Would you be upset?

[Anonymous]

Yep. Id be annoyed.
Sit them both down & let them know they need to be more responsible with the cars.
If they have - any issues moving forward they will have to pat for or split costs.

The end.

[Anonymous]

Pay^

[Anonymous]

Is there a bus or train that gets him close enough he can uber? I would spend a decent amount of money not to make a 10 hour drive in one day. Or, I would somehow turn it into something fun to do — like stop somewhere you wanted to go, etc/

[Anonymous]

I have forgotten things and dinged my car. I don't think either is a hanging offense, but yeah, fobboy and I would be taking a road trip and leaving very early Saturday so we'd be back in time for a nice family dinner before they go back.

Nice dinner to be cooked by daughter and cleaned up by son. As atonement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can still be a nice weekend. You choose the vibe. If they are good kids who made a mistake then they’re just people who made a mistake. Have you never scratched the car or lost the keys or something like that. It really doesn’t matter.

Not as a teen bc I bought my own car as an adult and lost keys once as an adult so it was all my responsibility. And it’s impossible to have a nice weekend bc logistically it means we might have to drive ds 10 hours round trip since no locksmith can do this tomorrow.

Your kids are both older than 18. They are adults. Stop infantilizing them.

[Anonymous]

Here’s the solution for your son. Have his roommate overnight the key. He will get back to school a little late, but it means you don’t have to make the drive

[Anonymous]

Op -- you're talking about pretty ordinary young-adult/teen stuff. You are "so upset"? I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

No, he is 19. I don’t believe anyone can rent a car at that age.

Strangely enough, he can rent a UHaul

[Anonymous]

Mad no, annoyed yes. Then I’d realize being annoyed isn’t going to fix it and I’d enjoy the last day or two I had left with my kids.

[Anonymous]

Get some real problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:GURL. You need to lay down the law with your son. He is going to end up a failure to launch who will either end up single or divorced, because women nowadays don’t tolerate male helplessness.

Here is what you do:

1. Drive him to school on Sunday, but he has no car the rest of the semester. You don’t get him the new key. You don’t drive his car to him in a month. He’s gonna walk everywhere the next few weeks.

2. He has to figure out the key situation himself. If he doesn’t know what to do, he can ask Google or ChatGPT.

3. He’s broke? Okay, he signs a document that he will reimburse you for the key and the gas spent driving him back to school.

4. The summer job is non-negotiable. Give him a deadline to find one, and if he doesn’t, no car this summer (I’m assuming you paid for it?). No phone, no WiFi, no groceries, nothing that you pay for.

You need to make a man out of this boy. Plenty of guys are fully self sufficient at age 19.

All of this.