Wife sweating issues

[Anonymous]

OP there are some good ideas in this thread. Mine is to add a capful of eucalyptus oil into the laundry. You can tell her its for your sweaty gym clothes if you want. This oil will kill all odors. Sometimes regular laundry detergent does not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How in the world has no one on dcum- which is typically a highly educated population- told this guy that it's biological. Mothers smell changes and/or becomes stronger during the infant phase because new babies have poor eyesight and the smell can help them identify their mother.

This. And there’s a good chance she’s repulsed by your natural scents, too, OP. This is nature’s way of preventing another pregnancy too soon.

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Anonymous wrote:Have her habits changed, maybe due to being busier with 2 kids? Like not showering as often, rewearing clothes when she would not normally (like just throwing the same sweatshirt on without thinking), not washing towels or sheets as often etc? Things can get a bit hectic? Sometimes a 13 week old is more work than a newborn (not sleeping as much, more fussiness etc)…at least that was the case for my babies.

She showers twice a day. I pitch in a lot to make sure she gets that time to shower. We do laundry regularly and she changes clothes each shower and at night. She sweats through both sets of sheets at night. The sweating really only happens at night. The Bo comes on in the evening and during the night.

Her doctor said breastfeeding and hormones are the reason and it should eventually resolve.

Our 13 week old is a typical baby but actually sleeps really well at night. Like he’s doing 4+ hours at a time. Naps aren’t the best but we have a sitter that helps a couple of times a week. Our toddler sleeps 12 hours and hardly ever wakes up at night. He is in FT daycare.

Then WTF do you want to talk to her about? There's nothing anyone can do at this point. Why do you want to constantly bring up you're not attracted to her for something that isn't her fault and is the result of her carrying, birthing and feeding YOUR child??

Are you planning on asking her for an open marriage so you can sleep with someone who isn't sweaty? Like really what is the point of bringing it up over and over again?

This. 💯

[Anonymous]

If she’s giving you the ick, your best defense is a good offense. Just get this card for your wallet:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she’s giving you the ick, your best defense is a good offense. Just get this card for your wallet:

😩😫

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is she bathing daily? If not, could it possibly be postpartum depression?

She showers twice a day - morning and night. Wears deodorant and does basic hygiene. She has tried witch hazel to combat smells but it hasn’t helped.

The doctor told her this will go away. It’s all hormones.

This is your answer. It sounds like she's doing everything reasonable possible. Maybe some deodorant lotion like Lume that works by keeping bacteria from growing rather than masking the smell. Maybe a ceiling fan in your bedroom if you don't already have one so she's more comfortable. 13 weeks is still pretty early but she'll be past this phase soon.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you taking about?

My wife has some hormone issues that she didn’t have with our the first. She had dealt with body odor and excessive sweating after having our second child. I would like to politely broach the subject but I don’t know how without hurting her.

What is your diet? Are you white?

I’m not sure why our ethnicity matters but yes lol

Our diet is mostly healthy. We eat really healthy a good chunk of the time but we also enjoy less healthy options in moderation.

I'm SMH at your response because EVERYBODY will say exactly the same thing - we only eat poorly "in moderation" but that is so indefinable to be useless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife had our second and has had some very unexpected issues like sweating and odor. It's really interfering with our marriage. How do I go about talking to her and not hurting her feelings?

Oh just STFU. it’s miserable for your wife. You are an ass.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she bathing daily? If not, could it possibly be postpartum depression?

She showers twice a day - morning and night. Wears deodorant and does basic hygiene. She has tried witch hazel to combat smells but it hasn’t helped.

The doctor told her this will go away. It’s all hormones.

Then for the love of god and all that is unholy wait it out. WAIT. IT. OUT.

[Anonymous]

I hope you talk to her about it. I hope that when you do, she realizes what a selfish, self-centering creep you are. I hope that she showers less, skips deodorant, and becomes as rank as she can stand herself to be in protest, just so you'll stay the hell off her.

You don't deserve the kids she gave you, and you definitely don't deserve her. What an AH.

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Anonymous wrote:Ew. Has she seen a Dr?

Yes. Her doctor told her some women experience postpartum sweating and body odor. It’s nothing she is doing wrong.

So what do you want her to do about it? What solution do you propose? If it’s hormonal out your big boy pants on and wait it out. Your boner will be back soon enough.

+1. It will go away. What else do you think she can do about it now? She’s clearly aware of it. Why cause problems bringing it up?

This. She is aware of it, she is working on it, she knows it is a problem. There is NOTHING for you to bring up. It will go away. This happened to me with both kids, but more so the second. I don't think it last 13 weeks, but it may have been about that. Things will level off soon. Is she breastfeeding? And if so, do you know how long she plans to continue? I think you just need ot deal. Some med are grossed out by the look of their pregnant wives' bodies, some are grossed out by witnessing a vaginal birth, some are grossed out by normal post-partum stuff. Grow up and get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had really bad night sweats for a few months after my second and third babies. Waking up, drenched in sweat and having to change my clothes and sometimes change the sheets in the middle of the night. I consulted my doctor and there was really nothing I could do except wait it out. I imagine your wife is also self-conscious about it. You note she is taking two showers- I remember doing the same. You could sleep in a separate bed for the time being if that would be a solution for you guys. You can note that she is just sleeping so hot these days, rather than make it about how she smells.

+1

Night sweats are a textbook postpartum symptom. I had them for months after birth (though they decreased in occurrence).

[Anonymous]

Hormones ffs. It’ll pass

[Anonymous]

It's all hormones OP. There is not much she can do besides what she is already doing.

It's like being a teenager or going into menopause.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is she bathing daily? If not, could it possibly be postpartum depression?

She showers twice a day - morning and night. Wears deodorant and does basic hygiene. She has tried witch hazel to combat smells but it hasn’t helped.

The doctor told her this will go away. It’s all hormones.

So what exactly are you hoping to achieve?
Women sweat like crazy post partum. Its part of how the post-partum period works.