like that. Pride goeth before a fall...

Really nobody noticed the winky face? I should've made it bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Columbia needs to be kicked out of the Ivy League if they are producing grade too clueless to know the difference between Penn and Penn State.

But just goes to show you you'd better be damn sure to get your facts straight before you call someone else out like that. Pride goeth before a fall...

Really nobody noticed the winky face? I should've made it bigger.

Maybe if she'd taken lit hum, she'd have learned to read more carefully.