Potential date blew it

[Anonymous]

Bullet dodged.

[Anonymous]

Well-done, OP. Agreed that there was no good intention on his end.

Men always think they are the prize.

Imagine if a woman asked a guy if he had ED? Or about his urine stream/post rate health?

[Anonymous]

⬆️ prostate

Not post rate

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you ask him why does he want to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you ask him why does he want to know?

DP. Does it matter? Is there any context where it isn’t super weird?

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Anonymous wrote:I (52) met a man (67) at a group activity involving a shared interest a month ago. We talked on the phone a few times and set up a date for next week. We were talking on the phone a few days ago and he asked me, "Are you menopausal?" We were just talking about general things when he asked that. I told him that was a personal question. I didn't tell him, but I still have regular cycles. I texted him the next day and informed him I was cancelling the date and I wish him well. He replied, "Got it." No question here, just wondering how others would respond.

He got his answer in spades sounds like.

Were you acting odd and that's why he asked? Or was he hoping you might still have a child?

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Anonymous wrote:He’s 67. If he hasn’t learned by now that he needs better social graces, he’s in rough shape.

+1

OP, that question might've shocked me and I might not have had the presence of mine to respond as you did, but if I had, that is exactly how I would have responded. That's a very personal question and completely inappropriate in a first conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:Well-done, OP. Agreed that there was no good intention on his end.

Men always think they are the prize.

Imagine if a woman asked a guy if he had ED? Or about his urine stream/post rate health?

You don't?
You can quickly tell if a man works down there by a little playful petting during a date, and it will be obvious enough.
Not so easy for men to know about women though. Not like they are going to ask for a gyno exam results on an early date.

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Anonymous wrote:I think at your age it’s strange not to be honest and also strange to ditch a guy over 1 question.

WTF?

[Anonymous]

It would be like asking a man his age if he has ED issues. Definitely too personal for a first date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's almost 70

He's in the wrong time of life for you

They are at about the same point in life biologically speaking.
Men are usually around 10-20 years behind women.

[Anonymous]

This question might have been OK if you were having a conversation about your sexy likes and dislikes etc. But if we are talking about the price of eggs and suddenly "are you menopausal" is tossed out, yeah. It feels like all the other was just filler for him, and now we are getting to what he really wants to know: can he f*** you.

I would have canceled too OP.

Also, not all women experience menopause the same way with the same symptoms. I am post-menopausal and have had very few symptoms, no change in libido or anything else. I only know I am post-meno because I haven't had a period in almost two years.

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I am in my 50s and would probably ask why he was asking. It could be it played a really big role in a previous relationship or some more well intentioned reason. It would still be an inappropriate question to me and a red flag but I would ask to understand the reason he was asking rather than assuming an intention. As someone who occasionally also says awkward things that come out wrong when nervous, I don’t like to completely rule people out based on one sentence without knowing more.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's almost 70

He's in the wrong time of life for you

They are at about the same point in life biologically speaking.
Men are usually around 10-20 years behind women.

Not physically, no.

[Anonymous]

Should have just said no, but you just caused me to dry up. And then hung up.