Man expenses date to his company

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Anonymous wrote:Wow everyone saying cheap, but I’d totally appreciate that he doesn’t needlessly spend money. If his company has a perk, I’d view it as a negative if he ignored it! That’s just leaving money on the table—pure profit going straight to people who have way more money already.

If this was your husband you'd be pissed he was using family money to pay for lunch when the company policy reimburses. Why would a woman expect a man she's dating to be bad with money? That's a red flag too.

Because OP and everyone else who jumped to conclusions are idiots.

Here's the real answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BF is CHEAP when it comes to expenses (I once heard him ask for a receipt for a soda at his hotel so he could include it in his travel expenses). He also sent in some XOXO small appliance because they had a lifetime warranty. For $9. I was amused.
But is he cheap when it comes to me? No. I’m rather thrifty myself and insisted on paying half for months after we started dating. Now he pays. He WANTS to pay.
I appreciate being with someone who works hard and expects value for his money. When his job reimburses him he takes advantage of it. And yes, he did comp 2 meals that I know of to his company. He did pay for my half though 😁

Girlllllllllllllll
Not a flex.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter who asked, you split cost of a date unless equality is for your convenience only.

I am very liberal guy and don't agree with this.

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Anonymous wrote:Red Flag 🚩
He’s cheap and dishonest.

Move on.

Yes even if not dishonest he’s still cheap and wants to show he’s going to be that way from the start. I could see this as normal for committed partners but not at a first romantic date

The cheap one is the one who didn't split the bill or offer to pay.

Not true - he asked her out for lunch. He pays. If he wanted to be a saver he could have offered a coffee date . Would have allowed him to follow standard dating etiquette (which most women still value a lot), and show at least some chivalry.

You are a cheap freeloader. You should always offer to split the bill.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean in a way you were a business expense.

In what way is that?

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I would probably not see this person again.

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Businessman my behind. Such a turn off. The blue collar workers I date pay the tab quietly without any attentions drawn to it.

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i have done this with my spouse on business trips, whats the big deal if he paid for your portion.

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if he picks up the tab there are expecations or you end up splitting the bill

https://nypost.com/2023/03/14/uncomfortable-date-with-demanding-man-caught-on-camera/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started seeing a man (40s) and we met for a lunch date yesterday as our offices are close by.

He picked up the tab immediately but then he asked the waiter for the itemized bill so that obviously he could expense it to his company. I found that to be so utterly uncharming. Not so much being cheap, but more being dishonest.

Am I making something out of nothing?

You sure are jumping to a lot of conclusions and judgments, which is a huge red flag. He should ghost you.

[Anonymous]

First date should be grab coffee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently started seeing a man (40s) and we met for a lunch date yesterday as our offices are close by.

He picked up the tab immediately but then he asked the waiter for the itemized bill so that obviously he could expense it to his company. I found that to be so utterly uncharming. Not so much being cheap, but more being dishonest.

Am I making something out of nothing?

Why didn't you at least offer to pay for your half of the lunch? I mean you're cheating his company too aren't you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow everyone saying cheap, but I’d totally appreciate that he doesn’t needlessly spend money. If his company has a perk, I’d view it as a negative if he ignored it! That’s just leaving money on the table—pure profit going straight to people who have way more money already.

If this was your husband you'd be pissed he was using family money to pay for lunch when the company policy reimburses. Why would a woman expect a man she's dating to be bad with money? That's a red flag too.

Because OP and everyone else who jumped to conclusions are idiots.

Yes. The simplest explanation is that he is using a personal credit card for all his expenses because he gets reward point, airplane miles, cash back, or some similar incentive. But in order to max out his rewards he uses it for both personal and business expenses. Therefore he needs to keep detailed itemized records of all expenses so he can properly segregate them on his monthly invoices when he submits expense reimbursement requests for the business expenses to his employer. Many people do this, it's very common.

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Anonymous wrote:If it was itemized maybe he was only expensing his portion not the entire bill. You got a free lunch, you could have pick up the bill but you didn't.

This. My old job covered lunch daily when we were in the office. And if for dietary reasons or whatever you didn’t eat what they provided you could expense something else that day