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jindc
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Yeah, I'm trying not to be worried - sac and yolk sac seem to be normal for 5-6 weeks, especially given by beta (it was 4390, not "almost 5,000").
My most annoying symptom is hot flashes. I get to work and I'm sweating - I got some nice cleavage sweat today! sexay! ETA: anyone else start signing up for day care yet? I was going to wait until I was released to an OB in order not to jinx it / jump the gun.... |
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Hi! Wavy checking in this morning. I so so love everyone's posts and want to encourage everyone to keep sharing. It's so nice to commiserate!
JinDC: we're all sending good vibes you're way! you're handling the situation and all the unknowns like a champ. godo luck! pls keep us posted since our fingers are all crossed for you. thank you to the 0014 poster and to Poppy for the info on sushi! i'll be interested to hear what my OB says. he tends to be on the conservative side (Dr Bridges, delivers at Sibley), so i'm guessing he will raise his eyebrows at me when i ask. sorry to hear about the extra saliva! sounds awesome -- esp for talking or making presentations at work. totally random question: has anyone felt their baby move yet? i swear i can feel the baby (so early at 8.5 weeks). DH keeps saying it's gas. i know what it feels like since i've been through it once before, and i feel like it's the baby! maybe i've gone totally off the deep end. |
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jindc: This is Wavy again.
i know how you feel about not jinxing it, but if i were you, i'd go ahead and begin the daycare search. the competition is BRUTAL. with DC1 we got on a few lists while we I was pregnant and our number has STILL not come up (he's 18 mos). one tip i'd give to people beginning their search: I would REALLY pressure the enrollment/admissions person to give you as specific a number as possible on the number of people ahead of you on the waiting list before plunking down that $50 - $150 deposit. yes, the number ahead of you is always changing, and they will say that they can't forecast how many spots will go to priority siblings, blah blah, but it's important to be able to gauge whether it's a good investment, or whehter you're just throwing your money away. We spent hundreds, and I'm now realizing that MANY of those places should NOT have accepted my deposit knowing full well that there were "several dozen" ahead of me in line. at this point, DC1 could age out of the center before our number even comes up. they make so much money off of deposits, so pls be careful! we are lucky we are not super crazy right now about day cares since DC1 will likely pave the way for where DC2 will end up, but we DO have to start considering our options. it's likely we'll do a nanny share again. i can so so highly recommend the experience for an infant as we are in one now with DC1, so we'll look there first. (if anyone has early interest in this, please let me know!) |
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I was thinking that once we hear the heartbeat, I'll start putting ourselves on lists. I have a spread sheet of all the day cares I'm interested in, so I've done the "leg work", I just have to put our names on. My next ultrasound is Tuesday, so it's not REALLY waiting that much more, and I'd feel more comfortable if I could hear the heartbeat.
That said, I live in Logan Circle and would be interested in a nanny share pending the cost - with the furlough, cost is going to be an issue next year (our savings level will go down, sadly). The only issue I see with that is that I have a large dog, many parents don't want their child around her (even though she's a TOTAL sweetie). But I would be interested - the flexibility interests me. The cost might be prohibitive though. |
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wavy again. i understand how you feel, and it's great you've already done the research! the furlough may affect us too, and with another on the way, money will definitely be tight for us.
nanny shares aren't necessarily cost prohibitive. we started at 9/hr with our nanny, which is about the same as day care. and we like dogs! we dont have issues with dogs! good luck with the ultrasound! |
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Oops! 0014 was me, pumpkin. J in DC, I agree, that all sounds very normal! And jinx or not, I'd sign up for daycare. We didn't end up using daycare (did the flex work with DH) but we did explore the option and it is nuts! Many women end up needing a nanny share (as Wavy said, another good option) because they are still on daycare wait lists up to 6 months after their baby is born. Get on the list, or, at least start researching your options for as soon as you feel comfortable. Wavy gave great advice.
Wavy, WHOA, I *hope* I can feel baby at 8.5 weeks! I think that sounds early even for a second pregnancy but I wouldn't rule anything out, after all, you know the difference between gas and baby. I think I felt my first at 15 weeks, which is way earlier than most report, and I was completely sure about it. So I believe you! Where are you guys located? Totally understand if some don't want to say at risk of giving away too much info. I'm in the Brookland DC area. So while we are not doing daycare, we have a different conundrum. We are planning to send DS to school for the first time next fall. DS, maybe because he was never in daycare or classes yet, hasn't really been sick a lot. I'm paranoid about sending him to school for the first time, where the petri dish effect will be in full swing just as I bring a newborn home. Would anyone else take this worry seriously or am I being EXTRA paranoid? By contrast to my extra paranoia with germs, I for whatever reason was pretty relaxed about what I ate during pregnancy. I resisted a lot of the pregnancy "no-nos." I told you my doc was similarly relaxed, which was nice because I didn't feel like I had to defend my choices. I am NOT encouraging anybody to listen to me or a website over their OB, or for any pregnant ladies to storm their OB's office brandishing a pamphlet from motherrisk and a middle finger (though the visual there is compelling! haha!) but if you want to do something and OB says no, I might do more research. Society has gone into overdrive, I think, in protecting us pregnant ladies from ourselves. Most of the advice is overly cautious and written for the lowest common denominator and overly broad. It's easier for experts to tell pregnant women to avoid things altogether than to make nuanced recommendations. They tell us to avoid soft cheese because they don't think every mother will know to differentiate between pasteurized and not (even here there are different risk tolerances where some women feel just aging the cheese is sufficient). Many women feel best being in the realm of overcautious, which is perfectly reasonable to me, but in case you are a "why not" type like I was (am), I thought I'd share some resources that might help you find evidence based reasoning on which cautions are reality-based, partially reality based, or total myths. Anyway, I've been on DCUM long enough to know that telling women to go online and challenge OBs sometimes goes over like a lead balloon, so I just want to reiterate that I'm not advocating one way or another or suggesting that people are over-cautious, etc. We all have our risk tolerance levels! The first two links here are well-sourced to peer reviewed things, so you can at least understand the reasoning behind the cautions as well as the "real world" risk (provided you're the type to trust the internet - personally I do think the info is credible but we're all a bit different). The last link is just a blogger who kind of breaks pregnancy down in that way the cool older sister I never had might do. http://www.babymed.com/food-and-nutrition/how-safe-it-eat-sushi-or-raw-fish-during-pregnancy http://www.motherisk.org/prof/updatesDetail.jsp?content_id=925 http://www.pregnantchicken.com/the-list/ - Pumpkin (I may not need to sign posts - if it is six miles long, signs point to pumpkin - sorry! I'll try to get myself an editor before 9 months are up). 
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Pumpkin here - we are kind of close to you. Though we aren't likely to do a nanny share, we have a dog, too and would not worry at all about a friendly dog and I bet you can find others who feel the same! Plus you could have the other family host. Also, it doesn't sound unreasonable to wait a week or so at all. |
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You'd be surprised how many parents pull their children away from our girl because he's large (shelter said Pit/Mastiff mix, but they also said she'd be 60lbs, and she's shy of 100 now). She's about 5 and sees children as just another means of receiving belly rubs. Of course, she doesn't have one in her house full time yet! But, she literally collapses whenever children come pet her so she can get belly rubs. It's pretty adorable.
That said, I'm open to a nanny share and am happy to communicate with folks here about that possibility. I'd want a 1 Feb start date, most likely. The furlough is going to really hurt us (we aren't high GS folks), but I'm trying to see the silver lining that - god willing - this all works out, I'll have a day a week to rest and have whatever appointments I need without using sick/annual leave. |
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j in DC,
So sorry about the furlough. I think this is a sad and irresponsible way to run our government. I'm a lobbyist, not a Fed, so I'm not personally impacted but the agencies I work with are (and my stepmom is a fed, and just as my dad retired earlier than he wanted due to illness, they get hit with this.). There is an expectation among my colleagues that the furloughs and sequester pain will be fairly short-lived, that there will be sufficient pain all around to force both parties to return to the table. No doubt cuts will continue but I think not as draconian. Though in your shoes that would not reassure me because with this government anything can happen as they have already proven. So sorry you're stressing about this. |
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I agree with Wavy--so great to get everyone's updates! This thread is definitely the most fun I've been on, so thanks to Pumpkin for starting and all for participating.
Re: daycares, the competition is indeed fierce, especially for infants. We didn't put our daughter in until she found one, and shocking got a spot at our favorite place (Children in the Shoe in Bethesda) really quickly. I think part of it was luck, but I was also very up-front with the directors about how much we liked it there, and contacted them often to express my continued interest. Some centers, including them, don't admit strictly based off place on the waiting list, they take into account who contacts them often expressing interest. So it's worth doing that--or at least asking about it on the tours--if you find a center you really like. All that said, a nanny share may be the way to go. Daycare was a good fit for our daughter because she's very social, and also because we waited until she was 1. If she was younger, we probably would have gone with a nanny share. The government stuff is really stressful. JinDC, I'm sorry you'll be hit so hard by it. My husband's a Fed, but works in cybersecurity so we're hoping he'll be spared some of the worst. I'm a postdoctoral fellow at NIH, and although I could easily stay in low-wage-land for another few years, am most likely going to transition to working part-time in private practice (am a psychologist). I agree with Pumpkin's take on the situation, but also wouldn't be surprised by anything. Pumpkin, so sorry to hear you've got the spitty mouth! I had it something fierce with my first, so bad I slept with a towel on my pillow for the last trimester. Ugh. I found chewing gum helped, if only because I tended to swallow the saliva. So gross. I've been taking a combo of Unisom and a vitamin B complex at night, and I swear it's helping the nausea. It's not as bad so far as it was the last time at this point (furiously knocking wood). Bagels with cream cheese also help. :^) -Poppy |
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Hi October moms! I hope you don't mind my crashing your thread. Due Oct 8th here w/ our first. I'm 32, and my husband and I also live in Logan circle. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks last year and was heartbroken, and I have a sub chorionic hematoma this time, so this baby has had about 4 sonograms and I'm not even 9 weeks- so I understand your anxiety, jin! I have high hopes for all of us!
Jin, I have begun looking at childcare here too, and I'm on the furlough list as well. Would love to chat about a potential nanny share! I'll pm you! |
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Sepilove, welcome to the October moms thread! I am so sorry for your previous loss, and hope your new pregnancy becomes less stressful as soon as possible!
I really love hearing from everyone. How is everyone feeling this week? I'm doing okay - for whatever reason I do not have much of an appetite. When I start eating I'm fine, but actually feeling hungry isn't something I'm getting. This is odd because with my first, all I wanted to do was eat (although I was sick, and I couldn't handle much of anything but starchy empty calories). This pregnancy I'm forcing myself to eat better, a "green" smoothie for breakfast to get good folate, plus some greek yogurt for protein. Then a salad with a protein for lunch, then whatever for dinner. Last pregnancy I ate a ton of crappy cereal, if I remember correctly. The other thing is, I'm not as fatigued as I was last time around. I hope that's not a bad sign! Though I'm probably sleeping more and I'm definitely getting better exercise, so maybe that's why. Anyway, hope everyone is well! - Pumpkin |
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Greetings, all!
We're on track - HB was 176 today with my "McDonnell Special" (vaginal ultrasound), measuring 6W4D which is EXACTLY where I am (1 Feb egg retrieval). I expect to be released by the RE today, and made a preemptive appointment at GW just since they usually have a wait - I'm seeing Dr Metz since she was highly recommended here. Researching day care is depressing - $2000 for bright horizons! That's a no on our end. Our jobs don't have any day care sponsorships, and even with my DH in the military (reserves), the bases are very inconvenient for getting to work. Hopefully a nanny share will work and be a little cheaper, or at least more flexibile. But MAN how do people pay for this stuff?!?! |
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YEAAAAH! That's me, Pumpkin, giving you an official congratulatory holler!! So happy for you. I mean, not happy about the outrageous costs of childcare, that part stinks. My colleagues all do nanny shares. I'm not sure how it works out for costs, but if you're paying an arm and a leg, at least you should get flexibility. "McDonnell Special?!?!?" STOP! Is that really what they call it???? I have never heard that before but now I'm glad I have because it sure is "special." I had one last time, several actually since for whatever reason they do that at the 20 week scan as well, to measure your cervix, which I was not happy about because I really hate that thing. The other thing is my OB is one of those who like to go into detail about what he's doing, and before that scan (he does them at his office) he was waving that thing around like a banana while talking about what he was going to do with it, which may have been the most awkward thing* that ever happened to me. *Yes, even more awkward than that other thing that happens to women while in the pushing stage, that nobody likes to talk about... |