how to date if working non-stop

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.

You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.

People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.

But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?

Of course she’ll be able to meet someone after 47. WTF

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.

You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.

People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.

But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?

Why do you keep trying to neg OP? No, she shouldn't settle for a dud just because she's busy. Sounds like you're a big loser who wants to undermine womens self worth, as that's the only way you can get a date. Sad, but not OPs problem.

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.

You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.

People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.

But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?

Have you read the thread? PPs say that unless she wants a fwb (ie someone to take care of those sexual needs), she needs to focus on school. If she just wants sex, that's easy. It sounds like she wants an actual relationship, but of course only OP knows what she wants.
Yes, I think OP will be able to find someone after 47 if that's what she wants. Stop telling women to settle. It's gross.

I am a woman PP who posted earlier. I am in my 50s and have a lot of friends and family where women want to do everything and never want to settle but they always talk that they can't find a good man. It is all good if OP don't want a relationship but seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. If she is so desperate for a relationship then why go to school? Find someone and be in the relationship; there are plenty of them.

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.

You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.

People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.

But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?

Have you read the thread? PPs say that unless she wants a fwb (ie someone to take care of those sexual needs), she needs to focus on school. If she just wants sex, that's easy. It sounds like she wants an actual relationship, but of course only OP knows what she wants.
Yes, I think OP will be able to find someone after 47 if that's what she wants. Stop telling women to settle. It's gross.

I am a woman PP who posted earlier. I am in my 50s and have a lot of friends and family where women want to do everything and never want to settle but they always talk that they can't find a good man. It is all good if OP don't want a relationship but seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. If she is so desperate for a relationship then why go to school? Find someone and be in the relationship; there are plenty of them.

What is wrong with you? Discouraging women from education just to get a man? How desperate and pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.

You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.

People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.

Ok, so? She's 47 and won't be in school anymore. She's paying to attend school. She should be focusing on that. She will have plenty of time to date once she completes school. Playing around with f*** boys who won't commit because she can't commit is just a waste of time that she could be using to further her schooling and career.

But looks like OP has sexual needs and she wants to take care of that and also handle other business in her life. With all this going on, do you think OP would be able to find someone even after 47?

Have you read the thread? PPs say that unless she wants a fwb (ie someone to take care of those sexual needs), she needs to focus on school. If she just wants sex, that's easy. It sounds like she wants an actual relationship, but of course only OP knows what she wants.
Yes, I think OP will be able to find someone after 47 if that's what she wants. Stop telling women to settle. It's gross.

I am a woman PP who posted earlier. I am in my 50s and have a lot of friends and family where women want to do everything and never want to settle but they always talk that they can't find a good man. It is all good if OP don't want a relationship but seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. If she is so desperate for a relationship then why go to school? Find someone and be in the relationship; there are plenty of them.

What is wrong with you? Discouraging women from education just to get a man? How desperate and pathetic.

It’s not Pp but op is the one who is trying to do everything

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Anonymous wrote:There are low-tech strategies for squeezing more hours from the day:
- alter your sleep schedule to abide by the next time zone to your east
- do not shop (for anything) on a Tuesday, at least not before 4 pm
- if you commute by car, always travel in middle lane
- same with sofas/couches, middle seat is your friend
- watch TV on mute
- lunch hour = hour of power

what does this has to do with OP's question?

These are strategies that can help OP find more time for dating and make more use of the time OP already has. Like the saying goes, the first three letters of funeral spell fun. It's not who you know, but knowing you who.

I don't think driving in the middle lane or sitting on the middle cushion has anything to do with OPs time crunch and dating. Wtf.

Well then that is your loss, boss-lady. Middle lane, middle seat, middle row is always the best way to go. Another easy way to squeeze more time from the hour/day/week is to read the map with your fingertips and see the stars with your ears, I you catch my draft. YMMV

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You will have a much easier time dating and finding a man who is okay with you not being available most time compared to a man in a similar situation like you

Men who are extremely busy like you will have a very hard time finding a woman why is fine with them not being available most of the time. Women's love language is primarily physical proximity.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is not the time to be dating. Wait until you've finished school and that gets you a better paying job with fewer hours.

What's the draw to dating you if you have a lot of debt and are never available?

She is not getting younger. Once post 40 both men and women start looking older and older. I'm sorry but people are visual. She will have a bigger pool of men to choose from at 40 vs 45.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is not the time to be dating. Wait until you've finished school and that gets you a better paying job with fewer hours.

What's the draw to dating you if you have a lot of debt and are never available?

She is not getting younger. Once post 40 both men and women start looking older and older. I'm sorry but people are visual. She will have a bigger pool of men to choose from at 40 vs 45.

Sorry but you are wrong. I got divorced and tried to date in my early 40s. But with limited time availability all men who were serious about me weee getting needy. jealous and unhappy not being prioritized. If it’s someone as busy as OP, they’ll have difficult time coordinating busy schedules.
Maybe the pool is smaller after 45 but it will be overcompensated by OP having more time for dating. I see no big difference in attractiveness for men I dated at 42 vs 47; they are just a little older.

OP posted on finance forum that she’s basically broke this goes to nursing school. Being broke will affect her dating pool way worse than being 47 vs 43.

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You make it work.
My boyfriend has a kid, we both work alot too.

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You date someone in the same situation. You're going to nursing school? Surprised you all aren't already dating each other.

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Anonymous wrote:You date someone in the same situation. You're going to nursing school? Surprised you all aren't already dating each other.

She’s deeply in debt based on her other post. Like, high interest credit card debt, not sure about living situation. So you are suggesting she dates a similarly broke dude with no financial discipline ?

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Anonymous wrote:You date someone in the same situation. You're going to nursing school? Surprised you all aren't already dating each other.

If they both are busy and all that then it is not going to be a relationship, just a FWB situation. Not sure if OP needs that but it is going to be an issue with her dating like this.

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Anonymous wrote:You date someone in the same situation. You're going to nursing school? Surprised you all aren't already dating each other.

She’s deeply in debt based on her other post. Like, high interest credit card debt, not sure about living situation. So you are suggesting she dates a similarly broke dude with no financial discipline ?

Not sure if the other person needs to be broke but it would definitely not work with OP. Looking at her debt, I doubt she could afford 50/50 part of the dating. She would need someone who could spend money on dates and also be ok with the amount of time she is away for school and work.

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dating with this busy schedule would only bring frustration and disappointment and takes your energy away from other things.