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[quote=Anonymous]Oops! 0014 was me, pumpkin. J in DC, I agree, that all sounds very normal! And jinx or not, I'd sign up for daycare. We didn't end up using daycare (did the flex work with DH) but we did explore the option and it is nuts! Many women end up needing a nanny share (as Wavy said, another good option) because they are still on daycare wait lists up to 6 months after their baby is born. Get on the list, or, at least start researching your options for as soon as you feel comfortable. Wavy gave great advice.

Wavy, WHOA, I *hope* I can feel baby at 8.5 weeks! I think that sounds early even for a second pregnancy but I wouldn't rule anything out, after all, you know the difference between gas and baby. I think I felt my first at 15 weeks, which is way earlier than most report, and I was completely sure about it. So I believe you!

Where are you guys located? Totally understand if some don't want to say at risk of giving away too much info. I'm in the Brookland DC area.

So while we are not doing daycare, we have a different conundrum. We are planning to send DS to school for the first time next fall. DS, maybe because he was never in daycare or classes yet, hasn't really been sick a lot. I'm paranoid about sending him to school for the first time, where the petri dish effect will be in full swing just as I bring a newborn home. Would anyone else take this worry seriously or am I being EXTRA paranoid?

By contrast to my extra paranoia with germs, I for whatever reason was pretty relaxed about what I ate during pregnancy. I resisted a lot of the pregnancy "no-nos." I told you my doc was similarly relaxed, which was nice because I didn't feel like I had to defend my choices. I am NOT encouraging anybody to listen to me or a website over their OB, or for any pregnant ladies to storm their OB's office brandishing a pamphlet from motherrisk and a middle finger (though the visual there is compelling! haha!) but if you want to do something and OB says no, I might do more research. Society has gone into overdrive, I think, in protecting us pregnant ladies from ourselves. Most of the advice is overly cautious and written for the lowest common denominator and overly broad. It's easier for experts to tell pregnant women to avoid things altogether than to make nuanced recommendations. They tell us to avoid soft cheese because they don't think every mother will know to differentiate between pasteurized and not (even here there are different risk tolerances where some women feel just aging the cheese is sufficient). Many women feel best being in the realm of overcautious, which is perfectly reasonable to me, but in case you are a "why not" type like I was (am), I thought I'd share some resources that might help you find evidence based reasoning on which cautions are reality-based, partially reality based, or total myths.

Anyway, I've been on DCUM long enough to know that telling women to go online and challenge OBs sometimes goes over like a lead balloon, so I just want to reiterate that I'm not advocating one way or another or suggesting that people are over-cautious, etc. We all have our risk tolerance levels!

The first two links here are well-sourced to peer reviewed things, so you can at least understand the reasoning behind the cautions as well as the "real world" risk (provided you're the type to trust the internet - personally I do think the info is credible but we're all a bit different). The last link is just a blogger who kind of breaks pregnancy down in that way the cool older sister I never had might do.

http://www.babymed.com/food-and-nutrition/how-safe-it-eat-sushi-or-raw-fish-during-pregnancy  
 
http://www.motherisk.org/prof/updatesDetail.jsp?content_id=925

http://www.pregnantchicken.com/the-list/

- Pumpkin (I may not need to sign posts - if it is six miles long, signs point to pumpkin - sorry! I'll try to get myself an editor before 9 months are up). :)

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