Sleepovers during Thanksgiving vacation week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In 2 years, sophomore DD will be in a perpetual sleepover with zero oversight from you. I wouldn’t fight this.

Hopefully your parenting skills are better than your math skills.

In 2 years OP’s sophomore will be a senior living at home.

Following this logic why don’t we all just stop bothering at the start of high school.

Your comprehension skills are worse than pp’s math skills, by far. The degree of independence is vastly different. One night sleepover under the same roof as the parents in sophomore year is a reasonable expectation in preparation to living independently in two and a half years when they go to college.

Following this logic, teens need to be given an increasing degree of independence at the start of high school, and even earlier. If that gives you pause, it’s time to land the helicopter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are relaxed about this.

Kids had weird Covid years. They deserve some extra fun now.

+1. For how many years of your life do you get to have the emotional closeness and fun of sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

So true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

I think assuming that the hair-braiding bakers will automatically turn into sneaky booze hounds isn’t founded by any kind of evidence. I don’t subscribe to the “my child would never” philosophy, but I also don’t assume that my kids will do whatever I did, either. Both types of parenting are ego-driven, even if they manifest differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

I think assuming that the hair-braiding bakers will automatically turn into sneaky booze hounds isn’t founded by any kind of evidence. I don’t subscribe to the “my child would never” philosophy, but I also don’t assume that my kids will do whatever I did, either. Both types of parenting are ego-driven, even if they manifest differently.

Didn’t say anything was automatic. The point is most kids want to experiment at some point and push boundaries. It’s part of growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

I think assuming that the hair-braiding bakers will automatically turn into sneaky booze hounds isn’t founded by any kind of evidence. I don’t subscribe to the “my child would never” philosophy, but I also don’t assume that my kids will do whatever I did, either. Both types of parenting are ego-driven, even if they manifest differently.

Didn’t say anything was automatic. The point is most kids want to experiment at some point and push boundaries. It’s part of growing up.

That's still an assumption, i don't really think it's most. It's not part of growing up, kids grow up just fine without experimenting.

[Anonymous]

Holidays are fine since we don’t go anywhere and don’t have people over. One night max though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In 2 years, sophomore DD will be in a perpetual sleepover with zero oversight from you. I wouldn’t fight this.

Hopefully your parenting skills are better than your math skills.

In 2 years OP’s sophomore will be a senior living at home.

Following this logic why don’t we all just stop bothering at the start of high school.

Your comprehension skills are worse than pp’s math skills, by far. The degree of independence is vastly different. One night sleepover under the same roof as the parents in sophomore year is a reasonable expectation in preparation to living independently in two and a half years when they go to college.

Following this logic, teens need to be given an increasing degree of independence at the start of high school, and even earlier. If that gives you pause, it’s time to land the helicopter.

Now sleepovers are a key stepping stone to independence? Ha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

I think assuming that the hair-braiding bakers will automatically turn into sneaky booze hounds isn’t founded by any kind of evidence. I don’t subscribe to the “my child would never” philosophy, but I also don’t assume that my kids will do whatever I did, either. Both types of parenting are ego-driven, even if they manifest differently.

Didn’t say anything was automatic. The point is most kids want to experiment at some point and push boundaries. It’s part of growing up.

That's still an assumption, i don't really think it's most. It's not part of growing up, kids grow up just fine without experimenting.

Not sure if you consider drinking alcohol prior to 21 experimenting but most of them are definitely going to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 nights in a row? Excessive and weird. Also, we would say no anyway because we don’t want crabby kids for thanksgiving.

It’s not unusual to have a weekend together with a good friend and having other friends join. She’s in high school, she not in the third grade.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know one person who denies sleepovers for their children, especially their teenagers.

Sleepovers have been a part of American culture for generations. A nice treat for your hardworking kid at the end of the week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 nights in a row? Excessive and weird. Also, we would say no anyway because we don’t want crabby kids for thanksgiving.

It’s not unusual to have a weekend together with a good friend and having other friends join. She’s in high school, she not in the third grade.

It’s very unusual. You must be the party/crash house we are warning about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know one person who denies sleepovers for their children, especially their teenagers.

Sleepovers have been a part of American culture for generations. A nice treat for your hardworking kid at the end of the week.

We know one family who doesn’t allow them. Nutters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 nights in a row? Excessive and weird. Also, we would say no anyway because we don’t want crabby kids for thanksgiving.

It’s not unusual to have a weekend together with a good friend and having other friends join. She’s in high school, she not in the third grade.

It’s very unusual. You must be the party/crash house we are warning about.

+1 a “weekend” together? Never heard of that. Maybe PP’s chile in an only? If not, I feel sorry for the poor siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

I think assuming that the hair-braiding bakers will automatically turn into sneaky booze hounds isn’t founded by any kind of evidence. I don’t subscribe to the “my child would never” philosophy, but I also don’t assume that my kids will do whatever I did, either. Both types of parenting are ego-driven, even if they manifest differently.

Didn’t say anything was automatic. The point is most kids want to experiment at some point and push boundaries. It’s part of growing up.

You said the “the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.” Maybe they will, maybe they won’t.

And yeah, pushing boundaries is critical part of growing up. If you can keep kids pushing boundaries at the level of stuff like keeping their rooms clean and doing their chores, many won’t feel the need to push further. Roll over too early and kids will often find less safe activities to test you on.