how to date if working non-stop

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is not the time to be dating. Wait until you've finished school and that gets you a better paying job with fewer hours.

What's the draw to dating you if you have a lot of debt and are never available?

She is not getting younger. Once post 40 both men and women start looking older and older. I'm sorry but people are visual. She will have a bigger pool of men to choose from at 40 vs 45.

Sorry but you are wrong. I got divorced and tried to date in my early 40s. But with limited time availability all men who were serious about me weee getting needy. jealous and unhappy not being prioritized. If it’s someone as busy as OP, they’ll have difficult time coordinating busy schedules.
Maybe the pool is smaller after 45 but it will be overcompensated by OP having more time for dating. I see no big difference in attractiveness for men I dated at 42 vs 47; they are just a little older.

OP posted on finance forum that she’s basically broke this goes to nursing school. Being broke will affect her dating pool way worse than being 47 vs 43.

How being broke would affect her dating pool? A lot of women don't pay or expect to pay for anything during dating these days so how is it different for her if she is making $200K or $65K?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is not the time to be dating. Wait until you've finished school and that gets you a better paying job with fewer hours.

What's the draw to dating you if you have a lot of debt and are never available?

She is not getting younger. Once post 40 both men and women start looking older and older. I'm sorry but people are visual. She will have a bigger pool of men to choose from at 40 vs 45.

Sorry but you are wrong. I got divorced and tried to date in my early 40s. But with limited time availability all men who were serious about me weee getting needy. jealous and unhappy not being prioritized. If it’s someone as busy as OP, they’ll have difficult time coordinating busy schedules.
Maybe the pool is smaller after 45 but it will be overcompensated by OP having more time for dating. I see no big difference in attractiveness for men I dated at 42 vs 47; they are just a little older.

OP posted on finance forum that she’s basically broke this goes to nursing school. Being broke will affect her dating pool way worse than being 47 vs 43.

How being broke would affect her dating pool? A lot of women don't pay or expect to pay for anything during dating these days so how is it different for her if she is making $200K or $65K?

It certainly will affect longer term relationship potential. Most men are wary not to date broke women (even if they pay for dates first couple months later on couples share significant expenses). A 47yo professional woman making 200K and contributing her share towards rent /travel will be more attractive than a 43 yo broke nurse, given both are similarly attractive. Plus he won’t need to pay off her debts if he’s with a solvent partner.

But of course she can find somone for casual (eg paid dates and short term sex). She just seems not interested in that

[Anonymous]

It also depends how maintained and pretty OP is. Even after her school, she would be working a lot to take care of her debt and her health is not the best.