| Withdraw immediately. You knew this already though, didn’t you? |
this is correct. and you are wrong. all schools know they need to admit x students to yield y students. but you are keeping your name in the x pile, and when you know you are not a yes. you should withdraw. x becomes x-1. and they WILL fill that spot to push it back to x |
What does this have to do w/the ED requirements? |
It does not say withdraw immediately on any contract. |
| The selfishness of presumably smart parents here is astounding. |
You have poor character, feel bad for your kids. |
Everyone knows the understanding and intent. Stroke your ego, be a jerk, follow your own rules…but don’t be obtuse and pretend otherwise. |
| Some of the colleges are not eager to see the applications withdrawn. Many of them don't have a link or option to click in the portal. My dc just ended up emailing those schools. Who knows if they got the email or processed it. |
right - you can always come up with excuses. but in this current climate I don't see the point of thinking about others. Just do what's best for you. |
| I don't see how it involves stroking one's ego. If anything, it would probably be good for closure and for the kid to feel fortunate if they learned they were rejected by their EA schools. |
Wow, that’s rough. Sending best wishes. |
I am confused. There are no excuses in my post. I was relaying his experience. |
+1. THIS and THIS is what your high school College counselor will tell you. Release those applications so others on the same high school can be considered or reconsidered |
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Helped DC get organized and churned through them all (about 8 EA and RD that were submitted, including one early acceptance that was declined) the weekend after ED acceptance, like once we were sure the deposit cleared and the portal showed it was received.
Took the oppty to discuss how this was respectful to peers, schools and the process. Thought out loud about who might get the scholarship offer that DC was turning down on the RD offer, and took extra care to be sure the person noted on the scholarship offer letter was notified that DC declined (to try to help get the funds to another student). Thought out loud about who from DC’s school might get a coveted slot at the selective EA schools where DC applied. Maybe a friend with a similar profile, where admissions may choose just one of them? Maybe that really hardworking girl in bio class who was really hoping for this as her dream school, but couldn’t easily ED for financial reasons? Helped with the process, guiding in what to do where there wasn’t an easy withdraw app button to click. Who might you email? What would you say and how? Next step was letting those who helped know the outcome - writing thoughtful emails to recommenders and guidance counselor. Some guidance was needed. This is a parenting opportunity. Step up. |
This. |