Has anyone had to terminate for chromosomal reasons?

[Anonymous]

Oh, OP--- so very sorry for your loss, and for the ordeal you and your partner are going through. My heart goes out to you. Much love to you right now.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry OP. I wish you so much caring and peace in the next few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP one last time. Our story ends here.

We miscarried naturally at about 1:00 this morning, at 15w1d. We were already at GW--I'd been having terrible cramps and some light bleeding, and since I had also been told I had placenta previa, we knew we couldn't ride it out at home...I wasn't interested in bleeding out. Within 30 minutes of our arrival I was bleeding scary amounts and, we later learned, had passed the baby. We were in the ER all night and then the OR this morning; they had to do a D&C to address the bleeding and get all the placental tissue. But the odds are good that we will never know why this baby didn't make it.

Physically i am ok, though i feel like a car has driven over my uterus (though i will say, the team at GW was amazing--kind, competent, caring). Emotionally, I am as you would expect; we knew this loss was very possible but that doesn't mean we aren't aching with grief. The part that is really saddening me is that we lost our tiny baby in that horrible filthy bathroom off the ER lobby--what a terrible, tragic, completely wrong place. It's going to take me awhile to grieve that particular loss.

But we at least have this: we know we did all we could, and we were at least spared the suffering of having to make the agonizing choice to terminate. Now we know for sure that this baby would never have made it. If that's what the outcome had to be, i am thankful to nature for taking her course.

I remember the Charlotte character on Sex and the City saying after an adoption fell through, "That wasn't our baby. We just haven't gotten the baby we are supposed to have...yet." That's what I'm trying to remind myself: that as much as we hoped it would be...this wasn't our baby. All we can do is hope that the next one is truly ours.

Thank you once again for everything.

Thanks for the update, OP. Please focus on the bolded part. Imaging living with more uncertainty, having to make a terrible decision amid conflicting and incomplete information and and live with a possibility that you were wrong for the rest of your life. You did your absolute best and showed what a great mother you are going to be. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

OP, Ann here. I am so very very sorry. Hold on to the bolded part. This one wasn't meant to be, and you didn't have to choose.

Move forward. You can move forward now. And now you can start grieving. May the grief be short and may the pain lessen with each passing day.

[Anonymous]

Very sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself OP and allow yourself to grief. You have been very strong through all this and hopefully you will be blessed with a healthy baby soon.
Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP, tears started falling on my iPad as soon as I read your post. There was part of me that hoped that this would all be okay. Please remember what a strong and caring mother you were for these 15+ weeks and how loved your little baby is. Give yourself time and to grieve and please keep telling yourself that your baby is coming and will come. Xoxoxoxo

[Anonymous]

OP, this is 19:10 from the first page. We went through something similar as I previously mentioned. Just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and that I'm so sorry for your loss. {{{hugs}}}

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Be gentle with yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

There are no words. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you and your partner -- take care of one another. <3

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[Anonymous]

So sorry for your loss, OP. I know how it hurts - I lost two myself back in 2009. One at 9 weeks in January and one at 20 weeks in October. Be kind to yourself, take all the time you need to grieve, and surround yourself with supportive people. The only thing that helped me to heal was the passage of time and talking with women who have been there. It does get better. Stay strong, stay positive, and you will get your baby. Sending you hugs and positive vibes.

[Anonymous]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP, I am so sorry. I have been following your posts and worried about you and really rooting for you and your baby. In a way, I guess it's best that you didn't have to choose, but oh, I am just so very sad and so sorry for you. Your baby is out there. Stay strong.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP.