Can anyone tell me why its so bad to brag about your kids?

[Anonymous]

Because they are part of you.

My friends with adopted kids joke that it is okay for them to brag since they aren't genetically responsible for their good looks and inherit intelligence . I love that.

The only time I brag is to their grandparents---we have a mutual 'aren't they so frickin' adorable, smart, etc.".. They are the only acceptable ones to brag too and that is where I can release details to a captive audience.

I actually tend to downplay my kids to others...I am modest by nature anyways. I've always had trouble with compliments. Whenver I get one...I tend to say 'thanks...BUT..and then follow with something that is wrong'.

However, I do seriously love to hear when a friend's child accomplishes something spectacular. I feel great for the parents and the child. It's the BS bragging about everyday mundane things that are a drag. Hey--if your kid got into Harvard or won the lead role in a play, got a sports scholarship, etc...tell me if we're close--I'd be thrilled for you and not feel it detracts from my kids in the least.

[Anonymous]

"However, I do seriously love to hear when a friend's child accomplishes something spectacular. I feel great for the parents and the child. It's the BS bragging about everyday mundane things that are a drag. Hey--if your kid got into Harvard or won the lead role in a play, got a sports scholarship, etc...tell me if we're close--I'd be thrilled for you and not feel it detracts from my kids in the least. "

If I am a CLOSE friend, I'll know that your kid has applied to Harvard , yada , yada, yada and I'll ASK you about it. If I care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"However, I do seriously love to hear when a friend's child accomplishes something spectacular. I feel great for the parents and the child. It's the BS bragging about everyday mundane things that are a drag. Hey--if your kid got into Harvard or won the lead role in a play, got a sports scholarship, etc...tell me if we're close--I'd be thrilled for you and not feel it detracts from my kids in the least. "

If I am a CLOSE friend, I'll know that your kid has applied to Harvard , yada , yada, yada and I'll ASK you about it. If I care.

If you live in California how the h*ll am I going to know Susie got in..unless you tell me. Are you clarivoyant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish. We brag.

No shit.

We (Jews) are also genuinely happy for our friends and love hearing them brag as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are part of you.

My friends with adopted kids joke that it is okay for them to brag since they aren't genetically responsible for their good looks and inherit intelligence . I love that.

The only time I brag is to their grandparents---we have a mutual 'aren't they so frickin' adorable, smart, etc.".. They are the only acceptable ones to brag too and that is where I can release details to a captive audience.

I actually tend to downplay my kids to others...I am modest by nature anyways. I've always had trouble with compliments. Whenver I get one...I tend to say 'thanks...BUT..and then follow with something that is wrong'.

However, I do seriously love to hear when a friend's child accomplishes something spectacular. I feel great for the parents and the child. It's the BS bragging about everyday mundane things that are a drag. Hey--if your kid got into Harvard or won the lead role in a play, got a sports scholarship, etc...tell me if we're close--I'd be thrilled for you and not feel it detracts from my kids in the least.

Are you afraid by downplaying your kids to others that your kids will think you're not actually proud of them?????!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm from the midwest -- not a WASP -- but Catholic. We don't brag about our kids -- we already know how great they are. My DD actually asked me why I never bragged about her -- I told her it made other people feel bad to hear about how accomplished she is and they hate to hear someone else's kid got into an Ivy. We do let other people brag about theirs. One person was trying to tell me why Clemson was better than Princeton. That was interesting.

This is totally not true! Why are people validating this shallow aspect of some people's personalities by saying it is rude to brag, when really it only hurts shallow, competitive people's feelings? I would be thrilled and excited for someone whose kid got into an ivy league school. Good for them! It's no skin off my nose to be happy for someone else. i seriously don't get the "hurt feelings."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are part of you.

My friends with adopted kids joke that it is okay for them to brag since they aren't genetically responsible for their good looks and inherit intelligence . I love that.

The only time I brag is to their grandparents---we have a mutual 'aren't they so frickin' adorable, smart, etc.".. They are the only acceptable ones to brag too and that is where I can release details to a captive audience.

I actually tend to downplay my kids to others...I am modest by nature anyways. I've always had trouble with compliments. Whenver I get one...I tend to say 'thanks...BUT..and then follow with something that is wrong'.

However, I do seriously love to hear when a friend's child accomplishes something spectacular. I feel great for the parents and the child. It's the BS bragging about everyday mundane things that are a drag. Hey--if your kid got into Harvard or won the lead role in a play, got a sports scholarship, etc...tell me if we're close--I'd be thrilled for you and not feel it detracts from my kids in the least.

I feel the same way -- but I feel that way about my biological child, too. My kids are not an extension of me. Maybe people who are offended by talking about our kids are the ones who see it as bragging because they think kids are an extension of their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:because no one cares.

....because they're all jealous of you!

Brag on.....but don't overdo it!