This is complete BS, right? Pregnant at 48 after decades of trying

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Anonymous wrote:Seems the only place where women get pregnant after 44 naturally is the internet. 🛜

Lol. Sounds like a ‘you need to get out more’ problem to me. Ask your ob/gyn next time. Or your local Planned Parenthood.

I'm not that PP, but here's the thing: women who WANT to become pregnant at those ages are guaranteed heartbreak unless a miracle happens. It hasn't happened for me.

Also, you're not understanding the difference every year makes in your 40s. The chances of a natural, viable, pregnancy in your early 40s is slim but still possible. In your late 40s, it's not happening unless you're doing donor eggs and IVF, and even then, the chances are very low.

The story of someone's Grandma who had their last child at 48 before the days of IVF is the PROOF that it hardly ever happens. Because you can't cite anyone of that age whom you know personally, and who did this naturally without a younger egg and medical intervention.

The medical statistics are well-nigh impossible for anyone who is 48 and wants their own biological child. Don't kid yourself.

You'd have to look at the abortion rate for this group too to get a fuller picture. My gynecologist has said she sees it not that infrequently. 48 year olds with kids in college get pregnant thinking they can't, but many (most?) Of those people will not want to continue a pregnancy even if biologically feasible.

PP you replied to. They are offered pills to be able to time the miscarriage or abortion when it’s convenient, because most women work. But these pregnancies would most likely not have been viable anyway, so the number of live, non-IVF births past mid 40s that are actually prevented is negligible.

I had 5 miscarriages during my 40s and my OB suggested mifepristone each time, to make sure everything passed so I could then try again.

Women who don’t want these pregnancies aren’t going to wait around to see of they’re viable, but the truth is that in general they’re not.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so triggered by women having babies older? No one would bat an eyelash if this was a man

Because mothers and fathers are not the same. This is news to you?

Yes women feel more of a need to have kids but that need sometimes doesn't come naturally until you meet someone you love.

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I was accidentally pregnant at 46.5. Early miscarriage though. And very late menopause. So that theory tracks. (But lady in people magazine story, with that many miscarriages, almost certainly used someone else’s eggs or a frozen embryo from 10 years ago).

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Pre available birth control my grandmother and great grandmother's had kids up to the time they were in their mid 40s. They didn't necessarily want to.

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Anonymous wrote:Her father is dead; her mom has Parkinson’s, and needs care; her baby’s father has passed and may have a genetic brain tumor and she’s going to be close to 70 when kid starts college, leaving child alone in the world with possible inherited medical problems. How selfish. Why didn’t she adopt?!

I thought the same thing, PP. Why not adopt or even do foster care with an older child. To each her own but this sounds absolutely exhausting.

why do people suggest this? I have to assume they are ignorant.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so triggered by women having babies older? No one would bat an eyelash if this was a man

Because it challenges societal conditioning and norms.

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Anonymous wrote:https://people.com/woman-becomes-widow-38-pregnant-husbands-baby-10-years-later-11786129

This can't possibly be true, right? She has a history of at least 6 miscarriages and decades of trying. She's claiming she's using her own eggs at 48 and carrying to term? WTF?

My Aunt got pregnant at 47 naturally after acupuncture (not even trying, thought menopause). Her lovely daughter just married recently. Miracle beloved child.

My Grandmother had her last at 46 after which her uterus was removed. According to my Mom, she had lots of miscarriages between #4 and #5.

I agree that the rarity of this in their generation that was using zero birth control (because it wasn't available) shows how rare it really is.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so triggered by women having babies older? No one would bat an eyelash if this was a man

My beef isn't that she's pregnant, my beef is that she's lying about how she got pregnant. Again, perpetuating two things 1) using donor eggs is a dark stigma and 2) that women can naturally, easily get pregnant at 48 with their own eggs.

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Anonymous wrote:Pre available birth control my grandmother and great grandmother's had kids up to the time they were in their mid 40s. They didn't necessarily want to.

Yes, this was very common. I don’t know why people act like it’s a new thing.

My mom had my youngest sibling at 47. No help of any kind. She didn’t go through menopause until 50. My sib is now an adult & totally fine.

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I have a new neighbor with a child who is one year old and the second is 24 years old. They used multiple rounds of IVF to conceive and were told that they could not get pregnant again
She stopped using birth control and never got pregnant, stopped having periods around 40 and thought she was menopausal. Baby inadvertently conceived naturally and all is fine.

I know this only because she told everyone to explain the age difference.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people get so triggered by women having babies older? No one would bat an eyelash if this was a man

My beef isn't that she's pregnant, my beef is that she's lying about how she got pregnant. Again, perpetuating two things 1) using donor eggs is a dark stigma and 2) that women can naturally, easily get pregnant at 48 with their own eggs.

You don't know that she's lying.

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I was 45 (and had tons of miscarriages due to a genetic disorder called balanced cell translocation). Natural pregnancy, no interventions, healthy baby. A relative had her last at age 48, also completely natural, no issues. It happens.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a new neighbor with a child who is one year old and the second is 24 years old. They used multiple rounds of IVF to conceive and were told that they could not get pregnant again
She stopped using birth control and never got pregnant, stopped having periods around 40 and thought she was menopausal. Baby inadvertently conceived naturally and all is fine.

I know this only because she told everyone to explain the age difference.

It’s incredible how people will believe such a transparent lie.

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It's harmful to women to share unicorns fertility stories instead of sharing real facts and percentages of declining fertility rates in your 40s.

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For all the people using the "my mother and grandmother had babies in their late 40s..." line of reasoning:

It was a cover.

When young unmarried women got knocked up, which were sometimes due to horrible things like rape or incest, older women would have "miracle babies."

It's 100% a thing