College freshman home for summer - with no job

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is tougher than expected to find a typical teen summer job this year.

But my teen is Door Dashing and babysitting. It adds up!

[Anonymous]

Maybe agree to a project they will do: in the house, or volunteer or art or an online class. Just some structure or productivity to the day.

[Anonymous]

Op- any update?

[Anonymous]

maybe ask them to look into an internship or look to find something that interests them?

[Anonymous]

I think you should chill out and let them rest. I didn’t work for most of my college summers and had no issues starting my career upon graduation.

[Anonymous]

Think of remote type jobs. Does he have any talent? Could he teach in out school? Pet sit?


If no jobs come to fruition his work is to work on job applications for fall positions and do the cooking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it. Kid came home. Unfortunately they got mono at the end of the semester, and had a physical injury all semester that hindered their ability to particpate in campus life. It was no doubt tough.

Now, however, they are home. Sleeping in til 1 pm. Says waking up is difficult (with mono) but seems to feel totally fine during the day and says as much. Can't be on their feet all day though with the injury, and sitting can be bothersome if the chair is not comfortable.

We have encouraged them to apply for a job. They say they have but they get no callbacks. They don't do the PT needed to recover from the injury. But they complain about it.

I'm kind of at my wit's end. They have cash leftover from what they saved last summer. I'm not sure I can last another 10 weeks. DH suggested paying them to be a housekeeper but I am not taking on the job of being an employer too. Nor do I want that role with my kid.

Any suggestions? I am so frustrated. This is not what we tried to teach growing up.

Has your kid ever had any kind of job, such as working in a retail store or as a lifeguard? If they have not had a job they will need guidance about how to apply. Alternatively you can drive kid to a place -Wegman's for example- and tell them to go inside to the service desk and request a job application.

A lot of colleges have job centers but the employment center is not mandatory. So the kids end up not getting any practical job tips from their school.

[Anonymous]

Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

+ 1 on the bolded.
The crazy sleeping hours are disrespectful to the people in the house working and making it possible for him to go to college.
Unless he is paying his own health insurance and costs, PT is not optional.
And an adult living at home should contribute to the running of the household.
Beyond that, he should come up with a plan of how to spend his summer constructively. His spending money is his problem, you can stay out of that. But you presumably have invested a large amount of money in tuition, so I think it's fair to ask that he have something to show for the summer. Volunteer, class, casual work, some other kind of project.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

+ 1 on the bolded.
The crazy sleeping hours are disrespectful to the people in the house working and making it possible for him to go to college.
Unless he is paying his own health insurance and costs, PT is not optional.
And an adult living at home should contribute to the running of the household.
Beyond that, he should come up with a plan of how to spend his summer constructively. His spending money is his problem, you can stay out of that. But you presumably have invested a large amount of money in tuition, so I think it's fair to ask that he have something to show for the summer. Volunteer, class, casual work, some other kind of project.

OP here - thanks for this. It has helped me really shape how I am thinking about this. I am going to suggest volunteering in lieu of a paying job for a minimum of 20 hours a week

[Anonymous]

I hired my dc as a home manager this summer. Has two months of nothing to do. Win win for everybody! I get household help and sc gets money. Bonus points for dc understanding the time it takes to do household chores including cooking. Great life skills learned

[Anonymous]

Be kind. He needs to recover. I m happy you are not my Mom!

[Anonymous]

Your kid is recovering from mono. And also some people need to do research on the circadian rhythms of young people. They naturally stay up later and sleep later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's my $0.02 on this situation.

1) Crazy sleeping hours need to change. While I realize that they may have kept those hours when at school, it should no longer fly or not be an everyday thing.
2) Need to do the PT. It's been assigned for a reason.
3) Help around the house, unpaid as others have stated. Give him a list to do. Empty DW, change laundry, vacuum.

My DS, same age, had a really crappy end to his freshman year that resulted in a ton of angst and anxiety for us a parents. He came home from school in a pretty crappy place and was not himself.

He luckily has continued to work at his HS job over breaks and is back again there this summer. Shift starts as early as 6:30 AM. That routine and his HS buddies coming back in town have really helped to him on the right side of things. He also is going to take a Gen Ed class at the local CC.

Good Luck!

+ 1 on the bolded.
The crazy sleeping hours are disrespectful to the people in the house working and making it possible for him to go to college.
Unless he is paying his own health insurance and costs, PT is not optional.
And an adult living at home should contribute to the running of the household.
Beyond that, he should come up with a plan of how to spend his summer constructively. His spending money is his problem, you can stay out of that. But you presumably have invested a large amount of money in tuition, so I think it's fair to ask that he have something to show for the summer. Volunteer, class, casual work, some other kind of project.

What is disrespectful about sleeping later? You sound insane

[Anonymous]

Have you ever had mono? Had it between my freshman and sophomore year and if I could be awake for 5 hours a day it was a miracle. Let your kid recover and rest.