Things I Don't Feel Guilty About But Should....

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Anonymous wrote:I lie to my child all the time. For example, Oh we can't go to Chuck E. Cheese tonight...it is closed for cleaning.

That's an odd lie. Are your kids brats or tantrum terrors? I couldn't imagine having to lie to my kids about not being able to go to Chuck E Cheese, that's just not something people do all the time so why lie about it all the time?

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Things to feel guilty about but I am not.

I let my dog sleep in my bed. I zillow peoples houses to see how much they paid for them. I will read your mail if you leave it out. I have super sonic hearing as my friends call it and I can ease drop everywhere.

I tell kids not to do something and when they are gone I do it. I sometimes take a nap at work and no one knows.

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I hate clutter and junk and crap mucking up my house. I throw things out all the time when they don't get claimed on freecycle or craiglist and I don't care if they end up in the landfill as long as they are out of my house. When my daughter doesn't put away things like crappy McD toys from gma, goody bag junk, etc., I throw it all away. I sort the mail over the trash can and I throw away things I know my husband will be interested in, like the val-pak, because I know he will look at the coupons and plan to use one, never use it, and insist that I not throw away the pack because he wants to use a coupon and he can't remember which one.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with 12:51 - it is unkind to lock the dog down there all day, much like it would be unkind to lock your kid in the basement all day - alone, but with sufficient food and water.

It is just crazy to equate kids to a dog. Just ridiculous. A DOG is an animal, not a CHILD.

No one is equating a dog and a child. But, nice try with the distraction.
A dog has certain minimum needs and being social is one of them. Would you like to be locked in a room and ignored for 8 hours a day? Do you let the dog out to pee?

And, I question someone who cannot have a conversation with their spouse about something like this. Or who feels the need to separate the children from the dog. If the dog is that vicious that s/he can't be with the dog, you should rehome the dog.

Maybe it is the kids that are the problem if they are anything like their mother.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with 12:51 - it is unkind to lock the dog down there all day, much like it would be unkind to lock your kid in the basement all day - alone, but with sufficient food and water.

It is just crazy to equate kids to a dog. Just ridiculous. A DOG is an animal, not a CHILD.

No one is equating a dog and a child. But, nice try with the distraction.
A dog has certain minimum needs and being social is one of them. Would you like to be locked in a room and ignored for 8 hours a day? Do you let the dog out to pee?

And, I question someone who cannot have a conversation with their spouse about something like this. Or who feels the need to separate the children from the dog. If the dog is that vicious that s/he can't be with the dog, you should rehome the dog.

I agree with this. While I feel sorry for OP's dog, it seems her problems are larger than that.

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Anonymous wrote:When my husband leaves for work I put the dog in the basement. It's finished, warm, she has water - I just cannot deal with the huge dog AND two toddlers. If he knew the dog spent the day downstairs he'd be pissed. Oh well, he isn't home taking care of small children so he has no idea how annoying it is to keep the dog from the kids and vice versa.

What do you do that you should feel guilty about but dont?

Dogs are social animals and want to be with people. This is cruel, and you should feel guilty. You should re-home the dog if you cannot take care of it properly.

I wish I could call your DH and rat you out so that your poor dog would get what it needs.

If the dog wasn't in the basement she'd be in our bedroom - SLEEPING. She sleeps all day. Why is it any different to put her in the basement which is warm as opposed to our bedroom where it is also warm. My goal is to keep her and the kids apart, which can't happen if she's upstairs.

And no, I do not feel guilty at all. In fact, the other night we forgot she was down there and I did not feel guilty that she slept down there.

Wow - do you ever let her out to do her business?

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Anonymous wrote:I hate pets. They are so much work and so expensive. So we don't have any.

I hate people who hate pets.

Me too.

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Why do you hate me just because I don't like animals? Is there a rule you have to have one in your home? I think it's gross. I would never be cruel or neglect an animal, I just don't want one.

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LOL to the poster not feeling guilty for leaving her kids in preschool 6 or 7 hours a day. My kids were in daycare for 10 hours a day from age three months, and I certainly felt no guilt.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL to the poster not feeling guilty for leaving her kids in preschool 6 or 7 hours a day. My kids were in daycare for 10 hours a day from age three months, and I certainly felt no guilt.

Thank you! I never felt any guilt either....until I read that this poster thinks she should feel guilt for 7 hours per day.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you hate me just because I don't like animals? Is there a rule you have to have one in your home? I think it's gross. I would never be cruel or neglect an animal, I just don't want one.

Yes, there is sort of a rule that to be considered a nice, normal, red-blooded American family, you must have a pet. As example, notice how EVERY new U.S. president gets a dog within a month or two of taking office? Seriously, tell me the last time there wasn't a First Pet in the White House. And it's not because they're all animal lovers, either. The Clintons got rid of Buddy within weeks of leaving. And I think W's cat was adopted by his personal secretary. Not the behavior of a doting pet owner. It's just part of the image of the Good American.

Anti-clutter PP, I am sadly pro-clutter, or so you would think from looking at my house. However, crappy dollar store toys from the grandparents and most goody-bag contents are in the trash as soon as the kid turns her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate clutter and junk and crap mucking up my house. I throw things out all the time when they don't get claimed on freecycle or craiglist and I don't care if they end up in the landfill as long as they are out of my house. When my daughter doesn't put away things like crappy McD toys from gma, goody bag junk, etc., I throw it all away. I sort the mail over the trash can and I throw away things I know my husband will be interested in, like the val-pak, because I know he will look at the coupons and plan to use one, never use it, and insist that I not throw away the pack because he wants to use a coupon and he can't remember which one.

I do this too. All of it. I HATE clutter.

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Anonymous wrote:When my husband leaves for work I put the dog in the basement. It's finished, warm, she has water - I just cannot deal with the huge dog AND two toddlers. If he knew the dog spent the day downstairs he'd be pissed. Oh well, he isn't home taking care of small children so he has no idea how annoying it is to keep the dog from the kids and vice versa.

What do you do that you should feel guilty about but dont?

Dogs are social animals and want to be with people. This is cruel, and you should feel guilty. You should re-home the dog if you cannot take care of it properly.

I wish I could call your DH and rat you out so that your poor dog would get what it needs.

If the dog wasn't in the basement she'd be in our bedroom - SLEEPING. She sleeps all day. Why is it any different to put her in the basement which is warm as opposed to our bedroom where it is also warm. My goal is to keep her and the kids apart, which can't happen if she's upstairs.

And no, I do not feel guilty at all. In fact, the other night we forgot she was down there and I did not feel guilty that she slept down there.

Wow - do you ever let her out to do her business?

Of course she goes out to pee, several times a day plus a walk. And of COURSE my husband knows she goes down there, he just prefers she doesn't so I don't bring it up. I have a baby, a 3 year old and a one year old so I really could care less the dog SLEEPS downstairs all day. My job is to care for the kids, not the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with 12:51 - it is unkind to lock the dog down there all day, much like it would be unkind to lock your kid in the basement all day - alone, but with sufficient food and water.

It is just crazy to equate kids to a dog. Just ridiculous. A DOG is an animal, not a CHILD.

No one is equating a dog and a child. But, nice try with the distraction.
A dog has certain minimum needs and being social is one of them. Would you like to be locked in a room and ignored for 8 hours a day? Do you let the dog out to pee?

And, I question someone who cannot have a conversation with their spouse about something like this. Or who feels the need to separate the children from the dog. If the dog is that vicious that s/he can't be with the dog, you should rehome the dog.

I agree with this. While I feel sorry for OP's dog, it seems her problems are larger than that.

The dog is not vicious at all, but my 3 year old is allergic and I would rather keep him healthy than keep the dog in my presence all day.

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Enough about the dog already.
My MIL loves my kid and I'm pissed at her so she doesn't get to see him. She's trying to make up to me and I am pleased. The first time she came over after DS was born I cried at how demanding and impossible she was. She also cried that visit, and she'll cry every single time if that's what it takes for her to get off my back. All that whining about how I don't appreciate her and don't take care of my yard, my husband, whatever b/c I'm too busying working -- screw her. It's not my decision to work: it's her son's. And if he can't figure out a way to tell her and she won't listen to me: then she can cry about missing her grandson rather than cry about how I don't take care of stupid stuff.