Women's colleges

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Anonymous wrote:Co-worker's daughter went to Smith and came back as a gender-neutral person.

Their gender identity probably would have been the same at a co-ed school! That’s more of an internal thing than external environment (but nice when you can be somewhere supportive that allows you to embrace who you are).

It would not have happened if they’d gone to SMU or Ole Miss.

Their core of who they are would be the same (even if others try to suppress or deny it at SMU or Ole Miss). More than likely though, this student would opt not to attend those schools know the lack of acceptance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended Wellesley College. It was a mistake for me to go to an all girls school. I never made any male relationships and now
I’m in my late 30s with no prospects either. Academics were great though.

This sounds like a you problem

[Anonymous]

Women's colleges are less than 50% lesbian. It is mostly curious and say about a fifth are completely straight. So it is a very welcoming environment and a safe place to learn about yourself and your sexuality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is at Mount Holyoke and loves it. She is getting an amazing education and has made a close group of friends. It is absolutely the right place for her.

This was my experience at MHC 35ish years ago.

Mine too. Going to school there changed my life trajectory in a very positive way. I don’t think I would have gone to law school if I hadn’t gone to MHC. I came from a working class family and MHC gave me financial aid. The small classes, friendships, and leadership opportunities really gave me the space to develop and feel confident in myself.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is trans and at a seven sisters women’s college. I won’t say which one because honestly there are VERY few trans women there. My guess is less than five, if that. Many more students who identify as nonbinary or as trans men. (I have no idea how many…just more.)

In order to go to a women’s college as a trans woman, you’d have to know you were trans before applying, have supportive parents and have the good grades and ECs to get in and have a way to pay for it! And that would automatically limit many people. You’d also have to be ok knowing there wouldn’t be many other trans women. Because there just aren’t that many people in general!

My daughter has been very happy. It’s a very liberal environment, which we wanted (obviously). I worry less about her safety. She has not experienced any prejudice that I am aware of. I do think all of her friends are queer, but I know there are at least some straight girls because she’s complained about people taking their boyfriends to do things in the bathroom. 😂

She has been very happy so far. I think the traditions are really nice. I think it has the same issues as going to any very small school—mostly that there aren’t that many classes. Probably not the right choice if you want a party school. A lot of really smart nerdy nice kids that I have seen, but my daughter is a smart nice nerd so maybe that’s what I see!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is trans and at a seven sisters women’s college. I won’t say which one because honestly there are VERY few trans women there. My guess is less than five, if that. Many more students who identify as nonbinary or as trans men. (I have no idea how many…just more.)

In order to go to a women’s college as a trans woman, you’d have to know you were trans before applying, have supportive parents and have the good grades and ECs to get in and have a way to pay for it! And that would automatically limit many people. You’d also have to be ok knowing there wouldn’t be many other trans women. Because there just aren’t that many people in general!

My daughter has been very happy. It’s a very liberal environment, which we wanted (obviously). I worry less about her safety. She has not experienced any prejudice that I am aware of. I do think all of her friends are queer, but I know there are at least some straight girls because she’s complained about people taking their boyfriends to do things in the bathroom. 😂

She has been very happy so far. I think the traditions are really nice. I think it has the same issues as going to any very small school—mostly that there aren’t that many classes. Probably not the right choice if you want a party school. A lot of really smart nerdy nice kids that I have seen, but my daughter is a smart nice nerd so maybe that’s what I see!

You’re awesome and your daughter is very lucky to have you as a mom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is trans and at a seven sisters women’s college. I won’t say which one because honestly there are VERY few trans women there. My guess is less than five, if that. Many more students who identify as nonbinary or as trans men. (I have no idea how many…just more.)

In order to go to a women’s college as a trans woman, you’d have to know you were trans before applying, have supportive parents and have the good grades and ECs to get in and have a way to pay for it! And that would automatically limit many people. You’d also have to be ok knowing there wouldn’t be many other trans women. Because there just aren’t that many people in general!

My daughter has been very happy. It’s a very liberal environment, which we wanted (obviously). I worry less about her safety. She has not experienced any prejudice that I am aware of. I do think all of her friends are queer, but I know there are at least some straight girls because she’s complained about people taking their boyfriends to do things in the bathroom. 😂

She has been very happy so far. I think the traditions are really nice. I think it has the same issues as going to any very small school—mostly that there aren’t that many classes. Probably not the right choice if you want a party school. A lot of really smart nerdy nice kids that I have seen, but my daughter is a smart nice nerd so maybe that’s what I see!

You’re awesome and your daughter is very lucky to have you as a mom.

I agree with this. You sound like a good parent. It’s sad that so many kids are not able to be their authentic selves because of fear of how their families will react. While to you it probably feels natural to love your child as they are, it isn’t the case for many. So, sending my love to you and your family. I very much appreciate when people get this right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is trans and at a seven sisters women’s college. I won’t say which one because honestly there are VERY few trans women there. My guess is less than five, if that. Many more students who identify as nonbinary or as trans men. (I have no idea how many…just more.)

In order to go to a women’s college as a trans woman, you’d have to know you were trans before applying, have supportive parents and have the good grades and ECs to get in and have a way to pay for it! And that would automatically limit many people. You’d also have to be ok knowing there wouldn’t be many other trans women. Because there just aren’t that many people in general!

My daughter has been very happy. It’s a very liberal environment, which we wanted (obviously). I worry less about her safety. She has not experienced any prejudice that I am aware of. I do think all of her friends are queer, but I know there are at least some straight girls because she’s complained about people taking their boyfriends to do things in the bathroom. 😂

She has been very happy so far. I think the traditions are really nice. I think it has the same issues as going to any very small school—mostly that there aren’t that many classes. Probably not the right choice if you want a party school. A lot of really smart nerdy nice kids that I have seen, but my daughter is a smart nice nerd so maybe that’s what I see!

You’re awesome and your daughter is very lucky to have you as a mom.

I agree with this. You sound like a good parent. It’s sad that so many kids are not able to be their authentic selves because of fear of how their families will react. While to you it probably feels natural to love your child as they are, it isn’t the case for many. So, sending my love to you and your family. I very much appreciate when people get this right.

+100

[Anonymous]

Proud Smithie!! Loved my time in Northampton. Can’t wait to take my hubby and kids to visit. Fingers crossed my daughter will apply!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This question, again. OP, please do a search. There have been some threads previously about women's schools. Not everyone is lesbian. I loved my experience at Wellesley. FWIW, all my friends were straight and they're all happily married (to men) and have kids who are now applying to college. Apply if you feel it is the right fit. Don't discount it for stupid reasons like everyone is lesbian.

Same. About half of my Wellesley friends married MIT guys and we are all happily married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is trans and at a seven sisters women’s college. I won’t say which one because honestly there are VERY few trans women there. My guess is less than five, if that. Many more students who identify as nonbinary or as trans men. (I have no idea how many…just more.)

In order to go to a women’s college as a trans woman, you’d have to know you were trans before applying, have supportive parents and have the good grades and ECs to get in and have a way to pay for it! And that would automatically limit many people. You’d also have to be ok knowing there wouldn’t be many other trans women. Because there just aren’t that many people in general!

My daughter has been very happy. It’s a very liberal environment, which we wanted (obviously). I worry less about her safety. She has not experienced any prejudice that I am aware of. I do think all of her friends are queer, but I know there are at least some straight girls because she’s complained about people taking their boyfriends to do things in the bathroom. 😂

She has been very happy so far. I think the traditions are really nice. I think it has the same issues as going to any very small school—mostly that there aren’t that many classes. Probably not the right choice if you want a party school. A lot of really smart nerdy nice kids that I have seen, but my daughter is a smart nice nerd so maybe that’s what I see!

That is awesome that your daughter found such a welcoming place. I get why transwomen attend a women’ college, but why would the school accept someone who is a transman? You said there are transmen there. Isn’t this completely against the whole purpose of the school? How do the women feel about having a man in their classes and dorms?

[Anonymous]

That is awesome that your daughter found such a welcoming place. I get why transwomen attend a women’ college, but why would the school accept someone who is a transman? You said there are transmen there. Isn’t this completely against the whole purpose of the school? How do the women feel about having a man in their classes and dorms?

So, I think the schools handle this differently. Some of them do not allow you to apply if you’re already living as a man. (Honestly, I can’t remember which ones. Wellesley is sticking out in my mind but I’m not sure. Whereas I think Mount Holyoke does, but I could be wrong.) But if you transition while you are there, they let you finish your degree.

I’d imagine this generally happens because someone realizes they’re trans in college or has the freedom to come out. And then maybe they have friends. They like the school. Maybe they got a scholarship. I’m not sure.

I don’t know how they feel. At several of the schools you already have some men in your classes. So that is not strange. My daughter isn’t friends with any trans men, so I don’t know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This question, again. OP, please do a search. There have been some threads previously about women's schools. Not everyone is lesbian. I loved my experience at Wellesley. FWIW, all my friends were straight and they're all happily married (to men) and have kids who are now applying to college. Apply if you feel it is the right fit. Don't discount it for stupid reasons like everyone is lesbian.

Same. About half of my Wellesley friends married MIT guys and we are all happily married.

I don’t think any of you realize how things have changed in the last generation at women’s schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question, again. OP, please do a search. There have been some threads previously about women's schools. Not everyone is lesbian. I loved my experience at Wellesley. FWIW, all my friends were straight and they're all happily married (to men) and have kids who are now applying to college. Apply if you feel it is the right fit. Don't discount it for stupid reasons like everyone is lesbian.

Same. About half of my Wellesley friends married MIT guys and we are all happily married.

I don’t think any of you realize how things have changed in the last generation at women’s schools.

I think it’s awful that these women correlate their college experience with access to men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question, again. OP, please do a search. There have been some threads previously about women's schools. Not everyone is lesbian. I loved my experience at Wellesley. FWIW, all my friends were straight and they're all happily married (to men) and have kids who are now applying to college. Apply if you feel it is the right fit. Don't discount it for stupid reasons like everyone is lesbian.

Same. About half of my Wellesley friends married MIT guys and we are all happily married.

I don’t think any of you realize how things have changed in the last generation at women’s schools.

You again? You seem to think you are some sort of self proclaimed expert without any actual experience. Those of us who do have experience with women's colleges have told you you are wrong yet you keep going.

OP, ignore this troll. A women's college isn't for everyone but it's a tremendously empowering experience. And while they do attract a lot of LGBTQ+ students because they are affirming/accepting, there are also a lot of straight girls there - my DD included - who are having a wonderful college experience.