Do you let your kids physically fight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Surprised at the number of people who think this is okay.

so very low brow and low class

Meh, least I won't have kids that grow up needing constant therapy.

My boys wrestled for an hour last night, then threw socks at a ceiling fan like 20 minutes past their bedtime. I didn't make a big stink about it. My parenting philosophy is simple, stolen from George Carlin:

-"Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things"

They're only kids once, and if they're having good fun, being siblings? Then so be it. If that makes me 'low class' then honestly, IDGAF.

You will be paying for it one way or another when they are older - maybe not therapy (because tough guys don’t do therapy) - more likely drug rehab or suicide. You know the majority of suicides are white middle aged men - most of whom never learned to control emotions or even talk about them. Play fighting is just an immature way to cope.

Are you ok? Have you met elementary school age boys? Watch recess or really any soccer/football/sports game and you will notice the boys love touching / wrestling each other. They often greet eachother by wrestling or fake punching. We are talking about play fighting and wrestling here, not real fighting out of anger. Do you maybe not see the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This entire thread sums up why there are so many whiny, ill equipped adults (both male and female)... some of the parents on here coddle their kids preventing them from properly developing and becoming regular adults... kids like to wrestle, both boys and girls. Nothing wrong with letting them do it as long as it's safe.

Where's the line between roughhousing and trying to solve problems with violence?

Sometimes it's very thin-to-nonexistent.

Who said anyone is solving problems? Literally they do it for fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This entire thread sums up why there are so many whiny, ill equipped adults (both male and female)... some of the parents on here coddle their kids preventing them from properly developing and becoming regular adults... kids like to wrestle, both boys and girls. Nothing wrong with letting them do it as long as it's safe.

Where's the line between roughhousing and trying to solve problems with violence?

Sometimes it's very thin-to-nonexistent.

Apparently someone studied this and adult women who didn't grow up with brothers aren't able to distinguish between real and play fighting. The rest of us (men and women with brothers) are able to tell a lot more accurately.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/growing-friendships/201506/do-boys-need-rough-and-tumble-play

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe there’s so many people who say no. I would never let my kids truly ‘fight’ each other, but I have three boys and they love to do stuff like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This entire thread sums up why there are so many whiny, ill equipped adults (both male and female)... some of the parents on here coddle their kids preventing them from properly developing and becoming regular adults... kids like to wrestle, both boys and girls. Nothing wrong with letting them do it as long as it's safe.

Where's the line between roughhousing and trying to solve problems with violence?

Sometimes it's very thin-to-nonexistent.

Apparently someone studied this and adult women who didn't grow up with brothers aren't able to distinguish between real and play fighting. The rest of us (men and women with brothers) are able to tell a lot more accurately.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/growing-friendships/201506/do-boys-need-rough-and-tumble-play

I grew up with only a sister and have two boys same age as the OP. It’s not a hard concept to distinguish between rough and tumble play and true fighting. If one is coming at the other in anger, that’s not rough and tumble play and you put a stop to it.

Rough and tumble play is seen across mammalian species. It’s normal! If I had boys that didn’t ever want to do it I would think that is strange.

[Anonymous]

I let my two knuckleheads fight for dinner.