How soon after an ED acceptance does a student need to withdraw EA applications?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid waited to confirm everything with high school college counselor (so, a day or so) and his wasn’t ED, rather restricted early action.

Waiting to see if a kid gets into an EA with an ED in hand gives me the icks, quite honestly. Why do that, other than useless bragging rights or self-congratulations? I don’t think it is “unethical” but I wish kids would be happy with the acceptance they have. That sort of behavior contributes to the rat race mentality, imo, but I am sure there are people who think differently than me.

It's not for bragging rights, but rather validation? My kid applied ED to a school that was not their absolute number one choice, but one where they had a pretty good shot and where applying ED would increase their odds by a lot (based on the acceptance percentages). If this kid got into another school, it would let them know that it wasn't just ED that got them in but they were a strong applicant all around. Of course, if they get rejections from EA schools, then that might sting a little also. I noticed on the CollegeKickstart page that ED decisions are generally released earlier than EA ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I know what I'm supposed to do, but is there a way to justify doing what I want to do?"

But waiting for 1 day or even 2 days is normal and well within "what I'm supposed to do"? Sounds like other people wait 1 week and there's no issue - why does one have to respond within the hour of getting admitted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid waited to confirm everything with high school college counselor (so, a day or so) and his wasn’t ED, rather restricted early action.

Waiting to see if a kid gets into an EA with an ED in hand gives me the icks, quite honestly. Why do that, other than useless bragging rights or self-congratulations? I don’t think it is “unethical” but I wish kids would be happy with the acceptance they have. That sort of behavior contributes to the rat race mentality, imo, but I am sure there are people who think differently than me.

It's not for bragging rights, but rather validation? My kid applied ED to a school that was not their absolute number one choice, but one where they had a pretty good shot and where applying ED would increase their odds by a lot (based on the acceptance percentages). If this kid got into another school, it would let them know that it wasn't just ED that got them in but they were a strong applicant all around. Of course, if they get rejections from EA schools, then that might sting a little also. I noticed on the CollegeKickstart page that ED decisions are generally released earlier than EA ones.

The acceptance in-hand IS validation and reward. Agree to disagree with the idea that the EA result is helpful in any way.

Further, if it is bc they want to hear from their “absolute number one” to which they applied EA, you are inviting trouble. Can you imagine how many regrets that kid will have if they are accepted to EA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid waited to confirm everything with high school college counselor (so, a day or so) and his wasn’t ED, rather restricted early action.

Waiting to see if a kid gets into an EA with an ED in hand gives me the icks, quite honestly. Why do that, other than useless bragging rights or self-congratulations? I don’t think it is “unethical” but I wish kids would be happy with the acceptance they have. That sort of behavior contributes to the rat race mentality, imo, but I am sure there are people who think differently than me.

It's not for bragging rights, but rather validation? My kid applied ED to a school that was not their absolute number one choice, but one where they had a pretty good shot and where applying ED would increase their odds by a lot (based on the acceptance percentages). If this kid got into another school, it would let them know that it wasn't just ED that got them in but they were a strong applicant all around. Of course, if they get rejections from EA schools, then that might sting a little also. I noticed on the CollegeKickstart page that ED decisions are generally released earlier than EA ones.

I'd be careful encouraging your kid to do this. I agree with others it is not in the spirit of what ED is supposed to be, but more importantly your kid is in the kind of a position that leads to regretting ED choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my kids did it within the hour. why not? it can only help your classmates.

If the decisions are made already (e.g., coming that week), it won't help your classmates.

If the decisions come out next month, yes, it could help your classmates.

True. If coming that week, just wait.

[Anonymous]

2-3 minutes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2-3 minutes

6-7!

[Anonymous]

Do not invite trouble into your house. IF your kid gets into their ED school, if doesn't matter when the other schools decided b/c they aren't options anyway. You and your DC agreed to give up that knowledge by choosing. IF your kid gets in, that's where they have to know. It's not going to be helpful to know there were other options that weren't really available to them b/c of a choice that was made months ago. IF the ED app is successful, shut the rest down.

[Anonymous]

My kid says that many of her peers that got in ED, waited to see where they got in EA. She accepted and paid immediately, but will always wonder where she could have gotten in. I wonder as well . She is happy where she landed, so it is all good!

[Anonymous]

I know most people do not care about others, but honestly I think it is pretty shitty to wait just to see - as someone above says, some decisions are made at the last minute, and withdrawing those apps could conceivably help another kid or two at her HS. When my dd got into her ED, she withdrew her EA from a highly selective school the same evening she got her decision. College admissions officers know the high schools they cover well - at ours, schools routinely take someone off the wait list when another declines an offer. Why not try to have good karma here and just be happy she gets into her ED?

[Anonymous]

Do it immediately. Waiting just to see if he got other admits is unethical, unfair to classmates and a bit desperate. Not to mention if he doesn’t get in, he will feel bad. If he does, he will start having regrets.

[Anonymous]

I would check with the counselor on this, usually you have a couple weeks to pay the ED deposit. They don’t expect you to pay and withdraw within hours when you’re dropping $80K a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:within 24 hours

Funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would check with the counselor on this, usually you have a couple weeks to pay the ED deposit. They don’t expect you to pay and withdraw within hours when you’re dropping $80K a year.

This.
Within a few weeks is fine.

[Anonymous]

At public schools this is a non-issue. Counselors don’t care about withdrawals much. They don’t even have the bandwidth to track kids’ status. Kids can’t take as long as they feel like.