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Or schools that are actually serious about attracting kids from these families could do more effective outreach. |
What you value is not necessarily what schools value. What we should value and reality are two different things. Get involved in a school with similar values to yours and tweak the existing model. Otherwise, you run the risk of all the DCUM whiners, whining into the void and not taking concrete steps to make a positive change. (Like all the people and companies silent the DEI initiatives and women's rights are disappearing). |
Agree with your assessment …. About your posts . This is what you initially posted : “ It shows your inability to think and form a real opinion.” |
In five pages of posts, how many times have the arts been mentioned? How many times for athletics? Mmm hmm. |
DCUM Karen ☝️ |
How do you know? Kids don't "look poor" enough? My family is a FA family. I was a first gen college student and spouse was a military brat. We have solidly MC jobs. We can't afford the horse lessons, European trips, or au pairs and cleaners that classmates have. But we do take domestic vacations, own a home, and pay for music lessons. Kid has new shoes. There's nothing you would see in the carpool line, other than an older model car, that would tell you our situation. |
Most schools don't say they value this. They say they value rounded student bodies, and most do.... they just chop of the bottom 10-20% of society to make the rest round. If you look closely they aren't hiding this fact. I asked some direct questions about this at campus visits and they are actually quite open and honest about it. Some admin directors are a bit sheepish, but most have solid responses when asked directly. |
THIS. |
Please let us know to which school your kid goes so families that need financial aid do not apply there. |
Of course! I do not want my kids to mingle with poor children. |
And the older model car is meaningless. I own 3 homes, am 1% in wealth and income, and my Subaru is 15 years old. I agree there is nothing outward to notice. Even parties - we host lavish ones - our dear friends with twice the income have literally never hosted anything more than the infrequent playdate. It's just not a priority for them. |
I am not talking about you, but about my kids school. No low income families. I come from a low income family and I know about this. |
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If you don't want to support the financial aid program, don't restrict your gift to that fund or buy tickets to your school's financial aid fundraiser. Give to the annual fund, which is used to support all programs more generally. (Yes, including FA, but no annual fund at any school is big enough to underwrite the full cost of FA. It goes to the general operating budget.)
About 15 years ago, I was curious about a family that drove a Mercedes but who I thought might receive FA. Over the years, I got to know them well enough to visit their (2-bedroom apt) home, meet their family (who lived in that foreign destination and therefore hosted them on those trips), and heard the husband talk about rebuilding an almost-totaled used car himself so that he could fulfill his wife's wish to drive a Mercedes so that her kids might look like they "fit in" at drop-off. Some families want to look like they have more than they do around school - for the sake of their kids who otherwise can feel like charity cases. Don't judge, OP. Trust that your school knows a lot more than you do. |
I see harvards decision of providing full fee tuition to low income families and I think it’s a good example to follow by private schools. |
DP. If you’re going to use such an outdated pejorative, at least use it correctly. So lazy. |