Adoption Not working

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two more years and she will be 18 and then you can cut all ties.

I wouldn’t blame a kid for being violent or hostile if this was the attitude shown by the “parents”. These are human beings not property that can be returned when you change your kind wtf.

[Anonymous]

I was under the impression that adoption agencies do a good job in educating and evaluating families that want to adopt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was under the impression that adoption agencies do a good job in educating and evaluating families that want to adopt.

Even with education, I think some experiences are too extreme that you just can’t imagine what it’s like or that it could happen to you. I mean people who know all of the horrible things that can happen to a biological child still go on to procreate because the desire outweighs the risk and they don’t believe it will happen to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was under the impression that adoption agencies do a good job in educating and evaluating families that want to adopt.

Even with education, I think some experiences are too extreme that you just can’t imagine what it’s like or that it could happen to you. I mean people who know all of the horrible things that can happen to a biological child still go on to procreate because the desire outweighs the risk and they don’t believe it will happen to them.

This family has had the children for 10 years. There must be some abuse going on if an 11 year old starts to run away.


Your analogy is weak. In adoption a child gets a better home.
I would bet that it could even be that the adoptive parents failed to bond with the kids, not RAD

[Anonymous]

Am I understanding this correctly. A couple adopted 2 kids, 5 and 6 years old. Now 10 years later the kids are teenagers and the adoptive parents want out?

Bad teenagers are the result of bad parenting, not the fault of the adoption or the child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t thoroughly read every post but I didn’t see fetal alcohol syndrome mentioned. The child may not have experienced abuse but alcohol or drug exposure (not always obvious) can cause learning disabilities when young but severe behavior issues (physical and sexual) in the teen years.

I know several families who experienced this. Treatment differs from RAD and there are specialists who treat teens (can’t recall the name of a well known doctor in DMV).

Good luck!

THIS. One of my colleague friends adopted a "sweet" little boy from Russia who ended up as a sexual deviant when he became a teen. He was kicked out of regular public school and alternative schools so they had to home school him (and dad quit his job.)

No abuse from parents who are wonderful, loving people but they have no clue what happened in the orphanage. Boy was eventually diagnosed with exposure to alcohol. Parents suspected fetal alcohol when he was a child because he was a slow learner but they were not equipped for his teen deviant years! They connected with Russian adoptive parents with similar experiences and eventually traveled to get him expert help and counseling. Rough times for one of the nicest couples we know.