Wife sweating issues

[Anonymous]

Considering all of what you’ve shared .. Let it go.
All steps have been taken .. Give it some time.. Revisit later maybe if she brings it up.

[Anonymous]

So what are you hoping to accomplish by telling her that she smells? It sounds like she knows.

[Anonymous]

Have her take a epsom salt/lavender soak.

[Anonymous]

She needs to consult her doctor, OP. You need to suggest that. There are actual medical disorders that include excessive sweating, so this is perfectly legitimate.

[Anonymous]

Can she sleep in another bed where the sheets can be changed more easily? If this were me, I would get a roll up mattress for the floor and sleep on it. We have a really comfortable foam one.
1- it would be easier to clean the sheets every day
2- the floor may be cooler and
3- she can get a floor fan to help cool her off

OP- this is one of the worse parts of for better or worse. Try some solutions to help her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have her habits changed, maybe due to being busier with 2 kids? Like not showering as often, rewearing clothes when she would not normally (like just throwing the same sweatshirt on without thinking), not washing towels or sheets as often etc? Things can get a bit hectic? Sometimes a 13 week old is more work than a newborn (not sleeping as much, more fussiness etc)…at least that was the case for my babies.

She showers twice a day. I pitch in a lot to make sure she gets that time to shower. We do laundry regularly and she changes clothes each shower and at night. She sweats through both sets of sheets at night. The sweating really only happens at night. The Bo comes on in the evening and during the night.

Her doctor said breastfeeding and hormones are the reason and it should eventually resolve.

Our 13 week old is a typical baby but actually sleeps really well at night. Like he’s doing 4+ hours at a time. Naps aren’t the best but we have a sitter that helps a couple of times a week. Our toddler sleeps 12 hours and hardly ever wakes up at night. He is in FT daycare.

Then WTF do you want to talk to her about? There's nothing anyone can do at this point. Why do you want to constantly bring up you're not attracted to her for something that isn't her fault and is the result of her carrying, birthing and feeding YOUR child??

Are you planning on asking her for an open marriage so you can sleep with someone who isn't sweaty? Like really what is the point of bringing it up over and over again?

[Anonymous]

She is doing all she can, and it will go away since it’s hormonal. Knowing that, if it’s still “interfering with your marriage” that’s a you problem. You need to think about the long game and be patient. Think about how stinky your old man balls are gonna be.

[Anonymous]

I had really bad night sweats for a few months after my second and third babies. Waking up, drenched in sweat and having to change my clothes and sometimes change the sheets in the middle of the night. I consulted my doctor and there was really nothing I could do except wait it out. I imagine your wife is also self-conscious about it. You note she is taking two showers- I remember doing the same. You could sleep in a separate bed for the time being if that would be a solution for you guys. You can note that she is just sleeping so hot these days, rather than make it about how she smells.

[Anonymous]

Guess what OP--with a 3 month old and a toddler she doesn't care. She doesn't want to have sex with you either and she doesn't want to do more laundry or waste time showering multiple times a day when she could be getting something done or sleeping. Check yourself.

[Anonymous]

She might try some cornstarch-based body powder. I like scented baby powder. You can try putting some Vicks vapor rub under your nose at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are married to her and do not know how to talk to her about sensitive issues?

I try to be very polite. I was raised a gentleman. It’s a sensitive and I don’t want to damage her self image or our marriage.

Well, that ship has sailed. If it is "really interfering" with your marriage, you've made her feel bad.

[Anonymous]

If she’s already discussed it with her doctor what do you hope to accomplish by talking to her about it? What solution do you have that her doctor didn’t?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She needs to consult her doctor, OP. You need to suggest that. There are actual medical disorders that include excessive sweating, so this is perfectly legitimate.

So is reading the thread before responding 🙄🙄

[Anonymous]

Does she smell below the belt? Pheromones?

[Anonymous]

She could have a fungal infection.