This is complete BS, right? Pregnant at 48 after decades of trying

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Anonymous wrote:For all the people using the "my mother and grandmother had babies in their late 40s..." line of reasoning:

It was a cover.

When young unmarried women got knocked up, which were sometimes due to horrible things like rape or incest, older women would have "miracle babies."

It's 100% a thing

I saw my sibling come out oft mom when she was 47. It happens get over it

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Anonymous wrote:It's harmful to women to share unicorns fertility stories instead of sharing real facts and percentages of declining fertility rates in your 40s.

No it isn't. Get over yourself brunch grandma

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Perimenopause is a time of huge hormonal fluctuations. Among those fluctuations it is entirely possible for there to be periods of time when the woman’s body is very primed for healthy conception. But it is not a reliable enough phenomenon for perimenopause to be considered a reliably fertile time in a woman’s life.

This is not rocket science and I’m not sure why anyone is arguing the point. But yes, in some families in the past a teen daughter’s or niece’s unplanned pregnancy would be passed off as a late in life surprise baby of the mother/aunt. Nowadays families are far less likely to engage in such unhealthy deceptions over teen pregnancies.

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It's not likely, but possible. Change of life babies are a thing. My friend's parents tried for 10 years after he finished medical school and weren't able to have kids. They gave up and adopted my friend and his sister. When my friend and I were 15, his mom got pregnant and had a beautiful baby girl.

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Anonymous wrote:It's harmful to women to share unicorns fertility stories instead of sharing real facts and percentages of declining fertility rates in your 40s.

It's also very unhealthy to scrutinize someone who got pregnant with a change of life baby naturally and call her a liar who used fertility treatments. Don't be a bitter harpy

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Anonymous wrote:It's not likely, but possible. Change of life babies are a thing. My friend's parents tried for 10 years after he finished medical school and weren't able to have kids. They gave up and adopted my friend and his sister. When my friend and I were 15, his mom got pregnant and had a beautiful baby girl.

Adding. It definitely wasn't a cover. I saw his mom when she was pregnant. She was clearly pregnant. It was her baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so triggered by women having babies older? No one would bat an eyelash if this was a man

My beef isn't that she's pregnant, my beef is that she's lying about how she got pregnant. Again, perpetuating two things 1) using donor eggs is a dark stigma and 2) that women can naturally, easily get pregnant at 48 with their own eggs.

Now would a story about a woman who needed multiple rounds of IVF to get pregnant be perpetuating the myth that it’s natural and easy to get pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the people using the "my mother and grandmother had babies in their late 40s..." line of reasoning:

It was a cover.

When young unmarried women got knocked up, which were sometimes due to horrible things like rape or incest, older women would have "miracle babies."

It's 100% a thing

I saw my sibling come out oft mom when she was 47. It happens get over it

Those were usually women who had had several earlier babies. Unusual to give birth naturally to a healthy baby at 48.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so triggered by women having babies older? No one would bat an eyelash if this was a man

My beef isn't that she's pregnant, my beef is that she's lying about how she got pregnant. Again, perpetuating two things 1) using donor eggs is a dark stigma and 2) that women can naturally, easily get pregnant at 48 with their own eggs.

Now would a story about a woman who needed multiple rounds of IVF to get pregnant be perpetuating the myth that it’s natural and easy to get pregnant?

Exactly. This is a tale of suffering TO get pregnant not some big happy pregnancy success story.

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Anonymous wrote:It's harmful to women to share unicorns fertility stories instead of sharing real facts and percentages of declining fertility rates in your 40s.

Yes. I don't know why some posters harp on extremely rare cases of viable births in the late 40s range. One poster even called this "very common". They also do not understand the difference in probability between falling pregnancy and carrying to term; or between tech-assisted conception or natural conception.

It's stupidity on an absolutely mind-boggling scale. Are they also anti-vax? You can expect the worse from such people who can't even understand basic biology and math.

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falling pregnancy = becoming pregnant

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's harmful to women to share unicorns fertility stories instead of sharing real facts and percentages of declining fertility rates in your 40s.

Yes. I don't know why some posters harp on extremely rare cases of viable births in the late 40s range. One poster even called this "very common". They also do not understand the difference in probability between falling pregnancy and carrying to term; or between tech-assisted conception or natural conception.

It's stupidity on an absolutely mind-boggling scale. Are they also anti-vax? You can expect the worse from such people who can't even understand basic biology and math.

Or just a normal conversation with people sharing experiences and co cousins. You seem like someone angry about infertility- you’re right- not every woman actually knows the odds as very few women are tying to get pregnant at 48- but I’m another person who had two different aunts deliver healthy babies- one iat 48 and one at 52. I know the 52 YO (great) aunt wasn’t lying because though I was just a child when she died- I’ve seen the newspaper clipping and photos as she and a daughter delivered healthy baby boys the same weekend at the same hospital. Daughter was 27. It was 1966

[Anonymous]

It's possible for some but no one should expect that it will be possible for them.

[Anonymous]

The article didn’t really indicate how she got pregnant except for using the frozen sperm. She probably did use donor eggs but it didn’t say.

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Anonymous wrote:It's possible for some but no one should expect that it will be possible for them.

Do you think any women are “expecting” to get pregnant at 48? I don’t. PP is just pretty worked about about a non issue.

Like, okay fertility thought police.