Potential date blew it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He did that to get out of the situation. It wasn't what he was looking for and he knew that would be his out.

One would expect a mature person, who hasn't even went on one date with the woman, to be upfront rather than say something inappropriate. "Larla, I've enjoyed our conversations, but I don't see us as more than friends."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bullet dodged.

+1 What a werido

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think at your age it’s strange not to be honest and also strange to ditch a guy over 1 question.

I think at 67 it is strange for a man not to know a) that a 52 year old woman is likely in menopause or soon will be; and b) this is a wholly inappropriate question.

[Anonymous]

He asked the question to determine if he needed to spend his Social Security income on condoms. His limited income won’t support a child and he is likely to die before the child becomes an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Menopause is highly disruptive medical event.

Grow up. It is okay to talk about your period.

Do you understand what menopause is? It is not a “medical event” nor is it “highly disruptive.”

But I’m glad that men now have a new stereotype about women and dating.

20s - gold digger and dumb, stay away
30s - will try to trap you with a baby, stay away
40s - dried up and bitter, stay away
50s - menopausal and crazy, stay away

… so I guess that leaves women in their teens and 60s for you to date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He asked the question to determine if he needed to spend his Social Security income on condoms. His limited income won’t support a child and he is likely to die before the child becomes an adult.

Very logical thinking.

[Anonymous]

I guess it depends. Did the question come out of nowhere? If so, I would also have cancelled the date, just because it indicates poor social skills. However, if, for example, he asked after you mentioned always feeling abnormally warm at work or something similar, where it potentially made some sense, I probably would have done the one date to see how it went.

[Anonymous]

What is there to say? You didn't want to go and didn't think it was a fit, he seemed fine with that.

[Anonymous]

Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think at your age it’s strange not to be honest and also strange to ditch a guy over 1 question.

I think at 67 it is strange for a man not to know a) that a 52 year old woman is likely in menopause or soon will be; and b) this is a wholly inappropriate question.

Both of these. WTF?! I’d have been too stunned in the moment, but agree that the only appropriate response was to ask about ED or prostate issues.

Yuck.

[Anonymous]

This is just further proof that some men truly never grow up. They just get old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Menopause is highly disruptive medical event.

Grow up. It is okay to talk about your period.

Do you understand what menopause is? It is not a “medical event” nor is it “highly disruptive.”

But I’m glad that men now have a new stereotype about women and dating.

20s - gold digger and dumb, stay away
30s - will try to trap you with a baby, stay away
40s - dried up and bitter, stay away
50s - menopausal and crazy, stay away

… so I guess that leaves women in their teens and 60s for you to date?

That’s accurate 18-21 and 65-100 are prime dating years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you even accept a date with someone who is 67?!!!

I am 47. The last dates I had were 25, 28 and 36. All wanted more dates.

58 should be your limit.

He was so rude I can’t even believe it. You did the right thing. Date closer to your age or younger!

Unless you look like a super model if you are over 40 the men for you are 60+

This. Men, talking fit and healthy men, are always about 10-20 years younger looking for the same age than women.

I haven't found this to be the case when on dating apps. That said I am dating someone fit and healthy (as am I) that I met in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think at your age it’s strange not to be honest and also strange to ditch a guy over 1 question.

I think at 67 it is strange for a man not to know a) that a 52 year old woman is likely in menopause or soon will be; and b) this is a wholly inappropriate question.

Both of these. WTF?! I’d have been too stunned in the moment, but agree that the only appropriate response was to ask about ED or prostate issues.

Yuck.

And trust that more men in their 50s and beyond have ED than not.

[Anonymous]

If a potential date had asked me that question before we went out, my response would be "why do you ask?" I don't sleep with men on the first few dates - nothing against those who do, just not my thing.