Can anyone tell me why its so bad to brag about your kids?

[Anonymous]

I love hearing about other ppl's kids but it gets boring if it is ALL they talk about - just like anything else.

I personally love to hear a little about everything in my friends lives - I want to hear fun stories about your kid - some are milestones and some are just funny things that happens. As a friend I also want to hear about great things that happened at work or if you found a great recipe and it turned out great. I also want to hear all about your great vacation that you just took.
If you talk about only one of these things - I might get bored but as a friend I want to hear from my friends.

Some of you ppl are weird do say it is tacky. It is only tacky if you are bragging to someone who could not care less - some of us are nicer than others and actually like to hear it.

[Anonymous]

White Anglo-Saxon Protestant. Few belong, many aspire.

[Anonymous]

I NEVER brag about my child. NEVER. NEVER. NEVER. Yes, I am part WASP. (Old family, no money!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love hearing about other ppl's kids but it gets boring if it is ALL they talk about - just like anything else.

I personally love to hear a little about everything in my friends lives - I want to hear fun stories about your kid - some are milestones and some are just funny things that happens. As a friend I also want to hear about great things that happened at work or if you found a great recipe and it turned out great. I also want to hear all about your great vacation that you just took.
If you talk about only one of these things - I might get bored but as a friend I want to hear from my friends.

Some of you ppl are weird do say it is tacky. It is only tacky if you are bragging to someone who could not care less - some of us are nicer than others and actually like to hear it.

Bragging is frowned upon by the WASP culture. How hard is that to understand?

[Anonymous]

I used to be in the camp of it's never bad to talk about your kids and I'm always interested. Since having a kid, though, my social circle has shifted and I've had to listen to many people who are not actually my friends talk about their kids. Some of them are "bragging" about really different parenting styles (along the lines of "he was so bad he got a swat by 10am!") or are asking me about how my child is doing as a launchpad to talk about their own children ("how did your checkup go? we just had ours and xyz is so great about our kids, let me tell you blah blah blah."). Some of these instances are just general social/interpersonal weaknesses (the person who uses me as a foil went on about herself in other ways before having kids) and some are just irritating because I would never be talking to this person if we didn't have kids the same age so I really wish they'd just be quiet in general.

Also, whenever someone is projecting into the future from a present action that's irritating bragging. So, saying you're proud of your kid for working to get on the honor roll is fine for me from almost anyone; talking about how this is going to get him into xyz elite school/program is almost always rude, boring, and bragging.

[Anonymous]

My MIL brags constantly about her kids, grandkids, neices and nephews, friend's children. It's like she's always trying to impress the person she's talking to, by how accomplished or rich someone in her family is. Loves to brag about money. It almost seems like a mental impairment. It's strange because she is very intelligent and attractive and seem normal for the first 3 minutes you talk to her. She has also told my friends how awful their children are. She also implies my parents and sister and her family are poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL brags constantly about her kids, grandkids, neices and nephews, friend's children. It's like she's always trying to impress the person she's talking to, by how accomplished or rich someone in her family is. Loves to brag about money. It almost seems like a mental impairment. It's strange because she is very intelligent and attractive and seem normal for the first 3 minutes you talk to her. She has also told my friends how awful their children are. She also implies my parents and sister and her family are poor.

See now this is just rude.

[Anonymous]

It's boring and obnoxious. Nobody cares how sweet, smart or athletic your precious child is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's boring and obnoxious. Nobody cares how sweet, smart or athletic your precious child is.

I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's boring and obnoxious. Nobody cares how sweet, smart or athletic your precious child is.

I do.

Yeah, I do, too. Please stop saying no one cares about other people's children! I might not want to hear about them for 30 minutes, but if I'm your friend, for sure I'd like to hear about the great things your kid did.

[Anonymous]

Bragging is ALWAYS in poor taste in the WASP culture.

[Anonymous]

I'm Jewish. We brag.

[Anonymous]

I think it's because you don't want to be perceived as a braggart who is getting your own validation from your kids, and you should not rub in other people's face how great your kid is because it might make them feel bad about THEIR kid.

If someone asks, then I will discuss it.

And FB is one's own page - put and say whatever you want. People can hide you or unfriend you if they don't like it. It's not the same as an in person conversation.

[Anonymous]

I'm from the midwest -- not a WASP -- but Catholic. We don't brag about our kids -- we already know how great they are. My DD actually asked me why I never bragged about her -- I told her it made other people feel bad to hear about how accomplished she is and they hate to hear someone else's kid got into an Ivy. We do let other people brag about theirs. One person was trying to tell me why Clemson was better than Princeton. That was interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish. We brag.

No shit.