S/o: worst meal to bring a friend
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Anonymous
| This post is making me think of my mother, who passed a few years ago. I am one of 8 kids and whenever a new baby was arriving my mother would roast a turkey breast. As soon as we went into labor she would start cooking. It was great because you could make sandwiches and pick at it for days. |
Anonymous
| No one has ever made/brought me a meal. I would eat anything! |
Anonymous
Not pp, but you're an ass. |
Anonymous
Same here. I had premies and was stunned by my bil and his skeevy wife calling us on labor day to tell us they were on the way to our house since we had always hosted that day. We had been at the hospital with one infant the entire night before. We have no problem telling people to get lost. |
Anonymous
This. Mom of premature twins. I had a crazy neighbor who put fish in everything. When I came home from the hospital with one of my kids, she sent over a plate of fish that smelled so bad it made both dh and I nauseaus. If I can smell the fish from across the street, you shouldn't be gifting it to anyone. |
Anonymous
As I've gotten older, I've become a bit more grossed out about other people's cooking. I realized at one point, I've seen too many gross things when my friends cook that I just can't. We're all well raised and college educated but a lot of people seem to know very little about food safety or are just straight out gross. Like the neighbor who expected us to tolerate her cats on the dinner table eating the cheese of the plate of appetizers she set out. She's a Georgetown grad with a big firm lawyer husband and a nice looking house from the outside but their house is gross. |
Anonymous
| I've never had a bad meal from these things, but maybe that's because my favorite food is pizza and I will eat any pizza so if people ask I say pizza. I also rarely eat pizza under normal non-stressful situations so it always tastes good. |
Anonymous
You aren't entitled to someone else's time and energy and money. If you want a certain kind if food, make it yourself or pay someone to prepare it for you. If you want to participate in a meal train, assume that not everything people send will be something you love or even like. It's likely her family just has different standards/parameters for food. You say thank you, graciously, and then toss it. That's how meal trains go. Thus thread reminds me of the recent thread on how everyone laments there's no village anymore, but parents today don't actually want the village. This is a perfect example. Someone prepared a meal for you (yes, they did, I don't care how subpart you think it was, that woman thought of, shopped for, and assembled a meal for your family) but you're mad because it's not good enough, not what you'd feed your family, not reflective of your values and social class. Well that's your village. Take it or leave it. She doesn't work for you, she's just trying to help you out. |
Anonymous
| The midwestern casseroles were the worst. Overcooked, under seasoned meat. Random, sometimes strongly flavored things like pickle slices, olives, and raisins in oddly sweet creamy sauces. And then, on top, things that had been crunchy once like Fritos, ritz crackers, potato chips, or pretzels, but got soggy from steaming under a the plastic life |
Anonymous
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Meal trains don't work in a culture where so many people have food restrictions and where eating and food are so politicized. Forty or fifty years ago, everyone made the same thing for this situation-- some kind of casserole. Very few families with kids were vegetarian or vegan, and there was a lot less delineation in the market regarding food health and quality (no Whole Foods, no organic anything, no debates over hormones, additives, processed food, etc.). Whether you were working class, middle class, or professional class, you'd make a lasagna and the recipient would thank you graciously.
That doesn't work now. People think casseroles are low class, too heavy. Don't eat meat or bread. Watching their salt intake. What food would be universally acceptable now? That makes sense to transport and would keep for a bit in the freezer if need be? There isn't one. Shut it down. |
Anonymous
I am really surprised they gave you negative feedback after bringing them a meal. I mean if you invited them over would they have said "Thanks for inviting us. We found the food fairly salty and our preschooler would not touch it". No! |
Anonymous
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My cherished and very generous grandmother participated in meal trains through our church well into her 80s. She was a great cook. I once went with her to deliver a meal to a family with 3 kids and a brand new fourth baby. I thought what she prepared looked just fine. It’s been a long time but I definitely remember baked chicken legs and a salad with lots of carrots and cucumbers, and a German chocolate cake. That family actually called the church and complained the meal was not good and that they had no choice but to end up ordering pizza.
They don’t have to like what an 85 year old nana brings to their home. But have some grace and tact! |
Anonymous
Anything from someone's home kitchen is getting immediately disposed of in my house. So nasty. |
Anonymous
Genuine questions for those of you who feel this way – Do you never go to dinner parties at anyone else’s home? Or do you only attend if they are catered, and then how do you ascertain that before you RSVP in the affirmative or negative? Or is it that you’re OK with a dinner party because you can see the food being made and the cleanliness of the house? And if that’s the case, would you accept food delivered to your house from the kitchen of someone who had made it at their house where you had Previously attended a dinner party, and deemed heir cleanliness acceptable? |
Anonymous
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I’m not a fan of participating in meal trains as a giver or receiver. It’s a lot of pressure to cook a meal for someone else, especially when you’re trying to make it something easy to deliver, reheat and that will appeal to the whole family.
My family is full of picky eaters and it’s easier for us and preferable to either pick something up or order something than coordinate a time to meet someone dropping food off that there’s little chance we’ll all eat. |