GT kids vs Non GT kids in Center Schools

[Anonymous]

I prefer genpop..... kinda like prison......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer genpop..... kinda like prison......

[Anonymous]

I can see how there would be more teasing / bad attitude from AAP/GT kids to non AAP/GT kids (at least in DC area) than the other way around. Similar to how there is probably more mean girl bullying than traditional boy bullying. We have strong memories of the traditional bullying (probably even the former boy bullies themselves) and are strongly guiding our kids against it. At least on this board, many seem to find bragging about academic ability okay and it would not surprise me to see their kids do/feel the same. And for a long time mean girl behavior was not identified as bullying and still seems to have its defenders and apologists.

[Anonymous]

My DD is in AAP center program, she has never seen nor experienced this in the 2 years she has been there. She has a few non-AAP friends and they never talk about it.
I think it has to do with what they are hearing in the home or from their parents.

To the pp who said that their son told her that some AAP students are not always good kids.....this is very true. My daughter has told me the same thing. There are a couple of kids in her class that are not trouble makers but do poorly in school academically.

[Anonymous]

^PP again, forgot to add...

I always tell my DD that just because you are in AAP doesnt mean you are anymore smarter then a non-AAP kid and that an AAP kid can do poorly the same way a non-AAP kid can be more successful.

[Anonymous]

PP here - not to take this of course (and perhaps there is a different forum) but what is up with the "mean girl syndrome". It starts early - KG - and it is so obvious.

As a parent of two non white students I will have to say that the mean girl syndrome is not limited to "white girls" as a PP mentioned. In fact the 2nd Generation Asian and Middle Eastern kids are perhaps the worst. My second grader came home in tears earlier this year because a 1st and 2nd grade refused to let her play with them because of the color of her skin and the fact she was wearing sweat pants. As a good parent I told her to go back to school the next day and kick their A***, which she did. Of course she was the one who got in trouble. I agree with a PP that the schools have spent so much time focusing on traditionally bullying (which is not a bad thing) but they have forgotten about the "mean girls".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here - not to take this of course (and perhaps there is a different forum) but what is up with the "mean girl syndrome". It starts early - KG - and it is so obvious.

As a parent of two non white students I will have to say that the mean girl syndrome is not limited to "white girls" as a PP mentioned. In fact the 2nd Generation Asian and Middle Eastern kids are perhaps the worst. My second grader came home in tears earlier this year because a 1st and 2nd grade refused to let her play with them because of the color of her skin and the fact she was wearing sweat pants. As a good parent I told her to go back to school the next day and kick their A***, which she did. Of course she was the one who got in trouble. I agree with a PP that the schools have spent so much time focusing on traditionally bullying (which is not a bad thing) but they have forgotten about the "mean girls".

Kids are mean sometimes yes, but they didn't touch her! So your DD to beat them up...interesting. So now your kid will turn into a violent maniac everytime someone doesnt want to be friends with her! Good job!

[Anonymous]

Parents should do what they can to teach kindness and inclusion at home.

[Anonymous]

It is not a pleasant environment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not a pleasant environment

It is actually a delightfully nice spring day today.

[Anonymous]

Busted - so obviously, you are a troll.

Anonymous wrote:
As a parent of two non white students I will have to say that the mean girl syndrome is not limited to "white girls" as a PP mentioned. In fact the 2nd Generation Asian and Middle Eastern kids are perhaps the worst. My second grader came home in tears earlier this year because a 1st and 2nd grade refused to let her play with them because of the color of her skin and the fact she was wearing sweat pants. As a good parent I told her to go back to school the next day and kick their A***, which she did. Of course she was the one who got in trouble. I agree with a PP that the schools have spent so much time focusing on traditionally bullying (which is not a bad thing) but they have forgotten about the "mean girls".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's very likely the kids who are doing that are mimicking what they hear at home.

I believe this also. Parents are so hyped up on how special their kids are - they need remember kids are listening to their conversations.

My kid was able to mix somewhat with the GenEd at her center school - in fact, her very best new friend in 4 years in ES AAP was a Gen Ed student.

[Anonymous]

My kid still does not know AAP. He thinks he is in a regular class. In fact, the boys from his second grade class all think they are in a gen ED class as they were classmates last year and there is no difference this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid still does not know AAP. He thinks he is in a regular class. In fact, the boys from his second grade class all think they are in a gen ED class as they were classmates last year and there is no difference this year.

All classes below third grade (except for pull outs) are Gen Ed classes, so your son and his friends are correct in their thinking. Full time AAP classes don't start until third grade.

[Anonymous]

I see gen Ed kids suffering from poor self esteem because their parents have such a chip on their shoulder about AAP.

The vast majority of AAP kids do not make hurtful comments. Some do and I blame this on their parents as well. It is not an award it is merely a placement supposedly made on needs.

Also, I think bullying against gifted kids is much more common than the other way around, especially as the kids get older. Where is the outcry against that?